I am debating about this. My boys are 10 and 8. We did not tell them the last time I was pregnant and m/c. I am toying with the idea of telling them after my u/s on the 25th. If all is well, I'll be 7 weeks. Both are definitely old enough to understand the idea that sometimes things don't work out (my oldest spent the end of last school year studying DNA- his choice!)... and I think it's perfectly healthy for them to understand loss and see how we approach it if I were to m/c again. I think my bigger concern is them blabbing to people we don't want to tell yet... my 8 y/o in particular. I'm especially hesitant for my ex (their dad) to know just yet. Very few people even knew we were trying and with my cardiac history there's always alot of questions, etc... I'm just not quite ready for that yet, until we know we have a sticky bean.
How are you handling it?