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i'm wondering how many of you that work are still working and when do you plan to take leave?  my plan has been to go to 38 wks but that seems like a long ways off right now and i would happily be done at the end of July if we could afford it. 

 

I'm switching to working from home starting next week through 38 weeks (or perhaps till I go into labor if I'm up for it).
 

There's apparently going to be another baby shower for me here (and then my mom's friends want to throw me one once we get to the States).  I'm not super pumped about the one tomorrow because it's at the house of someone I'm kinda annoyed with lately and whose roommates I don't get along with.  But I didn't have anything to do with the planning.  I'm feeling kinda anxious about our trip.  I just want it to be over with and for us to be in the US already.

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I'll be working until labor...
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Ugh, that cruise sounds like my personal hell. There are family/kid cruises, if you NEED to go on one. Otherwise it seems like you're just torturing the littles.

Annnnnnd I shouldn't have started this post on my phone. I have too much catching up to do.
Edited by mrsandmrs - 7/23/13 at 12:15am
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Originally Posted by CDsMom1031 View Post

I'll be working until labor...

Oh ewww. Bet that doesn't help your higher BP. I'm planning to do the same tho. Well ok, I sent an email saying I'll stop working mid-august but we will see. Now that DH is back to work and state assistance is terminated we are back to a tight budget. I find it sad that on food stamps I got more money dedicated to food then I'd ever be able to spend working PT while DH makes a decent salary full time. Who can spend $500 on groceries alone? I did easily because I bought good organic food. It's really unfair.

You don't nest at all?!? Last pg I just liked to shop. I normally DO NOT enjoy that activity. I also could have cared less about making stuff for baby for the most part, getting things organized (I did at the end tho), cloth diapers, baby wearing. All that crunchy stuff I'd wish I'd known about. I even thought I'd go back to work in 6mos though had a feeling it would all change. And it did-- for the better! I eat so much healthier, stopped smoking and fad dieting and work out way less! If my body would just cooperate. Maybe after this babe I will lose the weight. Yeah, I'd say I really reached my inner crunchy this pregnancy!
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Originally Posted by mrsandmrs View Post

Ugh, that cruise sounds like my personal hell. There are family/kid cruises, if you NEED to go on one. Otherwise it seems like you're just torturing the littles.

Annnnnnd I shouldn't have started this post on my phone. I have too much catching up to do.

Aidenn PLEASE don't go on that cruise!!! Unless they are the really pricey ones I've heard cabin fever is hard to deal with alone not to mention the cloister-phobia (is that really how it's spelled?) being at an all time high. I'd go NUTS with that many kids. Don't do it.

Me too. I'm going to attempt this all on my iPhone. Should be good for the thumbs!
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Originally Posted by vc2013 View Post

everybody else still going strong on the nesting front? or am i the only one who still has tons of stuff to get done before baby?

so i passed the 3hr GD test, hooray! today is my 30wk appointment. i've been feeling some discomfort so i'm gonna ask her to check for a UTI. 

planning to finally sign up for a Costco membership and do our first shopping there today. 

putting away the baby clothes we got from a friend today. 

tomorrow i'm seeing a dermatologist for unrelated stuff. 

this weekend DF is going to Florida for a family reunion - his last trip before baby and apparently it's really important that expectant dads get to do these things while i haven't heard of an equivalent for expectant moms so far. 
i'm hoping to meet up with an acquaintance for some Spa time, but that's not a sure thing yet. planning to get a few more things done around the house to pass the time till DF gets back, so i'm saving putting up the wall decals in the nursery for the weekend. 

I think my nesting is at an all time obsessive high right now. I feel useless if I don't get something done. I hope I don't end up on bedrest because I have SO MUCH to do plus work. But it's ladies like me who do dumb things and overdo it who get into trouble isn't? Go to the spa oh girl you'll love it. Go rent a bunch of movies and food your DH doesn't care for. Go crazy and spend an entire day crafting or organizing. These are all fun things I'd do. Lol I sounds like loads of fun don't I?

Serafina-- I so wish I could get into reading. I've barely read a chapter of a series I was trying to finish. Normally a big reader so that's odd for me.

