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What hurts more than childbirth? - Page 3post #41 of 577/19/13 at 4:00pmThread Starterpost #42 of 577/19/13 at 7:19pmQuote:
I'm inclined to agree with this. I've only really had one ear infection in my life, but it progressed from "Oh, my ear hurts a little, that's odd" to spontaneous eardrum rupture in under 12 hours. HORRIBLE pain. I had whole new sympathy for little kids who get ear infections all the time after that.post #43 of 577/20/13 at 2:25pmpost #44 of 577/20/13 at 3:55pmQuote:
Yikes!!! I didn't even know that could happen!
I threw my back out a couple times really bad, the last time just a few weeks ago and I am pregnant. AWFUL. I had bad back labor with my first and it was easier than the pain I was experiencing.post #45 of 577/20/13 at 6:21pmpost #46 of 577/20/13 at 8:09pmpost #47 of 577/21/13 at 7:16pmpost #48 of 577/25/13 at 5:11pmpost #49 of 578/2/13 at 7:37am
This is going to really piss off some people, but even my mom who gave birth completely drug free, agrees:
When you bend an acrylic finger nail really, really hard, bordering on tearing off the nail underneath. It throbs for a looooong time and hurts for a few days after that. And yet, my stupid a$$ would go back for more acrylics. It's much more painful than tearing the actual nail, I'm guessing partly because of the weight of the acrylic as the blood flows to the injured area.
That is the worst pain I have felt; no surgery, infection, or injury has come close.
ETA: There mere thought of great harm coming to my son is so terrifying and painful that I have broken down dizzy, shuddering, and sobbing a few time times just edging an intrustive thought, reading bad news that has happened to other children,or seeing him almost have an accident. Emotional anguish is definitely incomparable to physical pain in most ways. I initially thought it was hormones to feel this afraid, but much to my shock the fear has only increased as he has gotten older.
Human beings have an amazing capacity to heal, and thank goodness we do because our families and other children need us to.
I wanted to add that I was sexually assaulted at 15 years old. This physical pain, humiliation, terror, and continued suffering is beyond really intellectualizing, but still is nothing compared to the fear of harm coming to my son.
Edited by demeter888 - 8/2/13 at 8:16ampost #50 of 578/2/13 at 7:41ampost #51 of 578/2/13 at 7:52ampost #52 of 578/2/13 at 7:57am
I have had 2 C-sections so from that perspective, the worst physical pain I have ever endured was for a surgery. It was worse than 2 C-section recoveries. I had a breast mass (benign) removed a few years ago. They had to "mark" the mass first before the surgery. The morning of, I had to report to the radiology department before pre-op to get this done. They brought me into a room and set me up in a mammography machine. They visualized the mass then stuck a quite wide needle into the side of my boob all the way through to where the mass was located (just my luck, in the middle), and then inserted it into the mass. I have a high tolerance for pain, but this was no joke. I had no anesthesia, no numbing medicine... nothing. I was crying it hurt so bad... I never do that. To make matters worse, I was hungry/thirsty because I had to be NPO after midnight and was nervous about the status of the mass, etc. So with that situation and the pain, I passed out while sitting up in the mammography machine. Such a weird experience. It took 3 people to remove me from the machine... so I'm told. It hurt so fucking bad. That sucked. The mental anguish between surgery day and the day I got my results wasn't pleasant either. Oh, and I got my results on Christmas Eve 2008. Thepathology results were my Christmas present that year.post #53 of 578/4/13 at 2:47pm
I haven't really experienced much pain aside from childbirth. Never broken a bone, never had a migraine, haven't had surgery since I was a kid (and I don't remember that hurting, I thought the whole thing was wonderfully exciting!) I had pelvic girdle pain when pregnant with DD, which was horrible, and I've had the odd agonising muscle cramp and bad sunburn and so on, and one nasty time at the dentist... but compared to childbirth? Not even close.
Except... after DD was born, my cervix clamped down over the placenta and it got stuck. I had to have a doctor remove it with forceps. My midwife told me in no uncertain terms to suck HARD on the gas, and I did - with the strange result that I could observe in a detached, uncaring way that this was the most horrific pain I'd ever felt. It was weird. It wasn't too bad because of the gas, but if I hadn't had it it would have been excruciating. And being at the end of a traumatic labour, when I'd hoped the horrible pain had finally ceased, didn't help psychologically either.
And to all the mothers here who've lost babies, I'm so sorry. The fact that you can keep going with life shows so much strength.post #54 of 578/5/13 at 8:46am
Firstly, I want to extend my sympathy to all the mamas who have emotional scars (losing babies in pregnancy or after birth; sexual abuse, emotional abuse, physical abuse, and any others who I have either missed or who did not feel comfortable sharing their personal story). I can only imagine what you have gone through and are going through, and emotional scars can be the most painful and longest lasting of any pain. Hugs to all of you!
Since this is my first (due in November), I asked around to my friends & family who have already given birth for their opinions. Here are a few:
post #55 of 578/5/13 at 2:45pmpost #56 of 578/9/13 at 9:07am
- My mother: Calcified disc in her back & the surgery to repair it. The continued nerve damage from the back problems.
- My sister in law: The Pitocin shot after her birth to make the bleeding stop (especially since she really wasn't bleeding excessively anyway). The multiple injections of Lidocaine all around her toenails when she had ingrown nails that had to be cut out.
- My cousin: The physical & emotional pain of the healing from her "emergency" Cesarean section that turned out to not actually be an emergency. The 6+ months of pain from the incision following the surgery plus the PTSD from how terribly she was treated at the hospital make insignificant the few days of mild pain from her tears followed by a couple weeks of achiness after her natural vaginal birth. Also, the cervical checks they did in the hospital for the first child (she lost count of how many they did but sometimes were as often as every 10-15 minutes) were far more excruciating than any of the contractions, excluding the Pitocin-induced ones that she said nothing compares to.
- My husband's aunt: Broken clavicle was way, way worse than both her births (she had 2 C-sections, 1 emergent and 1 just because she'd already had a prior C-section). She did have a short period of contractions and early active labor with the first before they found out he was in trouble.
I had a bad stomach virus that hurt my upper abdomen badly enough I thought it was my gallbladder, and it came really close, but so far nothing has surpassed the pain of birth for me. Each one was more painful than the last. After #4, if I were to get pregnant again I would seriously consider a c-section to avoid the pain. I have broken bones and broken teeth and had oral surgery without being knocked out.
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