Have you ever told anyone this?
Have you ever told anyone this?
Well, I know I am in the minority, but I have chronic low supply/possible IGT, and breastfeeding is NOT easy. I have never been able to ebf and honestly straight formula feeding would be easier than everything I've done to work on my supply to keep BFing plus supplementing with bottles. With that said I absolutely feel that it's worth the effort, but I get annoyed when I hear the standard BFing is easier/cheaper arguments.
If asked I've always just said what a positive experience it's been for me. And I've always joked that there's no need to "pack" food for a baby when I carry it on me 24/7 ;-) Definitely made for one less thing to worry about bringing with us places. Had I stayed with my previous job once my maternity ended I can say with 100% certainty I wouldn't have made it this far and still be going at 20mos bc they just were not a family oriented place with a chaotic shedule subject to change at any minute - being out in a car all day doesn't lend itself to easy pumping either. So we're lucky DH does what he does for work and have made it work with me only doing part time.
DS never had formula, so I honestly don't know how easy or difficult formula feeding is. If someone was interested though, I would share that breastfeeding was not much of a big deal, easier than I thought it would be. It's been easy enough that I'm still nursing him at 26 months and want to do tandem nursing!
For us, formula would have been easier, but not as rewarding.
With IGT, I've dealt with chronic low supply from the get-go. DD also had a posterior tongue tie, which made the first few months really rough. Our breastfeeding relationship included nursing, pumping, bottle feeding, herbs, acupuncture, prescription drugs, blahblahblah.
I imagine that with a full supply, BFing would be a LOT easier- no bottles to sterilize! For those moms who pump, though, BFing is probably more time consuming than FF.
In my experience so far I would say it has been easier... BUT... I had crappy lactation consultant after birth, and small cracks that were excrutiating considering how tiny they were. I had tried laying out topless and putting lanolin on in advance and all this stuff to supposedly help toughen them up beforehand, but none of it worked and the lanolin certainly didn't work afterwards. I would cry and cry while she nursed. What ended up healing my nipples was my own breastmilk. Around 7 weeks, they leaked after I got out of the shower and I was busy running around with a wet shirt for a bit, and realised all of the sudden they didn't hurt. After that I would deliberately leave the milk whenever I had a leak. I was at home, so it was no big deal. Within a week and a half or so they were fine and I never had another crack.
I used to joke that before birth, I intended to breastfeed for one year. After birth, I hoped to breastfeed the next feeding, then the next day, then the next week... Until the big healing around 7-8 weeks. Then at 11 months, I hoped to make it one more month, then we just kept going. I saw various stuff that recommended 2 years so I just said if we make it okay, if we don't okay. She ended up self-weaning after more than 3 1/2 years... 1,337 days to be specific. Which I fully intend to never let her forget. <insert evil cackle here>
With this baby, I expect to sweat it a lot less and intend to self-wean whenever it works out, but hopefully not longer than it took the first one.
The one thing I would want to point out as nicely as possible is that doing what's best for your child's health and life-long well-being is not necessarily about what is easy. For people who are blessed to be able to provide their children with breastmilk I couldn't relate to saying, "Eh, formula seems easier. Let's do that." It probably happens. I just can't relate to it myself. There are women who have oversupply who donate and sell breastmilk so formula isn't the only alternative if someone can't breastfeed themselves. It's a consideration.
If a friend of mine and I are discussing it, I will mention how I never had to get up during the night with my babies because they slept in the bed with me and all I had to do was roll over, lift my t-shirt and latch them on, no getting up to get a bottle, or give the baby the bottle. I tell them how I never had to worry about planning (which I'm terrible at) whenever we were going to go somewhere because there is no need to figure out how many bottles to take, etc when you always have your breasts with you :) I tell them how non-stinky exclusively breastfed babies poopy diapers are. There are many perks people just don't talk about, but I think more moms should because there are certainly a lot of people out there saying how "time-consuming" and "hard" nursing is, its nice to present an alternative experience. I loved nursing and would hate for anyone to not even give it a good go because they think its hard.
Breastfeeding is quite easy--you just pop the kid on the boob. The food is premixed, prewarmed, and its receptacle is always clean. It's super cheap and nutritionally perfect, and it's impossible to overfeed them because their hunger pangs are calibrated to breastmilk. They cry, you feed them: no counting ounces, no looking at the clock, nothing. The first six months before solids, I never had to worry once about what he was eating, not once. And yes, I did tell other parents it was easy.
I feel like all parents hear is how hard it is these days. That's all I heard.
No. I prefer not to lie to anyone.
I say that pro and cons to everything. The first six weeks of BF were hell for me and if I did not have a good supply, I would have quit . Other than supply I had every problem imaginable.
Breastfeeding is harder if one work and really hard if one travels. I had an awesome pump but still, it was a pain. If I had job that required me to travel for 1-2-3-4 weeks, I would not be BF.
On other hand, once we got hang of it , it was easier I think because I did not have to shop for formula or warm up bottles at night.