I wish I could say that I didn't care and that any age is fine. but the reality is that I think I would be not comfortable past 6y.o. not sure.
Ds1 weaned at 2 and half, during my second pregnancy. ds2 is 16 months and going strong.
I started to get increasingly tired of nursing when she was around 18 months and started cutting back, then stopped entirely at 23 months after finding out I was pregnant because I am completely uninterested in nursing while pregnant or tandem nursing. I think she had gotten into this habit of having nursing just be her fallback activity and I had gotten into the habit of letting her nurse any time... and it was just driving me bonkers. I switched to only doing a certain number of nursings and doing the "no, we'll nurse after we do X or at X time" thing. It was breaking that habit of boob anytime and having her hear a "no" sometimes and learn that she couldn't nurse any old time she wanted anymore that was really the challenging part, and going from umpty-ump nursings a day down to five was much harder than cutting back from five to four, from four to three, and so on. (I would have taken the typical advice to drop one feeding at a time, but she snacked all the time so there were no fixed "feedings".) By the time we weaned entirely, she did ask a few more times and I nursed her one more time after the "official" stop day, but I think that she adjusted pretty readily. And that makes me question the idea of waiting until the kid is ready... what does that mean? She probably would have gone on nursing just because she could for who knows how long, but stopping it didn't seem to really faze her. So was she ready or not?
I don't have an age limit for the next one. We'll play it by ear. My goal with my daughter was one year and I figured anything else was gravy.
4th birthday maybe. We've gotten close to that a few times but I can't really see going any longer. I don't really enjoy nursing and have usually already had one baby and am pregnant again by that point. Last two were too spaced out to tandem though. If I didn't get pregnant again,I don't know.
I don't know. I nursed my 9 year old the longest, until she was almost 6. I didn't feel I was at my limit there, she just stopped and never asked again. Though TBH she really stopped breastfeeding with any regularity before she was 4, so maybe I'd feel differently had she been more demanding of it.
I wouldn't be comfortable if she asked now, but I think 6 would have been fine. 7 or so might be my emotional limit. But who knows. When I was young and with my first, I said no more than a year. I followed through with that, weaned her at 11 months, and it was painful for both of us. I regretted it while and especially after I did it and I've regretted it ever since, because that limit was based on society's and family's pressures and hang-ups. Maybe my limit of 7 is too but it's definitely more biologically appropriate than 11 months so until/unless I'm confronted with it in real life, I'm sticking with saying that's my limit since I haven't gotten there.
I let DS self wean, and he did so shortly after his 4th birthday. Originally I had planned to wean him around 18 months, but he had not interest in stopping and then I learned more about child led weaning and I figured I'd follow his lead. I actually really enjoy the physical closeness with my children that breastfeeding gives me, and the fact that there's one thing that only I can give them. DD is 2.5 and still going strong, stronger than her brother at this age. I originally planned to let her self wean. I may still for daytime nursing, but I've come to the point where I think I really need to night wean her soon. She still wants to nurse multiple times a night, and it's beginning to seem ridiculous. DS night weaned himself at 4 months. I thought she might take a bit longer, but would certainly do so by her first birthday. Yeah, not so much.
I think the length of time we nurse our children is a personal preference. Barring some kind of medical limitation, I think every mother should do her utmost to breastfeed or provide pumped breastmilk for at least a year, and better yet two. After that, I think you should go with whatever you're comfortable with.
I weaned both my children at the same time. My son was just over five years old and my daughter was almost three. I weaned them because my nursing aversion had hit its peak and was severely affecting our relationships. I start getting the "nails on chalkboard" when they're around 18 months old.
If I were nursing just one child at a time I think my limit would be much higher, probably around 7 years old. We're planning on having one more, so I guess I'll let you know if we make it that long.
The aversion set in with DS at a little over 3 yrs, we weaned at 3.5. My DD is nearing 3 and I'm feeling very strongly about weaning her in the next few months. My body is tired and I'm ready to be past the nursing stage. I've loved nursing for the past 6 + years and wouldn't have done anything differently, though.
Very interesting! DD is still going really strong at 16 months. A lot more than I'd like her to...I feel like I can't sit down without her climbing on me to nurse. I'm definitely not ready to wean though so I still let her, but I do feel annoyed by it sometimes. I always thought I'd wean by 1. My family already thinks it's weird that she's still BFing, but I put DDs needs before their opinions so while it's disappointing to not be supported I don't really care that they think it's weird. I suppose my mental limit is around 2.5/3. We'll see though, I'll probably get there and change my mind!
I am still nursing my 3.5 year old DS, and I have hit several rough patches when I thought I would have to wean him or go nuts, but they passed. Recently it occurred to me that a natural limit is when his first milk tooth falls out, if he hasn't stopped on his own before then. So I guess 6ish would be my limit in theory....