So I haven't been on here in a while, but now reach out for some serious support/advice. I know this can be a touchy issue, everyone has their opinions on what's right or wrong with unexpected pregnancies, but I'm really looking for some straight forward/thought provoking perspectives -not a debate on abortion issues.
So, having that said. I currently have a 2.5 yr old daughter and a 1 yr old son (just turned one last month) Both kids were planned and my husband and I really wanted them close together so they would be friends, and we wouldn't have to get out of baby land for too long, before doing over. Both of our kids were HARD infants. They both had/have bad acid reflux and the first 9 months or so for each was a real stress. We're now out of the woods, and feeling good about things, and have been discussing having a third, but know that we're in NO space to have one now.
My body doesn't do well with pregnancy (I have some medical conditions) and the close age gap is actually harder than we thought. We are also tight on money right now, and with both of us working full time, in addition to having kids home full time (we do alternate shifts) it's a tough lifestyle. So anyway, we had a "whoopsy" a few weeks ago, and I took Plan B within 24 hrs of conception, but still managed to get pregnant anyway. I'm currently 6 weeks along, and we're having a really hard time figuring out what to do.
I never imagined myself in this situation, especially knowing that I always wanted three, this should be an exciting time -but it feels anything but exciting. It'll mean I'm doing another 20 month age difference, I have no idea how I'm going to pay for maternity leave (my employer does not offer it) how is it going to affect my then 1.5 yr old and 3.5 yr old? How is it going to affect my marriage? what if it's another bad reflux baby that just screams 24/7? How is my body going to handle another pregnancy so soon? I gained 60 lbs in my first pregnancy, and 80 lbs in my second. I'm still 30 lbs overweight, and can't IMAGINE how big I'll get with the next one.
Anyway, I'm totally bumming about this whole thing. I just gave away all my maternity clothes, baby gear, etc -and it felt great! I was going to go back to school for my masters -sigh. So now I have to decide, do i take the abortion pill that essentially makes you miscarry (before 8 weeks) or do I have the baby and just make it work? I know nobody can answer this question FOR me, but I would love to hear others experiences, opinions, similar situations. thanks so much!