Congratulations Autumn! Your girls are beautiful and I'm so glad you didn't have NICU time and can bring them home with you. That is what I'm hoping for.
Weekly chat thread July 20th-July 26th - Page 2
36 weeks yesterday. No baby for me until at least 40wks, thank you very much. I've got too much to do. :/
I'm finally starting to feel better with the rash, finally sleeping more normally, but I'm so ready for it to be gone. My pharmacist said it's not Uncommon for pregnant women to get shingles. What kind of crap is that, you get to be pregnant and EXTRA uncomfortable??
Glad to hear you are starting to feel better. Yeah, my Dr. said that when she heard "painful rash" and that I was pregnant, her first suspicion was shingles. I agree, either one by themselves is bad enough, why do we have to get them together?
Autumn- congratulations, your girls are beautiful! How is nursing going with twins?
skycheatraffic - I am so done and I am only 35w3d...so long to go. I hope baby makes up his or her mind soon.
Banana - I would LOVE to see pictures of DD's mohawk, sounds awesome!
Me - we had a very busy week at vacation bible school so I declared yesterday a rest/movie day. We were all so tired. I managed to get a good bit of cleaning done but there is still sooooo much to do! But the back / sciatic pain is just too much to do it all at once. At least I am managing better than I was a couple of weeks ago. I am laying on an ice pack now since I am paying for cleaning a lot yesterday. On the one hand I envy those of you who are due in early August, but on the other hand there is still a lot on my to do list! I just want to be a mostly functioning human being again.
8 days until my girls go to their Granna's. I had my reservations about it (I posted a thread a few weeks ago) but it is just necessary at this point. Granna will be way more fun than mommy is right now and then I can focus on preparing for DD3 - (yikes! #3!). I will definitely be setting some ground rules though about food and television.
The doctor said I could get it again and so I should plan on getting the vaccine when I turn 50. The vaccine is not 100% but if you do get it after, it should help reduce the severity.
I totally agree, regular pregnancy aches and woes are enough! I can even begin to imagine where you guys get the strength to deal with shingles. I think I would have sequestered myself to the bathtub to catch all of my tears. I am so weepy as it is. Also, the mamas carrying twins (or more, do we have anyone in the DDC with multiples higher than twins?)... I applaud you as well. I think about all of you ladies when I am feeling whiny. I may not be as capable as I'd often like these days, but I wont whine about it. We have a lot of strong women in this group! I am proud to be a part of it.
I think since Autumn just had her girls I'm the only twin mommy left to still deliver in this DDC no one with higher order multiples that I know of. You know, we deal with what we're given. I am really excited to have twins but it's definitely been a much harder pregnancy than with my DD.
Ditto what everyone said somegirl and Banana, pregnancy is bad enough! Why do you ALSO have to be super susceptible to all other horrible diseasey crap then, too? Want to be a mom? Live like Job for a few months! I guess it's pretty good boot camp for parenthood though...maybe. Still horrible.
Is anyone getting any sleep? I haven't slept past 4 am in a couple of weeks. :/ I am getting really high scores on Gems with Friends, however. Ha!
Can't wait to be one of the ones posting pics in the new arrivals thread!
Crafty, what is gems with friends? My aunt recent turned me on to Candy Crush, which I guess I can just use to replace my bejeweled addiction.
I'm doing ok. Still nauseous and on meds. 36 weeks tomorrow. My big girl turns eight, and I'm planning a small party for this Saturday. Baby is welcome to come anytime after that.
I have been sort of down because I'm having some issues with my midwife, and not sure how to deal with them. This is my second time working with her, and I thought everything went well before, and I thought she was wonderful and supportive. But sometimes she just says little stuff. Snarky. I don't know if it's passive aggressive or what. She knows I've had horrible HG and a messed up diet, and i do the bedt i can. I was talking to her about whether to do or decline the group B strep and I told her I had been itchy. She said in this really accusatory way, "well do you think that's because you drink Dr. Pepper on a daily basis?" I wanted to cry, but I just replied, oh my goodness you sound like you need a hug today" and I hugged her. I hate drinking soda, but it's been true in all my pregnancies that a dark soda is the one drink that settles my stomach after eating. I've tried juices and water and other carbonated drinks, but they make me sick. I do drink lots of water apart from meals, and I'm really proud of that because the first half of my pregnancy I couldn't drink water at all! This is not the first time during this pregnancy I have felt unsupported or talked down to by her. I'm trying to find a way to get past my hurt feelings so I don't carry them into the birth with me. Sorry to ramble and vent. But I do feel a little better now.
Other than that, everything is fine. The baby has been quiet the past couple of days, but when I did kick counts early this morning, I counted 10 in 40 minutes, so that's ok, right? Like many of you, I've been nesty and unable to sleep. I was up at 4 this morning baking banana chocolate chip muffins (killer, by the way). Maybe if I can't sleep well tonight, I'll just get up and start my big baby's birthday cake. She wants lemon, and she's been so sweet and compassionate and helpful during this difficult pregnancy, that I really want to help her have a great day. I got her a magic kit, a pottery wheel, a Harry Potter box set, and an origami book. Maybe overkill, but she's had a lot on her little shoulders the past eight months!!
