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post #21 of 141
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Originally Posted by dayiscoming2006 View Post

It's 7-8 hrs usually broken up with a 1 hour or so nursing session. She spoils me more than any of my others there. It only works if I have her sleep with daddy. If I try to lay her down in her playpen, she won't sleep like that. She's already up to 8 lbs 10 oz or so, if I subtract a few ounces for her wearing cloths when I weighed her. So, definitely not suffering. The longer sleeps may even be helping her grow in my opinion. 

Ok, finally...hi. been home for 3 days, so much to say yet it feels so private, and trying to talk into the microphone to type this with my baby sitting here is strange& new. But we made it smile.gif. Thank you everyone for being here. My issues now that I need advice about, as i keep needing so much, are....well,. first I responded to this quote because in the hospital, there was such I divide of opinions about basically everything, it was a lot to deal with, SO.glad to be home. My baby sounds similar in a way with lots of sleeping and gaining weight, after super stressful time in the hospital with no feelings and forced pumping& me needing to learn more about breastfeeding. first , I guess the excessive sleeping was from not enough feeding but now i think its from lots. She was born 6 4 , now is 6 9, almost a week later. I will be having some great breastfeeding support very soon . I am using the shield. at the hospital, one person said I must always pump when using the shield. they would not let me leave without a pump , but I must return it and I haven't had the time to use it yet.

Can i just use the shield? we are working on latching, I just want to feed my baby.

Ok , so I'm so well rested today, the baby actually slept most of the other days well I for some reason I stayed up as I did in the hospital for 3 nights with no sleep.so I better write this while i can. I guess last night was 7 or 8 hours also with one feeding and diaper change, then back to bed for another 3 hours, both of us. I wonder about if there is such a thing as too much sleep trying to get it while it lasts??

After nursing, do i always switch sides? if the baby falls asleep, I try to hold her up right, using different burping techniques, always wondering how long she needs to be that way to digest. I've seen gentle bouncing to hard sort of whacking on the back, or stroking...i don't really get burping but maybe hickups and I don't burp enough, ? or spit up when I lay her down too soon, that happened a couple times. when the baby falls asleep after nursing, if its at least 15 minutes of nursing, on one side, and I wiggle he r around for a little while, can she just sleep more?

okay, this feels so calculating, but at the hospital we were using a chart. maybe I should continue my chart just for peace of mind, I just want to know i am doing it right. Its part intuition as many here have been supportive of telling me how my baby needs love and I am being very loving. I just want to conserve my energy by trying to figure out when she doesn't need me for a little while
time to pee, I think she pooped, and I have to wonder if it's because I'm holding her upright and wigglingn her for almost a half an hour now or what... like when she wakes up and I want to feed her, sometimes she's a little fussy, and I find myself thinking... diaper change? gas? hungry? hungry from sleeping too long? but the voice of experience so valuable..
post #22 of 141
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Originally Posted by dayiscoming2006 View Post

It's 7-8 hrs usually broken up with a 1 hour or so nursing session. She spoils me more than any of my others there. It only works if I have her sleep with daddy. If I try to lay her down in her playpen, she won't sleep like that. She's already up to 8 lbs 10 oz or so, if I subtract a few ounces for her wearing cloths when I weighed her. So, definitely not suffering. The longer sleeps may even be helping her grow in my opinion. 

Ok, finally...hi. been home for 3 days, so much to say yet it feels so private, and trying to talk into the microphone to type this with my baby sitting here is strange& new. But we made it smile.gif. Thank you everyone for being here. My issues now that I need advice about, as i keep needing so much, are....well,. first I responded to this quote because in the hospital, there was such I divide of opinions about basically everything, it was a lot to deal with, SO.glad to be home. My baby sounds similar in a way with lots of sleeping and gaining weight, after super stressful time in the hospital with no feelings and forced pumping& me needing to learn more about breastfeeding. first , I guess the excessive sleeping was from not enough feeding but now i think its from lots. She was born 6 4 , now is 6 9, almost a week later. I will be having some great breastfeeding support very soon . I am using the shield. at the hospital, one person said I must always pump when using the shield. they would not let me leave without a pump , but I must return it and I haven't had the time to use it yet.

