Well, I kind of resigned myself to a 2-5-month potty strike (LOL!) based on all I had read. Again-- this will be one of those things that, in 20 years, there will be an easy-peasy EC guide about, but for now, "Western" women are still muddling through. It seems a "strike" from around walking until 13-15 months or so may be common, because if we lived in a hut or whatever, she would be taking herself outside to pee in the dirt. She might not be ready to pee/poo in the exact "right place"-- to developmentally "get it" that we go in a specific trench or outhouse or potty until 15-18 months-- but she would be clear on not eliminating around her living space or on her mom (and she wouldn't be peeing on mom for sure-- because she wouldn't be in-arms anymore). But I was thinking, in the context of "Western" EC, it's frustrating, because it seems they know how to do it and suddenly are "rebelling"... but I don't think it's rebellion at all.
Anyway. That was my theory!
I wasn't quite ready to "give it up" (for the time being-- like maybe just go for morning/wake-up catches and nothing else), so in the meantime, I just more or less proceeded as usual (a cheery "we make ihi/tae in the potty"), despite many many many misses (still a few catches daily). I did let her pee in the "shower potty" and the "bathtub potty" quite a few times (more independence when standing), and got to the point I was considering a bottomless baby + a plastic shoe mat with raised sides and a piddle pad in every room so she could walk herself over to the "dirt patch outside our hut"...
But then... her protests got less and less emphatic over the past week, and she seemed to signal a little more and a little more... And today, though we had a couple misses (still not quite back in sync-- it's tough when you don't know if you're offering too much/too infrequently)...
First of all, her typical brief "potty fuss" was much more insistent and agitated if I didn't correctly guess her need right away-- more like she used to only kvetch when hungry. And she's just been sorta starting to nod her head "yes" in a semi-reliable fashion, but when I asked her "do you need the potty?" she would nod vehemently and pee a gallon in the potty! Awesome! Like 5x today! Totally initiated by her-- incredible communication-- the BEST! Again, I'm reminded that my favorite part about EC is the C!
It's not like I didn't know before that I wasn't just "getting lucky" when I'd think she was "telling me" she needed to go, and then I'd put her on the potty and she'd go-- YKWIM? But sometimes, you doubt yourself. When you ask your kid, "potty?" and you get a big nodnodnod (and in one case, "yeah!") and you put her on with zero protest and she pees a ton? Well, you KNOW it's working!