Dakipode-- my shower is the same weekend ha! This is baby #2 and I didn't even try getting someone to throw it. My sweet sisters just offered. It's really lovely and I'm so happy they've always got my back! DH just told them what I'd like and is helping with plans as well. It's really making me feel loved and I'm in need of that in my current hibernating/nesting/isolated state of mind! I just bought what I wanted and will return duplicates if need be. Just make sure anything you buy is returnable. Truth be told-- you'll get much more stuff you don't need/want and won't have to scramble shop at the last minute. I'm a little annoyed we couldn't have the shower this month. I'll be in hell in the August heat and being forced to drive 45+ minutes away but hey-- I'm not complaining too much. wink1.gif

Like I've mentioned-- I really should never go or see anyone. At a fam get together I mentioned in the last thread where I was "rude" about dismissing gossip, SIL was at it again with DH and wondered why I "asked for such expensive things" on my registry. Uh let's see... A double stroller which I refuse to buy was barely over $100-- maybe (doubtful) my PIL want to splurge and buy it for us? A Beco Gemini carrier at a whopping $128 is the only other thing I added over like $20-30. Mostly knowing I won't get it (who cares!) but that if I wanted to I would get the 10% discount to fulfill on Amazon + free shipping. This is precisely the reason why I don't like registries. But my sister asked me to start one so I did-- it was a wishlist i converted over. I'm very hurt they SIL would say such a nasty and inappropriate thing to DH. Ugh. I don't think I could stand it if she comes to the shower. I hope her and MIL skip out, seriously! I was annoyed my DH forced my sister to invite them because really-- if his family wanted to throw me one they could do it. It's not fair that my fam has to do it! They did last time. The minute my sisters' get prego I'm throwing them both amazing showers! Can you tell I'm bitchy over this?!?!!

I am getting antsy about the home birth. I still haven't gotten my supplies. I feel overwhelmed about labor. I feel like I should take a refresher class but would have to arrange childcare and truth be told-- don't really want to! Can I be a brat and ask my doula to give me a crash course? We have an appt. in Aug.

Also the acid reflux is murder! I barely ate dinner tonigh afraid I'd have another episode like last night. Any good remedies? I did ACV in water for relief and that made it worse. I've been told by my midwife not to eat tums. The aluminum?

I just want to meet this baby already. My excitement is really peaking right now!
Edited by tillymonster - 7/23/13 at 1:04am
post #25 of 122
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Originally Posted by jess707 View Post

i'm wondering how many of you that work are still working and when do you plan to take leave?  my plan has been to go to 38 wks but that seems like a long ways off right now and i would happily be done at the end of July if we could afford it.  
I feel exactly the same way about working till the end of this month. It does look like August will be slower so I'm looking forward to that. As of right now I plan on going till 39 weeks.
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Originally Posted by sarahl918 View Post

dakipode, I still have two showers! smile.gif One is next weekend, and another on Aug 10. I'm not due til the very tail end of Sept, so I guess it's not too late, but it is getting hard for me to resist buying things since in my eyes, I am getting down to the wire. I know it's smarter to wait until after the showers to fill in the gaps in things I "need." 
I felt weird about having more than one. Another friend offered to throw me one as well but I declined. I don't know that many people and I'd rather just have one small party than two very small ones. As it is I'm not expecting more than 10 people total.
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Originally Posted by CDsMom1031 View Post

I'll be working until labor...
I don't think I could do that just because this is my first time and I have no idea what to expect. I'd probably make all my clients nervous too...
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Originally Posted by tillymonster View Post

Like I've mentioned-- I really should never go or see anyone. At a fam get together I mentioned in the last thread where I was "rude" about dismissing gossip, SIL was at it again with DH and wondered why I "asked for such expensive things" on my registry. Uh let's see... A double stroller which I refuse to buy was barely over $100-- maybe (doubtful) my PIL want to splurge and buy it for us? A Beco Gemini carrier at a whopping $128 is the only other thing I added over like $20-30. Mostly knowing I won't get it (who cares!) but that if I wanted to I would get the 10% discount to fulfill on Amazon + free shipping. This is precisely the reason why I don't like registries. But my sister asked me to start one so I did-- it was a wishlist i converted over. I'm very hurt they SIL would say such a nasty and inappropriate thing to DH. Ugh. I don't think I could stand it if she comes to the shower. I hope her and MIL skip out, seriously! I was annoyed my DH forced my sister to invite them because really-- if his family wanted to throw me one they could do it. It's not fair that my fam has to do it! They did last time. The minute my sisters' get prego I'm throwing them both amazing showers! Can you tell I'm bitchy over this?!?!!
I am so clueless about registry and shower etiquette. I put a mix of higher cost items and a bunch of $5-10 stuff to encourage people to get something they can afford and I actually (think I) want. But I don't know about hostess gifts or the little things you're supposed to give to your guests for coming. Really, I wish it wasn't such a "thing", an established ritual.
And as for your SIL commenting on expensive things: it's not like you're forcing people to buy them for you, you're just giving them the option of contributing to something you need!
post #26 of 122
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I worked until labor last time. It wasn't too bad. I would literally go stir crazy if I stayed home before the baby came. Plus I only have 20 hours of PTO, so I'll be taking off as little as possible. Bills don't pay themselves, unfortunately. And we haven't figured out how to survive on one income.
post #27 of 122
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Originally Posted by CDsMom1031 View Post

