I come from a Jewish family, as does my partner, although as adults we're more spiritual agnostics. Our first child was a girl, so we just breathed a sigh of relief and didn't discuss circumcision any further. Well, we now have a 12 week old little boy. We both felt very very strongly about leaving him intact. At the end of the day, he has a heart condition and was in the NICU at 8 days old so a bris wouldn't have happened anyways. This has caused serious issues in our family. It's to the point that my father, who is very close with my daughter and watches her constantly, has told me he will not be alone with our son until he's potty trained as he refuses to change the diaper of an uncircumcised baby. I've been told I just ruined 3000 years of family legacy. I've shown people rabbinical papers showing a boy with a Jewish mother does not need a bris to be a Jew, he can still practice if he chooses too, no one believes me. I explain how uncomfortable the notion of entering my son into the covenant of Abraham to be closer to god makes me when I have a daughter who would be getting the message that she's out of luck gaining closeness to god because she has the wrong genitals. I've explained that I don't even believe in god and I'm essentially being asked to compromise my morals and hurt my baby because of my ethnicity. Sorry, but that's just not enough of a reason for me.
Ranting aside, have any of you dealt with this? How do you reconcile your beliefs with your family and heritage. It just hurts me so much that my son is being treated differently than his sister all because I chose not to put him through a bris.