I need help figuring out how to sidecar co-sleep with this bed frame that we have.
My husband was initially a bit nervous about co-sleeping, but I brought him around and now he agrees it's best. However, he is not comfortable having a baby in bed between us. I totally respect that. My MIL, very sweetly, bought us an Arm's Reach co-sleeper, and although it is not my first choice (first would be baby in bed, second would have been sidecaring a crib), I am touched at the gesture and glad she's supportive. I'm glad to have the choice of having a baby close in a way everyone can be comfortable. Here's the problem: we recently ordered a bed frame for our king size mattress, and once it was assembled, it was clear that the standard set-up with the sidecar wasn't going to work. There's a lip of about 2.5-3 inches, all the way around, so the sidecar would not abut the mattress like it's supposed to. I'm having a hard time describing that, so I've added a photo of my side of the bed:
Hopefully that clearly illustrates the dilemma! Obviously, I fully intend to still co-sleep with the baby, but obviously it's imperative that it's done safely (ie not shoving a rolled up blanket between the sidecar and the mattress, for example), and hopefully in a way that involves getting some use out of the sidecar ... for my IL's budget, that was a giant extravagance I don't want to hurt anyone by turning my nose up at it!