My daughter has had an eating disorder for the past 1-2 years. It started out as over-exercising and losing her period, and increased to severely limiting her food intake, binging, and worsening the over-exercising. She was slim, but she was not visibly boney or underweight, so she didn't "appear" anorexic. She looked healthy. She did get sick a lot and still had loss of her period. A few months ago one of her friend's mothers called me concerned about a text my daughter sent, talking of cutting and suicide, so we took her to a psychiatrist. After only a few sessions things were getting worse. The therapist ended up bringing out more problems and caused a greater rift between us, deepening her depression. Plus he was very strange (he claimed to be a guru, pressured her to be Facebook friends with him, etc.) so we stopped going. We live in a small town and there are no eating disorder specialists within driving distance. Any therapy would most likely involve medication which is not an option for us, especially since my daughter shows signs of potential addiction.
Now she is attempting self-recovery which involves over-eating and no exercise. She now eats constantly. It is healthy food, though some of it is higher in calories with cheeses and creams, but she says it is necessary to recover lost calories. I'm worried that she is going in the opposite direction which will lead her to spiral right back into the eating disorder. I expressed my concern and offered to exercise with her so she doesn't overdo it, just to keep the endorphins flowing and her mind and body healthy. She got mad, shut me out, and told me I just don't get it. The truth is, I had bulimia when I was her age so I do remember what it felt like to feel helpless, self-absorbed, overwhelmed and alone.
Right now, because it is Summer break, she is on her laptop all day until late at night. Luckily we went on vacation so there is only a month left of break. But what she is doing now is clearly not healthy for her mind and body. She says she gets her support online and from her best friend. I believe she is getting her help from a Tumblr group.
Any help or advice is appreciated.