I worked until labor last time. It wasn't too bad. I would literally go stir crazy if I stayed home before the baby came. Plus I only have 20 hours of PTO, so I'll be taking off as little as possible. Bills don't pay themselves, unfortunately. And we haven't figured out how to survive on one income.
Yeah, one of the big things on my to-do list is review/create budget! I'm in the same boat, having no paid time off since I'm self employed and didn't have the forethought to figure that into my business budget.
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Fortunately DH gets three paychecks in August, so at least our mortgage will get paid early. That'll save us $800.
post #29 of 122
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Originally Posted by aidenn View Post

Unfortunately, I think I overplayed my hand prior to having children by stating that I don't like cruises.  It's not a secret that I am not a big fan of cruises on a personal level because I dislike being places I can't escape and I am a emetophobe.  So, my issues with this cruise are being shunted into the "Brooke is just being a cow about it because she doesn't like cruises."

 

vc2013 - I am sorry that your DF is kind of blind to seeing that his trip is necessary.  Do you think you could bargain it out for a special treat for you - maybe a mani/pedi or a massage or a day just for you?

 

i really don't see any problem in you having your own preferences re:cruises and how you would like to spend your family vacation days. being on a boat with the whole family with no childcare options etc does NOT sound like vacation to me!

 

well, i'm PLANNING on going to do some nail / spa thing. thing is, i don't really feel like doing it. i'm planning on doing it with an acquaintance, never hung out with her alone before.. must still do my research on places. to be honest, i was hoping to go on that trip with DF since i used to live in Florida and i sometimes miss it. there are a bunch of places i'd love to show him there.. alas, he decided he really wants to do this by himself so.. yeah. 

 

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Originally Posted by cmu204 View Post

Vc, I will highly recommend the spa time if you can swing it. I just had my 2nd pedicure ever and I am now hooked! First time I was sort of 'meh' on the whole experience, but this time I went w a GF and it was revolutionary. It was especially wonderful because I can't even reach my feet! wink1.gif

 

i've never had my nails done! so yeah, it will be something nice to try out for the first time. good idea about the pedicure, too! :P

 

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Originally Posted by dakipode View Post

VC: glad to hear you passed the GD test.
Costco is awesome, in my opinion. I think they tend to have better quality stuff at low prices, rather than low quality stuff at very low prices. Plus supposedly they treat their workers fairly well.

Speaking of showers: who still has to have theirs? My friend is planning mine for Aug 17th and that just seems so late to me but it's pretty much decided at this point. I would have preferred to have it earlier because I don't want to be frantically shopping last minute for things we didn't get but maybe it won't be as bad as I imagine it.

 

i actually decided against the Costco idea again. i couldn't find much online about what kinds of veggie / fake meat options they offer.. couldn't even find "tofu" on their website!? since we have a Trader Joe's near Costco, i think we'll just go with that.. until we have like three boys or so and just need to start buying things in bulk. :P

 

i still have to have my shower. i'm glad it's happening at all! we're having mine on Aug 3rd, at our home. doing a baby shower / house warming since we also moved 2 months ago and so far no one has seen the new place! we're a bit remote though so i only have a good handfull of people coming.. i'm trying not to be bothered by it but i am. we're just gonna do a low-key veg-friendly BBQ on our patio, no other plans so far. (any shower musts i forgot? do you, like, have to get people a little thank you gift to take home.. like with weddings? i've only been to 2 showers so far and i don't remember what rituals there are.) 

 

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Originally Posted by greentomato View Post

VC -- It sounds like it's a tough time for your partner to be going out of town.  But, I see no reason why an expectant mom can't do it too.  Actually, I'm heading out of town on a solo trip next week (work + a few extra days visiting family) and it will be my 5th solo trip this pregnancy.  My husband could have chosen to come on all except one -- a last girls only meetup with a close friend, which is probably the trip he was most interested in.  I'm still wondering if we can manage a weekend away together before the baby, but I think other life stuff might get in the way.  Anyway, you should totally plan at least a day just for yourself.