Can i just use the shield? we are working on latching, I just want to feed my baby.

Ok , so I'm so well rested today, the baby actually slept most of the other days well I for some reason I stayed up as I did in the hospital for 3 nights with no sleep.so I better write this while i can. I guess last night was 7 or 8 hours also with one feeding and diaper change, then back to bed for another 3 hours, both of us. I wonder about if there is such a thing as too much sleep trying to get it while it lasts??

After nursing, do i always switch sides? if the baby falls asleep, I try to hold her up right, using different burping techniques, always wondering how long she needs to be that way to digest. I've seen gentle bouncing to hard sort of whacking on the back, or stroking...i don't really get burping but maybe hickups and I don't burp enough, ? or spit up when I lay her down too soon, that happened a couple times. when the baby falls asleep after nursing, if its at least 15 minutes of nursing, on one side, and I wiggle he r around for a little while, can she just sleep more?

okay, this feels so calculating, but at the hospital we were using a chart. maybe I should continue my chart just for peace of mind, I just want to know i am doing it right. Its part intuition as many here have been supportive of telling me how my baby needs love and I am being very loving. I just want to conserve my energy by trying to figure out when she doesn't need me for a little while
time to pee, I think she pooped, and I have to wonder if it's because I'm holding her upright and wigglingn her for almost a half an hour now or what... like when she wakes up and I want to feed her, sometimes she's a little fussy, and I find myself thinking... diaper change? gas? hungry? hungry from sleeping too long? but the voice of experience so valuable..
post #23 of 141
Frozen colostrum ....need to use it. I thawed it out late last night, i am trying to figure out how to use it now before bed. Its thawed &warmed, do i just do it with my dropper? Now that my milk came in, do I need to pump and use it with a bottle, so its not just colostrum? Or feed her by breast &then do the dropper,, which depends on if she falls asleep or ......? Here i am with all my confusion again, i guess its not the worst to throw my thawed colostrum out.....if its been thawed too long, i hope i get better at last planning, things feel so much smoother when i have a clear picture.

Then, there's my post pardum sitz bath on the stove. The day went by. maybe I will just strain it and put it in the refrigerator& warm up tomorrow , i doubt it'd rot.
post #24 of 141
Congratulations, here we go!! What's her name, we'd love to see pictures smile.gif

First, when your baby wakes from sleeping she probably needs a diaper, especially if its been a few hours. I'm sure she's ready to eat then. Also, babies need a lot of sleep at this age so don't worry that she sleeps too much. If she's over birth weight already that's a huge success!!
I typically nurse in one side then burp him. If he doesn't burp I keep him on my shoulder and patting him for 10+ minutes because he has reflux and will spit up for sure if I don't. So do you need frozen milk now, are you returning to work soon? You can feed the colustrom with a dropper but I don't see the need to pump and bottle feed if she's thriving from nursing. Only saving/freezing if you need some stored.

Hope this helps smile.gif
post #25 of 141
Here we are congratulations!! Tenk gave perfect advice. I would also recommend the book The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding. Libraries usually have a copy, and secondhand books stores like half price books etc. that book always gives me peace of mind.
Another funny haha is I'm on my 3rd baby 4 days pp and totally forgot about burping the baby! DUH!! My milk came in yesterday and I was letting baby feed whenever he wanted and forgot about burping. Needless to say I had some baby Explosive spit ups! Wow! I contacted my midwife asking what to do. Burp the baby!! Lol. So seriously even veterans aren't perfect. Take it easy. Enjoy the baby moon! Don't forget to laugh at yourself or me! Hugs.
post #26 of 141
I keep my sitz in the fridge for days and use it in the peri bottle to rinse after using the bathroom. Cause lets face it, the hemorrhoids need all the help they can get at this point.

I've had a rough couple of days, physically, my bleeding kicked way up and I have crazy nervy spasms between my pubic bone and belly button, sometimes while I'm peeing and sometimes just laying in bed. It was wrapping around my back making me think it was retained membranes or infection but i dont think that's the case anymore- there's no other sign of infection. I'm guessing its from the fast descent of a head plus a hand... It's mysterious. Homeopathic hypericum has helped but I still can barely walk.
Has anyone else had this?

