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post #61 of 95
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Originally Posted by zeeohee View Post

I'm still here, just feeling really blah and not up to writing much. I'm 41+1 today and feeling....I don't even know how to describe it. Feeling 41+ weeks pregnant is about all I can say. 

I was honestly under the impression that because I knew exactly when I conceived and had it confirmed to the day by 2 ultrasounds, that there was no way I would be late. I guess it really is true that some babies just need to gestate for longer. My midwives have been telling me that 41+1 is the median for first time moms since the first appointment, but I didn't really expect it and certainly had no idea how difficult this "extra" week would feel. 

Thankfully my mom is here or I would really be losing my mind. I am trying to focus on the fun things we've gotten to do that would have been harder or impossible if I had already had the baby (like going floating in the river). But I have been crying every day because I just want my baby.

I can empathize! I'm a first-timer as well and my midwife told me she bet I'd go to 41w. I know exactly when in concieved so anytime anyone has suggested that perhaps my timing is off my responses have become increasingly more curt.
post #62 of 95
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Originally Posted by cynthiamoon View Post

zeeohee, hug2.gif sorry about the tears! I really think it's part  of the hormonal downshift in addition to the frustration of waiting because I haven't been very emotional or moody at all this pregnancy, and I cried every night last week over WHATEVER, and this week I've been noticeably down and out. Just by default my mood is sort of somber and anxious when this whole time I've been one of those annoyingly chipper pregnant women. 

 

Having my mom here and taking up little projects is definitely helping though. Today we were designing some fun felt dolls and toys and watching movies. It's SO MUCH nicer than being home alone waiting. 

 

Thanks, cynthiamoon! I will try to keep thinking of my increasing moodiness as a positive sign -- hormones have to decrease to get this baby here! I can't even imagine being home alone at this point. Glad you have your mom to wait with you, too. :)

 

 


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Originally Posted by howeberry View Post

 

Zeeohee, I completely understand being tired of waiting. If it helps, I'm 41 + 4 today - you're not the furthest along. winky.gif

 

Do you know if your mom went late with you? Sometimes that can help explain why you're carrying longer too, at least logically, emotionally it may not matter. Hoping for exciting things for both of us soon!

 

Howeberry, your attitude about being so far along is actually really inspiring to me. I imagine if I have another baby who is also this late, it will be a little easier, but you seem so cool and calm about it and I really appreciate reading your words from that perspective! 

 

My mom does not know exactly when she conceived me. But she knew the exact day with my brother and told the doctors what day he would come based on that, even though they were trying to tell her something else. She was right, so I guess that kind of fed into my notions of knowing conception = knowing due date. Sigh.

 

Hoping for an exciting weekend for those of us still hanging in there!

post #63 of 95

Someone just asked when I was going to be induced, because I MUST be past my due date by now

post #64 of 95
Big hugs ladies who are still waiting.
post #65 of 95

Uhg, I am soo upset right now! Yesterday I had a really convincing round of early labor. Had great contractions all day. I checked my cervix and it had moved much lower and more anterior. I was super tired in the evening and hoped I'd be able to sleep a couple hours before hitting active labor, but active labor never came. I thought for sure it would start up again today, but it hasn't. Worst of all, I checked my cervix again tonight and it is once again super high and posterior. I thought I was finally making progress and now its been reversed. Yesterday I thought for sure I'd get to meet my baby this weekend, but now I think I probably won't. I'll be 42 weeks on Monday. My midwife didn't even schedule an appointment with me next week because she was so sure we wouldn't need it. Tomorrow morning we're going to go on a very long walk at one of our favorite parks. Trying to stay positive, but I'm so so disappointed over my reversal of progress. Hope the rest of you ladies in waiting are fairing better than I am!
 

post #66 of 95

I'm feeling so stressed and uptight that my chest hurts :(  We have company for another 8 days.  I was due on the 23rd and have been planning a homebirth all along.  We live with the IL's so the company is not up to me...  I feel like no one cares how i'm feeling about all of this.  No one has ever asked. 

