I'm new to this forum. I just found out a few weeks ago that I'm expecting my first. I have spent the last few years working with birth and pregnancy in many capacities - as a midwifery apprentice, a doula and on a birth magazine, but being pregnant already feels much different than I thought it would! While I'm happy, the feeling is tempered by life's stresses and fears around being a parent.
My partner and I have a great relationship and we love each other dearly, but the timing of this pregnancy isn't ideal. I got divorced a little over a year ago and he's going through a divorce process right now involving sorting out the custody arrangement of his two young children (6 and 7) from his previous relationship. We just moved to a new city to be close to his kids (his ex moved away with them when they split up) and we originally decided that we should live apart for the first six months to give the kids time to adjust to someone new in their lives. We found out about the pregnancy just four days before moving to the new city and now things are a little more complicated.
Our original idea was to take our time with me meeting and getting to know his kids and not spring anything on his ex so she wouldn't be disagreeable during the divorce process. She knows that he and I are together, but I still haven't met his kids and she prefers that I not until the divorce is finalized. Anyway, without getting into all the dramatic details, we're still looking at living apart until the divorce is finalized, which could be another two or three months. I'll be heading into my second trimester around then. I never imagined that I'd live alone while pregnant. I know lots of women do it and I find myself thinking of all the mothers I know who have lived alone during pregnancy - from my single mother friends who ran from abuse when they found out they were expecting, to a friend who spent the first six months of her pregnancy alone while her partner was in jail. I have a supportive partner who I see a lot. We spend the night together when he doesn't have his kids. He cooks for me, he loves me, he asks me how I'm feeling and makes me morning sickness tea. He's committed to me having a happy pregnancy despite the circumstances.
I'm not looking for advice, I'm just looking for support. I'm pregnant, living in a new city where I don't know anyone and I'm navigating through a complicated situation. I know I can do it - I know I can pull through. It's just nice to have others to help encourage me along the way.