Since I recently found out that my little nugget is a boy, and I know many others have as well or will soon, I thought it would be a good time to start this discussion.
I don't want to start anything controversial. I just want to hear opinions and to know how many are for or against it.
I am honestly still undecided, but leaning strongly towards not doing it. I still need to read some books and do some research. I have read a long thread for mothers who regret circumcising their sons and putting myself in their place is almost enough to decide me. Even if I thought it was the "right" choice I don't know if I could bring myself to let that happen to my child. I can only imagine the trauma and mistrust that it must plant in their fresh little minds.
Also reading more about the for-skin and it's purpose makes it seem like the better option to me. I think it sounds very reasonable that taking it off would reduce sexual pleasure (honestly I wonder what my circumcised husband and I are missing out on, which makes me kind of sad), and decrease overall health.
I have just never been one to think we need to change anything about our bodies, or about anything that God has created. I naturally figure that He knows best and I don't want to presume I know better.
My husband is for it, though we haven't discussed it thoroughly. The one time it came up he seemed a little defensive, and wanted to attack me instead of talk to me. He said "I just don't understand why you always have to be different". That hurt a little. And I responded that I don't try to be different just for the sake of being different, or to challenge everyone. I naturally have a different way of looking at things, and I am someone who does like to actually think before making a decision. Especially where it concerns the permanent alteration of our sons body, I think we actually need to be thorough. His only argument is that it is the sanitary thing to do. I am still studying that, but so far it seems to me that he is wrong.
I think he is just stuck on the tradition of it. "oh, everyone does, I have had it done, and everyone is fine". Like suggesting that it's a bad idea is taking something away from all the men and boys who have had it done. In reality I believe they already have had something important taken from them and don't realize it.
When it comes down to it, I kind of figure that it shouldn't be our choice to make for him. And if it does develop a problem down the road we can then get it taken care of then. And on the other hand if we do decide to circumcise it can not be undone.
Also if your husband is not on the same side as you will you not/do it anyways? I would really like to try and help him see my side, because I don't want it to upset him. It is his child. But I think if it comes down to it, especially if he won't have a real conversation with me, I will do what is best for my son despite his wishes.