 

I'm about ready to pack up and go to a hotel if I go into labor
 

I'm currently doing absolutely nothing to push labor along.  I really really want to make it another 8 days and have my peace, quiet and personal space back.

post #67 of 95
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Originally Posted by SunnyMuffin View Post

I'm feeling so stressed and uptight that my chest hurts :(  We have company for another 8 days.  I was due on the 23rd and have been planning a homebirth all along.  We live with the IL's so the company is not up to me...  I feel like no one cares how i'm feeling about all of this.  No one has ever asked. 

 

I'm about ready to pack up and go to a hotel if I go into labor
 

I'm currently doing absolutely nothing to push labor along.  I really really want to make it another 8 days and have my peace, quiet and personal space back.


SunnyMuffin I feel for you! I was living with my ILs for most of this pregnancy and wasn't sure if we'd be able to get our own place before the baby was born. Thankfully we were, but I totally understand how you are feeling. I was freaking out, we didn't even have a private bedroom to use, so I honestly considered a hotel too. Have you talked to your midwife about that option? I've known midwives in the past who used extended stay hotels for clients who were out of their travel range or couldn't birth at their own home for whatever reason. Have you tried talking with your hubby and in-laws and honestly tell them how you are feeling? Or at least talk to your hubby and get him to talk to his parents for you? I know that would probably be really really hard, but maybe it would help. Maybe they're not asking how you're feeling because they're just oblivious. You may not go into labor until after the guests leave if you are so stressed, but my concern would be that if you do, being so uncomfortable and stressed during labor could make it much longer and possibly more painful. Relaxation is such an important part of natural birth. Maybe they need to know that? *HUGS!*

post #68 of 95

My only consolation at this point is that most of the anxious calls/texts/facebook messages are being directed at my family, and not at me. It's funny how many people seem to think OBs have a crystal ball because I already had one person be shocked that I don't have a more accurate due date by now. She seemed to think they can tell for sure at some point. 

post #69 of 95

Same here, cynthiamoon, and I'm reallllly grateful. My mom does mention when people ask about me, but somehow coming through the filter of her, it feels more like genuine care/curiosity and less naggy/anxious. 

 

I did get one call from one of my brothers-in-law asking when I was going to "re-uncle" him. He reminded me that his wife went to 42 weeks with both of their daughters, so it was actually a funny and helpful call. And nobody has mentioned induction to me which I also appreciate.

post #70 of 95

Still hanging in there. 41+6 today. Had a biophysical profile yesterday that they said she passed "in about two seconds," so I'm all set for...I don't know, another few days? The law in my state will still let me have an out-of-hospital birth after 42w as long as my MWs consult with an OB who agrees that things still look good.

 

I suppose I'm just going to wait it out. We'll see what my MWs suggest at my appointment tomorrow, but they have not so much as offered an internal exam and I think they are going to be pretty hands-off about "natural" induction unless I beg. All my reading so far has suggested that natural methods may not really get things started unless they were going to start anyway, so perhaps this is a good exercise in patience as long as she's healthy. 

 

It was nice to get a little peek at her, since I am just filled with longing for my baby at this point. I'm aching to see her face. She's anterior (yay!) so we couldn't get a shot of her profile. But the four chambers of her heart were clear, and her beautiful spine. I need to hold my baby, y'all. 

post #71 of 95

Zeeohee - Glad to hear everything is going well for you and your baby! I can totally relate to that feeling of just wanting to finally meet your baby. I sometimes get the feeling like I "miss" my baby, even though I haven't even met him yet. Kinda weird.

 

I am 42+1 today. Saw my midwife yesterday and it looks like I am finally getting closer though. My fundal height dropped 5cm in the past week and I'm 75% effaced now. (Only 1cm dilated, but I don't tend to dilate until active labor.) Baby is so low he is killing my sacrum. I feel like I'm having back labor without the labor. My midwife hasn't suggested any natural induction methods yet. Baby and I are doing great and my due date was kind of iffy in the first place so she's not wanting to rush anything. I read an article on the Midwifery Today website the other day that has really encouraged me to just keep waiting. Its called "A Timely Birth" by Gail Hart. Maybe it will encourage some of you other moms that are "postdates".
 

post #72 of 95
I know what you both mean by missing and longing for a baby you've never met. I keep turning to my husband and just saying "I want our baby" and he just smiles and reminds me that I'll get my wish. Eventually.
post #73 of 95