Anyway, I'm so happy I have you ladies to read about and "talk" to. You've been my little circle of pregnant sisters for the past eight months---and we're all almost there!!!!!
Yipes songbird! That doesn't sound very supportive, especially from someone who works with pregnant ladies and should know how sensitive we often are. I wish with my first that I would have switched midwives, even in the last stretch (frankly, I would have called a different midwife halfway through labor if I could have used the phone at that point!). Can you get a doula (or do you have one)? What does your other support for this pregnancy and birth look like? How did you feel about her during your last birth?
songbird- sorry about the snarky comments from your MW. I couldn't drink water for this PG or with my DD until about halfway through when the nausea went down so I understand that. You have to do what you have to do to stay hydrated and fed and I don't really understand her making a remark about it. Ugh. I hope you feel confident and close enough to her to have the birth you want.
Legih - sorry Bee had a fever. Illnesses are no fun, especially when you think about having a newborn soon.
Banana - Omg, i didn't expect it to be shingles. So sorry for you and somegirl. I can't imagine. Also, the pic thread would be great. Can't wait to see everyone else's little ones.
Edelweiss - I have been keeping you and your little ones in my thoughts. I hope you make it to 37 weeks and you can keep them out of the nicu. Sending you healthy twin vibes. It does make the transition easier to have them with you.
Crunchy - I feel like we are nursing 24/7. I haven't been able to successfully tandem nurse and the nurses gave them pacifiers and we had to supplement with formula so they would let me bring them home. so they have a bit of nipple confusion, but we are plugging along. I might end up mostly pumping, otherwise i may never sleep again.
Calladona- I hope you get to avoid it too.
Songbird- It doesn't sound like your midwife is supportive of your needs. I am so sorry you are dealing with this on top of not feeling well. I wish it were easier to switch care providers. Maybe get a doula to support you if you can't leave your midwife.
Crafty - My husband is the same. He walks in from work and tells me to sit down. And I'm like, "Back off. I've looked after two kids all day, prepared 5 meals/snacks, organised XYZ, typed up the committee meeting minutes, baked and decorated a birthday cake, applied for a different credit card, gotten the XYZ replaced/fixed, cleaned up a child covered in poo, and I have just 30 more minutes of work to do before I'm done for the day. Get out of my way!"
Songbird - Those kinds of comments just aren't ok. I realise not all midwives are created equal, but sensitivity, supportiveness (is that a word?), and acceptance of other people's choices really are prerequisites for the job. But I hope you're able to move past those comments and clear your head for labor and birth. The most important people in the room will be you and your baby, and you'll be able to do this thing together. The midwife is there to make sure you're safe and offer guidance if needed, but you have everything you need within yourself, and you know you're doing your best.
AFM: I brought my MIL to tears at my daughter's birthday party yesterday. In three pregnancies, I've only had 5 or 6 people touch my belly (thank goodness), and none of them have asked. I don't particularly like it, but I've never swatted hands away or said anything about it. MIL in particular always reaches for my belly when she walks in the door. So yesterday she actually asked if I could tell her when baby is kicking so she can have a feel. Since she gave me the opportunity, I just said, "Oh, I actually feel a bit strange about people touching my belly." The look on her face was awful. The room went silent. After a couple minutes of awkward attempts at new conversation, everyone went outside while I cleaned up the table to get ready for cake. MIL came in ten minutes later with wet eyes telling me that she's not a stranger to me and how much I hurt her. I think she expected an apology, as she thinks she has a right to touch her grandchild through my belly. I usually do anything to make the peace, but when it comes to issues of personal space, I think it's important to be honest, so I just told her that it's my body and it feels strange to me. I'm not singling her out. Anyway, she didn't look at me for the rest of the afternoon and only spoke to me to thank me for a lovely party. Awkward. As if I'm not shy and socially anxious at the best of times, now I've got this hanging over us. Agh! She'll also want to be on my doorstep when I arrive home from the birth centre 6 hours after the birth, and I'm not down with that either. Just give me 24 hours to sleep, shower, put on some fresh underwear, and come down from the intensity of birth. :/ Anyway, sorry - just had to vent because I feel crappy about it. I don't think I did the wrong thing, but now she's upset with me.
EA77, so sorry for the awkwardness with your MIL. You were right to be honest and say what you said. It's not like you called her a name or even said something nasty. No one has a right to touch your body just because they want to- stranger or not. I don't know your MIL, but hopefully it will just blow over and she'll be thrilled to hold actual baby. Of course, there is the matter of arriving 6 hours postpartum. In my opinion, it should be yourDH who addresses this with her and just lets her know the whole family needs to rest and decompress for a little bit. Again, she's not a stranger, but she's a visitor to your home and any non-essential personnel can be so overwhelming. My in-laws were planning to descend similarly on us (and attempted to do so at DS's birth), but my DH made it clear that while we want them to visit and see their grandchild early and often, we needed some family bonding/quiet/rest time just us. So then I didn't look like the meany. Unified effort! Solidarity! Good luck to you.