Fiber from bread and pasta should not be the main source of fiber in the diet - it's added in to the products most times after the fact because they lack an real nutrients. Fiber comes from plant based foods - leafy greens, fruits and other veggies. I absolutely stand by cravings as a sign of intolerance or sensitivity. My DD tested negative for gluten reactions at 9mos old with the ND, but they still were not a huge part of her diet at that point. More recently, with my FIL watching her and taking her out to eat, her dietary restrictions went out the window and she was just tested last week, now 23mos and she IS reactive to gluten and she HAS been asking for these products more and more. She's always eaten well, including a whole variety of veggies and spices, she just started to slip away from those things and become more and more focused on the grain heavy foods (crackers, animal cookies, bread) - and her lack of good sleep, skin rashes, and overall irritability have been enough warning signs for me to know to have her retested to confirm my suspicions, and we are now not only a dairy free house, but gluten and soy as well. If you want to take a slower, non-cold turkey route, I would just stop buying glutenous products as you run out. There are plenty of gluten free products out there, or better yet just avoid processed foods altogether. If your LO will drink a smoothie or "milkshake" (honestly kids at that age are very easily deceived by names of products more than anything, friend of mine got her 4yo to drink green smoothies just by calling them monster slime!) then start to mix in small amounts of healthy options - avocadoes and coconut oil for brain/heart healthy fats, spinach and kale for greens and fiber, and fruit to mask the flavor. Because we've been dairy free for most of DD's life, she doesn't know about things like standard chocolate pudding - BUT a few ripe avocadoes, a bit of honey, cocoa powder and vanilla extract....BEST damn chocolate pudding you've ever had and you'd have to have one hell of a palate to notice it was made from avocadoes, DH had no clue when he thought he was sneaking a bite of something he shouldn't have ;-)
3 year old won't eat anything remotely healthy. - Page 3
Just curious, for people who insist their kids eat ONLY "healthy" food, do you also eat the same food? No sweets, no gluten, no pasta?
Oh, and cereals are a VERY good source of fibre
Well, that's not what you said. You just said you are sneaking food to your family and your family is sneaking food you don't want them to have (you say: "DH had no clue when he thought he was sneaking a bite of something he shouldn't have").
Maybe you don't keep "unhealthy" food in your house and you don't eat it yourself, but your family does. Children are not stupid. You can't control her eating forever. What you are teaching your dd is not how to eat healthily, but how to sneak food.
Clearly you are unable to read what I actually posted or are trying to read between the lines something that isn't there. What I said was that DH felt he was eating something he shouldn't (snarky comment, sarcastic....)- what adult logically things pudding is healthy? He was not expecting there to be avocado in chocolate pudding. Not that he was being somehow sneaky behind my back. As for my DD, she has food intolerances to dairy and gluten and I've had very harsh words with my in-laws as to what foods are ok for her to eat for her health and it's taken time but they are following my rules. These are not arbitrary rules that I'm imposing because I'm some sort of food czar in my home and want to control what everyone eats. I'm setting examples for my family, and we've talked about living a healthy lifestyle and therefore follow that. My child is 2, she's not capable of sneaking behind my back looking for junk food - she's never had the experience of it so at others houses she asks for water, veggies, fruit, coconut milk....the things she eats at home. I wont shelter her and tell her junk doesn't' exist, but I will educate her as to why we eat the way we do. And most children with food sensitivities will experiment at some point only to realize they prefer feeling healthy and they always come back to healthy eating.
I commented on how to *gasp* hide food in smoothies and such if needed, not because I've ever had to do this for my child (again, she eats everything), but because I know it's worked for some people when transitioning their kids to healthier eating. Some of the first green juices I ever made for myself involved copious amounts of apples and lemons to mask the green flavor that I was not accustomed to and over time my palate changed and I've learned to accept a wider array of vegetables - things that was NOT raised on. My DD has a much wider palate because she IS being raised on these things and she does readily accept new items without hesitation. So I sincerely doubt she will be sneaking things behind my back because we eat everything she eats.
I allow my kids MORE leeway than I give myself, they eat loads of fruit and nuts while I limit those for myself. They eat some cheese, too. They are, after all, growing and active. But I'd be doing them no favors to give gluten or excessive carbs to the one who reacts poorly to it! He craves nothing else, his energy drops to nothing, his head hurts, and he can't speak. For no situational reason whatsoever he makes fists and angry faces and cries for an hour no matter what treat or distraction I offer. Tylenol helps if I catch it early. Then he's disoriented afterwards. We went GF in June, it hasn't happened since except the one time he had mac and cheese in July.