 

i know.. ugh, i'm just moping. it's the hormones. i don't have any friends in the new area yet (read: ZERO). i've moved too much in the last years, my friendships have suffered. i simply don't HAVE anyone to do fun things with right now. the way it looks right now, i will really try for this spa thing with my acquaintance, and spend the next day just cleaning like hell. i haven't even really set up my craft space yet, so stuff needs to be cleaned up and put away before i can start on any of my very basic sewing projects, for example.

 

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Originally Posted by jess707 View Post

i'm wondering how many of you that work are still working and when do you plan to take leave?  my plan has been to go to 38 wks but that seems like a long ways off right now and i would happily be done at the end of July if we could afford it.  

 

i start maternity leave at 36 weeks, which puts me at the beginning of september. my temp comes on mid-August, so i'm counting down the weeks till that happens. if i didn't rely on my health insurance, i probably would have quit my job by now because it's been a huge disappointment so far (i've only worked there for half a year now). 

 

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Originally Posted by tillymonster View Post

SIL was at it again with DH and wondered why I "asked for such expensive things" on my registry. Uh let's see... A double stroller which I refuse to buy was barely over $100-- maybe (doubtful) my PIL want to splurge and buy it for us? A Beco Gemini carrier at a whopping $128 is the only other thing I added over like $20-30. Mostly knowing I won't get it (who cares!) but that if I wanted to I would get the 10% discount to fulfill on Amazon + free shipping. This is precisely the reason why I don't like registries. But my sister asked me to start one so I did-- it was a wishlist i converted over. I'm very hurt they SIL would say such a nasty and inappropriate thing to DH. Ugh. I don't think I could stand it if she comes to the shower. I hope her and MIL skip out, seriously! I was annoyed my DH forced my sister to invite them because really-- if his family wanted to throw me one they could do it. It's not fair that my fam has to do it! They did last time. The minute my sisters' get prego I'm throwing them both amazing showers! Can you tell I'm bitchy over this?!?!!

 

ugh, that sounds like so much BS. sorry you have to deal with it!

as far as shower registries go, i researched the etiquette on that and it's totally acceptable to put a few expensive items on there. explanantion: some people may want to chip in and get you that stroller instead of buying you onesies each.

that said, we don't have any expensive items on our list but that's because we're planning on getting them together with DF's dad when he gets here (hopefully soon!). 

in general, we're treating our registry sort of as our own shopping list. it took a long time to research all the things you "really" need and what material / fabric to prefer over others, etc. so ours is a very basic registry! but each item is high quality and thus costs a bit more. 

i think the most expensive items we have on ours are around $50 (box of diapers).

we're leaving ergo (?) baby carrier, crib, car seat, possibly but not necessarily stroller, etc to our shopping trip with DF's dad.

 

so i had my 30 week appointment yesterday! i am THRILLED to report baby has turned by himself! i got to feel his head - my OB showed me how. you have to press down A LOT with two fingers / two hands at the bottom of your uterus, then you'll feel "something like an orange" as she put it.. can't believe i felt his head! i was a bit worried he might not turn, it seems to happen a lot.. OB said once they turn, they usually stay turned, too.

 

oh, man.. my OB is so strange. we picked her because she was recommended to us by several midwives and some moms. she's great in the sense that she dislikes any unnecessary medical procedures - she works with midwives (ONLY one in our county!) and seems very common-sensical. however, she is very detached.. might belong in a research lab rather than private practive. she doesn't really warm up to people, it seems (and despite great medical reviews, i keep hearing about this too). i have to ask a lot about what certain medical terms mean, somehow she doesn't get that i didn't go to med school and thus don't know what things mean, often. or, yesterday DF exclaimed how thrilled he is that everything has been going so great and smooth so far. to which she replied "oh, that doesn't mean anything. we might still run into complications!" i understand that that's a true statement, but still i asked myself: WHY would you say something like that? 

post #30 of 122
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Originally Posted by jess707 View Post

i'm wondering how many of you that work are still working and when do you plan to take leave?  my plan has been to go to 38 wks but that seems like a long ways off right now and i would happily be done at the end of July if we could afford it.  

Still working, and plan to work till the end *if* I can get my manager to agree to add the vacation I have to my leave - if not I'll take those days off before my due date, or maybe next week whilst my parents are in town.

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I'll be working until the end of August which is just before 37 weeks. Wish I was leaving earlier than that as we're using this baby as an excuse for me to leave a job I hate. But I am taking two weeks off starting next week anyway because we're doing a trip up north.

