we have been ding some EC since my DD was a month old. We did well until about eight months when she went on a total pottying/cueing/holding to eliminate strike. then around 12 months she was into catching the morning pee, but that was it.
Its summer now so she's naked almost all day (and 13 mos). We don't have much success with any elimination going in the potty. we have lots of messes. i am trying to be nonchalant about them all, saying "potty next time" or just nothing. She knows though that poops are a bit of an ordeal because i have to wrangle her and clean her and the floor. She's figured out a pretty good squat so doesn't get too messy. She also always helps me "pat" the cloth to clean up pee. This isn't exactly the association i had in mind.
how do i re-orient to the potty? We do some signing, but i haven't seen her do any particular sign when needing to go. We do the poop sign, but are inconsistent with the "toilet' sign for pees. I try to have her sit throughout the day, but she doesn't stay on long and comes off. She'll look in to see if anything is in there, so I know she's kind of got the connection. I put poops into the potty then we take them to our toilet together.
If I know for sure she is going to poop, I put her on the potty and she often gets flustered or annoyed and then goes and poops elsewhere...
I'm feeling rather discouraged and like I am getting close to cajoling her rather than being in close communication about her needs. I really don't know if I pay close enough attention. But its just her and me all day, so I'm not sure what I'm missing. any help would be great!