Ladies I need some help !
I've had a great pregnancy so far, birth should go smoothly and I thought that the next step would be to enjoy my baby.
I want to babywear, BF and be as gentle as possible with DD but now I'm really confused.
DP is really not supporting babywearing.
He said that he wouldn't stop me from trying but that it looks like a bad idea to him. He thinks that's how you create needy and demanding kids. He's not into what he calls "hippy education fades" and for him it's just that.
NB: DP is an amazing man, please don't criticize him .
Now, his best friend is visiting for a few days with her 10 months old and I'm freaking out.
The baby is very clingy, she cries when you put her down, screams when the mom leaves the room, she hates to eat...
DP told me today that he really really was not in favour of babywearing because he thinks that it will turn our baby into a spoiled demanding manipulative brat.
For him CIO is the way to go because that's the way we were brought up. Since we're not screwed, our kids should do just fine, right ?
I disagree but I have no experience to back up what I think. He has a toddler already so he's been there before.
His friend is not helping either.
She said that she's weaning her baby because their relationship is too symbiotic.She also stopped babywearing for that reason.
One of her friends even skipped BF altogether just to avoid the symbiotic thing. It doesn't make sense to me.
Her baby is still needy and clingy, and she blames the AP stuff she did at the beginning.
DP doesn't want a demanding child. Neither do I ! But for me an infant is not manipulative.
I'm just questioning everything I thought I knew.
If I BF on demand, wear the baby, don't CIO etc and DD is demanding, fussy, needy or whatever, I fear DP would say it's my fault and ask me to just stop and start CIO and sleep training.
I know this post is a bit messy but I'm so confused.... i almost dread the arrival of my first child now.
Any input, advice or thought would be really appreciated.
A freaked out future mama