I read a rather compelling theory once about this "toddler won't eat", it said that it's evolutionary, since kids stop eating "everything in front of them" when they are capable to run off and "find" their food.
So, to keep them from eating all these poisonous plants and insects (I would guess) nature stopped them eating "green" and "funny looking" or anything "intense tasting", for a while, until they are old enough to understand what is nutrious and what is poison.
I LOVE this theory and it totally stopped me worrying about it. All my kids were weaned using the "baby led weaning" method, and all of them ate everything in front of them, until they were two - two and a half. They restarted around four, though DS does not like his food to be touching
For what reason? I merely stated what foods are and are not in my home to answer a question...there was no air of privilege there. Would you call someone privileged for keeping their home nut free because of a child with allergies?
I'll jump in and be the first adult you've heard say that I am happy my parents made me eat lots of things that I didn't want to eat! My siblings are in agreement with me, 100%! My mom's cooking was not very good, either :) But from having been made to eat everything on my plate (small portions, but all different kinds of food), I have been able, my whole life, to try new foods without any reservations. It's great! I have found foods I don't like so much, and other foods that I LOVE!
I have this experience in comparison to my ex-husband who was allowed to only eat what he felt like, and to the next level of - if he didn't like what the meal was, his mother would actually make him a separate meal (usually PB&J). He was a horrible eater the entire time I knew him. It was quite embarrassing to eat at other people's house. And it was extremely difficult to teach our child to eat healthy food options and try new things, when he would see his dad eating either junk food or just really limited healthy foods.
Raising another child with a partner who loves trying new food and we only keep healthy foods in the house is a wonderful change! We do eat treats, but they are just that - treats, they are rarely made or maybe eaten somewhere that's not at home (like on a vacation,etc).
I find with toddlers, things that can help encourage them to eat things you want them to eat are to only have desirable foods present in your house, also peer pressure can make a lot of difference! Have play dates with her little buddies and only serve nori, pickles, hard boiled eggs, whatever, and you may be surprised what you see her trying! With my own kids, when they turn about 4, we do start having basic rules around eating - things like you have to try a bite of everything, insults about the food are not okay, and you must show gratitude. The catch phrase in my house for probably a decade has been, "You didn't know you liked chocolate cake until you tried it!"
We also switched to grain-free/ nourishing traditions about a year ago, and it's amazing to see the great foods that all my kids will eat now that the basic fillers like bread and pasta aren't in the picture.
Good luck to you, OP! Food issues seem to continually change and need tweaking (as well as so many other things in our life :)
I have a different take on that.
I personally believe, that you can only make a child eat something, that he/she would anyway given enough time. My DS has sensory issues, and he has to take a bite of every food I offer, but he can choose to eat or not to eat, and he always has the option of bland carbohydrates, like if we have potatoes with something and he does not like the something, he does not have to eat it. He can choose to only eat potatoes. He won't eat different types of food for a myriad of reasons, like the texture, the taste, the noise it makes, the color, you name it.
My DD on the other hand just eats whatever does not bite first. Same family, same food, same upbringing. (to an extend I guess).
So in my opinion if you make someone eat against his wishes, than he won't really like eating as an experience. And maybe the mom of your partner just gave up after a while of trying.
I know millions of adults who were made to eat something and won't eat it anymore therefor. Like I won't eat vanilla"y" desserts, because I was made finish my desserts after meals, even if I was full or did not like them. So I kind of start gagging with this kind of food.
My mom does not drink milk, because she was made drinking it as a kid.
My husband won't try fish.
I know dozens more..
Mine's the same way. Eats everything and anything, but I also never force her to eat stuff. Some nights she's all about carrots, others is the greens. She gets enough variety day to day that I'm pretty confident that she's eating what her body needs at that given moment. I was also forced to finish food, and there's a few veggies that took me a very long time to eat as an adult.
I read that this age kids start to get "grossed out" over texture, smell, mouth feel, etc. and it totally makes sense. Plus the gorging on certain foods one day then eating nothing the next? It's just part of the growing palette of this age group.
What's really irking me now... The demanding of foods that I'll make just as she asks for. Then she takes a tiny tiny bite and won't eat more. Ugh!!! The wasted food is atrocious.