As for my mood I'm taking placenta capsules and I have had hardly a swing of mood. A few pity parties and cranky spells when everyone was talking back etc but I feel remarkable stable. And I'm so glad for it.

I've been trying to load pictures every day but still can't get them online. Diaper cover pictures, longie pictures, cute baby with tucked feet pictures. One day soon I will photo bomb this site.
post #27 of 141
Thread Starter 

13 days pp...my soreness is completely gone but when i had my 5 day check up my mw said my bladder is a little low and swollen...and i can feel my cervix low. i am feeling the bladder i think when i am upright and so i don't want to stay walking too much at this point. it's really annoying/worrying me. and i was reading all this stuff online--and i just  had to stop :) nothing healthy in obsessing. i started my pelvic floor dvd about day 5 doing only the horizontal exercises. and i hope everything goes back into place in the next couple of weeks. i can't believe i'm almost 2 weeks pp...and i'm still bleeding some and i am ready to feel great. but mostly i'm tired from dealing with a newborn and a 2.5 yr old all day and night. i think emotionally i'm feeling a little worn today because my dh is starting to work more and my aunt left early yesterday...so my support is less and i'm just with little people more. plus without wanting to be on the move--it's a little boring! :) 

 

anybody tandem breastfeeding? we are and it's going great. but my 2.5 yr old wants to nurse every time the babe does at this point. he wasn't nursing except to nap and to wake up in the day before--but now, it's full out! hopefully he adjusts and lets that go pretty quickly...but i'm really glad we stuck it out, i think it's helping a lot that he can snuggle up to mama and nurse and be close to zoe too. 

 

here we are-- i always change diaper when the babe wakes first and then feed. starts everybody off fresh :) and then i don't change sides when feeding. i block fed for about 3 hours my first little one before changing sides and with this one it's a little different because of the tandem feeding. but i like to keep them on one side for a while to really empty it. also, i have lots of milk and overactive letdown (meaning i spray milk everywhere) so it helps with that. try and let yourself relax about feeding. the more relaxed and comfortable you start to feel i think the babe feels it too. and i wouldn't worry about waking a sleeping baby either, especially if you've passed birth weight and if you have lots of pee and poo diapers. enjoy it. soon they start to wake up more... also i stop to burp when the babe pulls off and i can see she's irritated with the breast but wants more. it's my sign that she needs to burp. i don't think too much back slapping is good ;) but i do gently rub the back because it upsets her to burp and she doesn't like to be pulled away from the breast. more comfort than helping the burp. also it helps to think of what you'd want if you were her...fresh pants, then a fresh meal. nobody banging on me if i had an upset tummy. my LO can't be laid down right after nursing without spitting up a bit. so we avoid that too. and i make sure and tell others if she's just nursed not to lay her horizontal...good luck mama. let us know how it goes!

 

by the way mamas with other little people, how are the siblings handling it? my 2.5 yr old hits the new baby only when i am laying in bed with her. if i am on the couch no problem, on the floor holding baby no problem. but in bed, he's just not happy with it. not really sure what it's about, so i've just curtailed laying in bed as much as possible. and asked my dh to take my LO to do something if i really need to lay in bed and rest. otherwise, he calls Zoe beautiful, comforts her when she cries, wants to hold her hand. wants to play with her. is all around super excited to have a sister! yay!!!

post #28 of 141
I'm having a tough time. I'm 6 days pp and I still can't sit. I asked our family doctor today at masons check up to take a look and my stitches are badly infected. I'm on some antibiotics now, and have to go back in a week. If it doesn't go away, she said they may have to drain it. She also told me to sit in the bathtub for a couple times a day for about 15 min. What do you guys put into the water? The family doc told me me just water...