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I finish work in 2 day!! In one way I'm happy coz its just too hard to do now but, I think I'm gonna get bored lol
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Enjoy it, serena! Your job sounds tough! You'll have time to satisfy any nesting urges: cleaning, crafting, decorating, cooking...
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I'm hoping I'll have more motivation without the 60 hours of work knackering me out and I'll get stuff done smile.gif
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tillymonster-have you tried papaya enzyme?  You take it as you would tums, but they don't have anything nasty like aluminum-they taste better too.  You want to stick with a brand found at a health food store or somewhere you know sells quality supplements.  I've found that all brands are not equally effective and place of purchase is generally the deciding factor in that.

 

VC-you may still want to give costco a try.  What they have online is quite different from what is available in store. It's my understanding that if any time during your membership period you are unhappy, they will refund your membership.  We have one, and shop there waaaaaay too much, but with 4 kids, bulk is good. I will say if I recall, there is quite a selection of things like meatless (blackbean based I think) burgers and Morningstar farms products-and they have awesome produce most of the time.  They also have a lot of packaged snacks that are great for the kids, like real fruit leathers such.  There's also a LOT of organic products, and it seems like they're always adding more. They also carry a lot of stuff like organic quinoa and chia seens and flax meal and all sorts of goodies like that.

 

I had an appt with my OB yesterday that went well. Discussed my labor preferences, all of which she's more than ok with.  She likes to do an ultrasound to check on things once I hit 41 weeks, then again at 42, but has no predetermined limit for pregnancy, so it's really just a question of how baby is doing-and she doesn't like to induce without clear medical need, and even then she likes to try natural means of getting things going.  Good stuff.  She did mention my BP, which was 140/80, I usually run like 138/70s, but she said she's not really concerned until it gets to the mid 90s. I will say my 5 year old was with me and bouncing off the walls and driving me nuts when they did my BP, so in my mind, that's what it was from.  

 

We're already in the last few weeks before the kids go back to school, and we just made the decision to put them in school for the year instead of homeschool. Their grandparents are actually paying for them to go to the private school which was my ideal even over and above homeschooling-but affording it wasn't an option, at least for this year. Next year when I don't have a newborn at the beginning of the year, I may revisit homeschooling again, but it's a great school, and there's lots of opportunities for me as a parent to be involved.  I have to say, now that it's settled, I'm looking forward to the last few weeks before baby of just me and my son at home during the day. I was also able to admit to myself how overwhelmed I was feeling at the idea of starting 3 girls off for the year around the time the baby came. So now I'm just excited for school supplies and all the back to school stuff.

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Holy cow, I love yard sale sites. The double stroller we wanted that's $200 new... Totally just bought for $80!!!
post #37 of 122
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VC-you may still want to give costco a try.  What they have online is quite different from what is available in store. It's my understanding that if any time during your membership period you are unhappy, they will refund your membership.  We have one, and shop there waaaaaay too much, but with 4 kids, bulk is good. I will say if I recall, there is quite a selection of things like meatless (blackbean based I think) burgers and Morningstar farms products-and they have awesome produce most of the time.  They also have a lot of packaged snacks that are great for the kids, like real fruit leathers such.  There's also a LOT of organic products, and it seems like they're always adding more. They also carry a lot of stuff like organic quinoa and chia seens and flax meal and all sorts of goodies like that.

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I'm a Costco evangelist, but thefreckledmama is correct.  Ours carries lots of fresh and frozen veggies (for MUCH cheaper than Wal-Mart for the amount we buy for four people) and Morningstar products.  If you buy chia or quinoa or steel cut oats or things like that, their prices cannot be beat.  I have to drive about 45 minutes to get to my Costco, but we spend so much money there when we go, we've gotten our weekly WalMart/Publix bill down to under $50/week for a family of four.  We spend about $200-250 at Costco a month.

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I'm dying inside that there's no way I can buy any food in bulk.  I wish I was back home in the US and could shop at Costco!

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Vc, I think our ob's are either the same person or long lost relatives. I'm happy with my care though, so I try to be zen about her.
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dakipode, I felt odd about having multiple showers, but I had nothing to do with it! My husband and I live in LA where all our friends are, but he is from Nashville and I am from DC area and our respective sisters both threw us showers, plus some friends in LA. We feel very thankful, but I realize its likely because this baby is a first for a lot- us, first grandchild on my side, and we are some of the first of our friends to have a baby. If they were all in the same area I might have objected more but they all had very different guest lists.
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