41 weeks and a day.  Still hangin on.  My first baby was 42 weeks but I hope I can catch a break this time, I changed my mind about wanting to wait till next weekend.. I'm over it, lol

post #74 of 95
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Originally Posted by gurl8203 View Post

I am 42+1 today. Saw my midwife yesterday and it looks like I am finally getting closer though. My fundal height dropped 5cm in the past week and I'm 75% effaced now. (Only 1cm dilated, but I don't tend to dilate until active labor.) Baby is so low he is killing my sacrum. I feel like I'm having back labor without the labor. My midwife hasn't suggested any natural induction methods yet. Baby and I are doing great and my due date was kind of iffy in the first place so she's not wanting to rush anything. I read an article on the Midwifery Today website the other day that has really encouraged me to just keep waiting. Its called "A Timely Birth" by Gail Hart. Maybe it will encourage some of you other moms that are "postdates".
 

I feel like this too, my low low back hurts SO bad and it's my only real pregnancy complaint.  I feel like a cripple when I try to go pee at night because it hurts so bad walking to the bathroom. 

post #75 of 95
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Originally Posted by SunnyMuffin View Post

I feel like this too, my low low back hurts SO bad and it's my only real pregnancy complaint.  I feel like a cripple when I try to go pee at night because it hurts so bad walking to the bathroom. 


Stretching and hot showers have been helping me a lot with this!

post #76 of 95

Thanks, gurl8203! That article was definitely helpful.

 

Unfortunately, after my MW appt yesterday at 42 weeks, I'm feeling very much "on the clock." I have until 43w before I have to transfer care, and at that point it will probably be an immediate induction. Feeling pretty conflicted about how to progress. My mom leaves next Tuesday, though she will stay for a few more days for the induction/birth if baby isn't here yet. Part of me wants to be patient, but I am feeling very squeezed by all these factors. I tried using my breastpump last night at the suggestion of my mw, which definitely set of some contractions, but nothing that lasted (and it was REALLY uncomfortable, eeek!). I'm feeling pretty tempted by castor oil at this point.

post #77 of 95

I'm seriously thinking castor oil Saturday morning if no baby by then! I heard from an l&d nurse friend that if you cook it in scrambled eggs it helps you to not get so sick from it.
 

post #78 of 95

I went from saying "don't want to try castor oil" Wednesday afternoon to "well, maybe I'll just buy a bottle while I'm here at the drugstore" Thursday morning to "okay, I'm going to do this now" Thursday evening.

 

It really was not horrible at all. I drank 2 oz at 5:30 pm with orange juice and it had no flavor and just a little bit of after-texture reminiscent of those old Halloween wax lips. Nothing really happened until 9:30 pm, when I spent a little time, uh, clearing out in the bathroom, but that was not as bad as I feared. I went to sleep right after. Woke up again at 1:30 with combination intestinal cramps/contractions, which was a little overwhelming until I went to the bathroom once more. After that I had about 30-45 minutes of very regular 5-minute-apart contractions, but when I decided to see if I could get back to sleep, everything stopped. And I woke up STILL PREGNANT and not at all in labor! Oh, well. I will try it again if I have to, if it means just one more try before medical induction.... Definitely not a bad experience, even if it didn't work this time.

 

Had another BPP this morning. Another 8/8, so she is totally fine in there. They did some measurements this time and are not at all concerned with her being huge or anything, either. Fluid levels are quite a bit lower than Monday, but I feel certain that the castor oil's effects probably contributed to that. Got to see her lips making sucking movements and her little toes wiggling. Now I need to see them on the outside! C'mon, baby!!

post #79 of 95

I'm going to try the castor oil 'cocktail' on Monday.  My midwife wants me to use her recipe so thats why I'm waiting till then. I'll be 13 days over monday.   I tried castor oil in a milkshake at 10 or 11 days past with my first son and nothing happened, plus it was disgusting so we'll see how that goes.

 

She is willing to break my water at home on weds (just past 42w) at my request to get labor started.

post #80 of 95

Hope it goes well for you, SunnyMuffin! 

 

I'm 42+2 today and going to meet with the midwife this afternoon to talk about what comes next in terms of more aggressive measures to get this baby moving. We have not talked about sweeping membranes or breaking waters, so it might be time to discuss those options. 

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