Nursing is not going good either. Mason had a hard time latching and sucking. He nurses for 3 min, falls asleep, nurses again 20 min later... My nipples are full of scaps and blisters. I haven't slept more than 40 min in a row... My doctor recommended letting mason nurse, and then pump the rest so the breast is emptyand feed him the bottle. She thinks maybe he gets too tired sucking, so the easy flow of the bottle may full him up so we can get some rest.
post #29 of 141
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Originally Posted by InLove2009 View Post

I'm having a tough time. I'm 6 days pp and I still can't sit. I asked our family doctor today at masons check up to take a look and my stitches are badly infected. I'm on some antibiotics now, and have to go back in a week. If it doesn't go away, she said they may have to drain it. She also told me to sit in the bathtub for a couple times a day for about 15 min. What do you guys put into the water? The family doc told me me just water...

Nursing is not going good either. Mason had a hard time latching and sucking. He nurses for 3 min, falls asleep, nurses again 20 min later... My nipples are full of scaps and blisters. I haven't slept more than 40 min in a row... My doctor recommended letting mason nurse, and then pump the rest so the breast is emptyand feed him the bottle. She thinks maybe he gets too tired sucking, so the easy flow of the bottle may full him up so we can get some rest.

I am having concerns.with.my stiches.too. Midwife gave me herbal mix that i steeped. I am.going.to.put it.in.a.sitz.bath that i got from CVS for 15$, it sits on the toilet so the soak can be more concentrated, even if it was just warm water , it could be easier than getting into a big bath so often. Can someone get you one? Walmart didnt carry them around here. Midwife said seasalt was ok but i have none. I wonder if epsom salts are ok????
post #30 of 141
Inlove and here we are I would definitely add salt to your bath, it is drawing and will help pull any excess fluid and infection out of the area. If you have an herbal sitz add salt to that. If you can get your hands on some herbs use yarrow at the very least as it is anti microbial and will help with pain. Garden sage will also help. A tea in your spray bottle after you pee would be beneficial.
Also consider trying to air your parts in some sunshine for a few minutes to dry things out some.

I hope things smooth out for you Inlove, it sounds really challenging. Do you have a
la leche league near you? It sounds like mason is not sticking his tongue out to cover his bottom gum so he's chewing your poor girls up. Is he sucking in his bottom lip? Both my boys did that and it's excruciating.
More unsolicited advice... You may already know to take a good probiotic with antibiotics so you and the babe don't develop thrush on your nipples. Expose those gals to the sun and open air too.
post #31 of 141
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Originally Posted by wrenmoon View Post

Inlove and here we are I would definitely add salt to your bath, it is drawing and will help pull any excess fluid and infection out of the area. If you have an herbal sitz add salt to that. If you can get your hands on some herbs use yarrow at the very least as it is anti microbial and will help with pain. Garden sage will also help. A tea in your spray bottle after you pee would be beneficial.
Also consider trying to air your parts in some sunshine for a few minutes to dry things out some.

I hope things smooth out for you Inlove, it sounds really challenging. Do you have a
la leche league near you? It sounds like mason is not sticking his tongue out to cover his bottom gum so he's chewing your poor girls up. Is he sucking in his bottom lip? Both my boys did that and it's excruciating.
More unsolicited advice... You may already know to take a good probiotic with antibiotics so you and the babe don't develop thrush on your nipples. Expose those gals to the sun and open air too.


Epsom salts are ok? If i have one quart with herbal water, then i warm another quart ans pour in a jar to melt the epsom salts, is that ok? Just a handful? I dont have plain salt. I might hqve some a sample of fancy pink himalyan salt hiding somewhere or a volcanic red one...other wise only garlic salt...speaking of garlic, what foods not to eat-garlic, onion, cabbage?

Thinking of everyone,

Inlove, did you ever try a sheild? I am using one so i thought it might be worth trying.. Its so hars when things are hard & i hope you get support you need, you deserve it., its heart breaking, it seems .
post #32 of 141

inlove- I'm sorry to hear things are going so rough!  It reminds me a lot of my first.  I tore up by my clitoris and had a horrible time...couldn't sit or pee or laugh or sneeze without awful pain.   My daughter tore up my nipples too...I still have a chunk missing from one.  All that to say that it DOES get better!  It is so, so, so difficult when you're sleep deprived and in pain.  I remember crying every time my baby wanted to eat!  Hang in there, mama!  Definitely get to a La Leche League meeting if you can!  A good latch will make all the difference but it can be really difficult to achieve sometimes (says the mother of 4 who still can't get her baby to open up wide!!).  Sending you lots of love, mama!!  Hang in there!

