I am a very gentle mommy and do not believe it CIO at all, just want to start by saying that.
I have a 13 month old son, who has been very difficult to get to bed at night (latley). He gets overtired it seems. This is what has been happening...I watch for his tired cues and then I take him in to nurse him to sleep. What happens is, he nurses and then gets massively recharged and is wired. Its so strange to me. I can tell he is so tired though. So i keep trying to get him to sleep...lay and nurse, tula carrier and nurse, rock and nurse, stand and sway and nurse his 24 pound heavy body. none of this works. I need a break and ask daddy to come in and hold him for a few minutes. For 5 full minutes, he screams for me in his daddy's arms. he is madly in love with daddy and never cries in his arms except in this situation. After about 5 mins of me taking a break, I go in and take over, he falls right to sleep within in minutes of nursing. I feel like it is forcing him to cry, but I don't know what else to do. I've come out with him and let him play and he just acts like a tired wired baby. after awhile of this tired and wired baby, I go back in with him and it is the same thing over again. He nurses and then recharges. I guess, I am wondering if this is mean to do to him. If he is in loving daddy arms and is screaming for me, am I harming his little self in any way? I know sleep begets sleep and I have tried early bed times and it doesn't help at all. It just mean I try to get him to sleep for an extra hour or 2 versus just one solid hour. I know this is all a phase and it will pass, but I am at a loss of what to do. This 5 minute daddy cry session actually really works, but I don't want to do it if it is not fair to my little guy. Daddy is fully onboard with holding him during ths crying period. We want to tell ourselves this is helping his overtired little self. He also sleeps in bed with us, so he is snuggled close all night long and all needs are responded to all day. He never ever cries. He is the happiest little guy-- hecould play with a crumb for 15 mins. That is how laid back he is. Does this sound terrible for him? I tell myself it makes me a better mommy because I am not getting as frazzled and frusterated at bedtime.