I'm a SAHM to 5 kids (2, 3, 5, 6, 9). The 2yo has a possible speech delay (I've had other kids with speech delay and he seems to be right along where they were at this point), the 3yo has Sensory Processing Disorder, the 6yo has SEVERE ADHD, and the 9yo has mild ADHD. Compared to the 6yo, he kinda seems like he doesn't at times, but once we can focus a little more away from 6yo, big time noticeable. I've been homeschooling the 9yo for the last 8 months but am ready to throw in the towel because he throws major attitude about EVERYTHING and I tried to homeschool the 6yo for the last 2 months of kindergarten but it coincided with her going off medication and that ended all learning for her.
I struggle with the 6yo more than anyone/anything else. She can't go into the bathroom alone, she can't read alone, can't write alone, can't play alone. She jumps on everyone, kicks, screams, makes tons of babble noises, shrieks, climbs, runs, and seems to enjoy annoying everyone. She was on medication and was absolutely PERFECT but insurance ended and we had to stop giving it. She has been off since June 1st and I cry ALL THE TIME because of how hard she makes the house. She is going back to public school for 1st grade.
3yo is sweet as can be, but is VERY needy emotionally and is ALWAYS into food/drinks, breaking into the kitchen to get it. He alone would be ok to handle with his "quirks" but I'm getting exhausted chasing him room to room ALL THE TIME. It was suggested he MAY have ADHD but he was so young when they suggested it, I brushed off.
My 5yo is getting shafted on awesome attention and has started acting a little....nutty? like her big sis. I'm not sure if it because she thinks thats how shes supposed to act, she likes the attention, or if this is just the first signs of ADHD for her as well. Until about 6 months ago, she was the calmest, quietest, almost perfect child.
9yo acts up a lot and I know thats part age related, but its been going on for 5 years now. After age 5, his personality just became a challenge. He has fine motor delays (minor) and we are supposed to be resuming OT for him soon.
. Oh, and my mom (whom we are living with for the next month and a half) INSISTS I don't tell anyone about their "labels" because people will automatically decide they don't want to interact with them. I think thats weird and I do tell people who point out their "quirks" that its not their fault, not to judge them, because of their ADHD or SPD. I haven't had anyone say anything about the 9yo motor skills but I have brought it up in a more in depth conversation and she thinks its pretty much the worst thing to ever tell anyone. Oh, and my mom thinks 9yo is absolutely God's Gift to the world so anything I say is shut down and IMPOSSIBLE to be true.
I'm just losing it. I cannot go like this much longer. There is only one of me, too many of them, and too much individual attention needed.