 

hereweare- I use epsom salts in the bath now.  My midwife suggested it.  As for foods to avoid...personally, I wouldn't avoid any unless there's a reason to.  Don't make things more complicated than they need to be!  :)

post #33 of 141

With latch issues, sometimes it can be an upper lip tie, tongue tie, or both. Just had my daughter's tongue tie fixed today. Unfortunately, he would not fix her upper lip tie because he thinks it's cosmetic...(GRRR) but she is finally swallowing and latching slightly better. I am really hopeful that things will be OK. This facebook group was recommended to me by a midwife on mothering https://www.facebook.com/groups/tonguetiebabies/ - they have a list of providers that know more about what they are doing and how ties can effect feeding, but unfortunately for me, the closest doctors are 3+ hrs one way away and I don't see my husband being on board with that and spending even more money. The doctor I saw today said he would fix the upper lip tie once she's around 2 months old. It cost me $300 to just have him fix the tongue tie. I imagine the upper lip thing may end up being 400+ since he made it sound more complicated. I'm feeling pretty frustrated about it all and wish I didn't have to deal with this really... And yeah, I nursed my other 3 kiddos and I had problems with 2 of them, but we were able to make it through somehow... This time is really a lot more difficult. :( I really hope I won't eventually have to switch to formula of some sort... that would be super depressing.

post #34 of 141
Dayiscoming I'm so sorry to hear thr you're even having to worry about that! It doesn't seem fair that anyone should have to consider money against a baby's needs. Especially in relation to basic nourishment.
When I'm queen of the universe... It will be law, all procedures on babies and doctors visits and midwives and clothing are free.

My midwife came yesterday... This nonstop nurser of mine has gained ... Wait for it ....
11 ounces in seven days.
No wonder my nipples are raw. I've been feeding Paul Bunyan.
post #35 of 141

Thanks for the sympathy wrenmoon. Awesome gain from your baby! :)

post #36 of 141

Well, I have found that my baby is eating better and especially does well with the football hold. I've always fed with cradle or cross cradle, but it's just not working well that way with her.

post #37 of 141
Thanks everyone! I did get the epson salt and some probiotics today.

I have been using a nipple shield all along, because he doesn't latch otherwise. Yesterday he are for 4 min and when I pumped after that I only got a half an ounce after 20 min of pumping. Could it be that I just don't make enough?

I'm glad to say the bath has helped so much, I feel like a can walk standing up straight now smile.gif
post #38 of 141
Dayiscoming, so glad it's gotten better!!

Wren, holy weight gain!! I'm pretty sure Cam is gaining better than any of our others have. He went down to 6lb8oz and he's almost 10lbs now at 6 weeks smile.gif. Oh and I would totally vote for you. smile.gif
post #39 of 141

I second putting salt in the bathwater/sitz bath for infected stitches. It doesn't have to be epsom salt, it can be regular salt.  A couple handfuls should do it, so it tastes salty. 

post #40 of 141

Well, I spoke too soon. Baby still wouldn't latch well. I got desperate and got a recommendation from the facebook support group for a dentist in The Woodlands, TX that was able get her in yesterday for a laser revision of her tongue tie and upper lip tie. She had one really good feed last night and since then refused the breast because of the pain from what I can tell. We've given her rescue remedy, arnica and then out of desperation, infant tylenol(recommended as a last resort by the dentist.) The tylenol helps a little, but she still refused to hold the latch. I'm hoping tomorrow or the next day will have her back and nursing, but until then my DH ran out and got me a manual avent pump and a few bottles. She had lost 4 oz in a week. I know it's recommended to get a double electric breast pump, but I can't really afford it and the avent manual pump has really good reviews so, we'll deal for now. If things really don't get better we'll rethink things. She likes the avent natural bottles. She took 4 oz of breastmilk for her first feed with it. I think she was really starved after everything. I feel so bad and I'm trying really hard for her. Praying to God for all things to work out in the end.

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