Originally Posted by aidenn
Unfortunately, I think I overplayed my hand prior to having children by stating that I don't like cruises. It's not a secret that I am not a big fan of cruises on a personal level because I dislike being places I can't escape and I am a emetophobe. So, my issues with this cruise are being shunted into the "Brooke is just being a cow about it because she doesn't like cruises."
vc2013 - I am sorry that your DF is kind of blind to seeing that his trip is necessary. Do you think you could bargain it out for a special treat for you - maybe a mani/pedi or a massage or a day just for you?
i really don't see any problem in you having your own preferences re:cruises and how you would like to spend your family vacation days. being on a boat with the whole family with no childcare options etc does NOT sound like vacation to me!
well, i'm PLANNING on going to do some nail / spa thing. thing is, i don't really feel like doing it. i'm planning on doing it with an acquaintance, never hung out with her alone before.. must still do my research on places. to be honest, i was hoping to go on that trip with DF since i used to live in Florida and i sometimes miss it. there are a bunch of places i'd love to show him there.. alas, he decided he really wants to do this by himself so.. yeah.
Originally Posted by cmu204
Vc, I will highly recommend the spa time if you can swing it. I just had my 2nd pedicure ever and I am now hooked! First time I was sort of 'meh' on the whole experience, but this time I went w a GF and it was revolutionary. It was especially wonderful because I can't even reach my feet!
i've never had my nails done! so yeah, it will be something nice to try out for the first time. good idea about the pedicure, too! :P
Originally Posted by dakipode
VC: glad to hear you passed the GD test.
Costco is awesome, in my opinion. I think they tend to have better quality stuff at low prices, rather than low quality stuff at very low prices. Plus supposedly they treat their workers fairly well.
Speaking of showers: who still has to have theirs? My friend is planning mine for Aug 17th and that just seems so late to me but it's pretty much decided at this point. I would have preferred to have it earlier because I don't want to be frantically shopping last minute for things we didn't get but maybe it won't be as bad as I imagine it.
i actually decided against the Costco idea again. i couldn't find much online about what kinds of veggie / fake meat options they offer.. couldn't even find "tofu" on their website!? since we have a Trader Joe's near Costco, i think we'll just go with that.. until we have like three boys or so and just need to start buying things in bulk. :P
i still have to have my shower. i'm glad it's happening at all! we're having mine on Aug 3rd, at our home. doing a baby shower / house warming since we also moved 2 months ago and so far no one has seen the new place! we're a bit remote though so i only have a good handfull of people coming.. i'm trying not to be bothered by it but i am. we're just gonna do a low-key veg-friendly BBQ on our patio, no other plans so far. (any shower musts i forgot? do you, like, have to get people a little thank you gift to take home.. like with weddings? i've only been to 2 showers so far and i don't remember what rituals there are.)
Originally Posted by greentomato
VC -- It sounds like it's a tough time for your partner to be going out of town. But, I see no reason why an expectant mom can't do it too. Actually, I'm heading out of town on a solo trip next week (work + a few extra days visiting family) and it will be my 5th solo trip this pregnancy. My husband could have chosen to come on all except one -- a last girls only meetup with a close friend, which is probably the trip he was most interested in. I'm still wondering if we can manage a weekend away together before the baby, but I think other life stuff might get in the way. Anyway, you should totally plan at least a day just for yourself.
i know.. ugh, i'm just moping. it's the hormones. i don't have any friends in the new area yet (read: ZERO). i've moved too much in the last years, my friendships have suffered. i simply don't HAVE anyone to do fun things with right now. the way it looks right now, i will really try for this spa thing with my acquaintance, and spend the next day just cleaning like hell. i haven't even really set up my craft space yet, so stuff needs to be cleaned up and put away before i can start on any of my very basic sewing projects, for example.
Originally Posted by jess707
i'm wondering how many of you that work are still working and when do you plan to take leave? my plan has been to go to 38 wks but that seems like a long ways off right now and i would happily be done at the end of July if we could afford it.
i start maternity leave at 36 weeks, which puts me at the beginning of september. my temp comes on mid-August, so i'm counting down the weeks till that happens. if i didn't rely on my health insurance, i probably would have quit my job by now because it's been a huge disappointment so far (i've only worked there for half a year now).
Originally Posted by tillymonster
SIL was at it again with DH and wondered why I "asked for such expensive things" on my registry. Uh let's see... A double stroller which I refuse to buy was barely over $100-- maybe (doubtful) my PIL want to splurge and buy it for us? A Beco Gemini carrier at a whopping $128 is the only other thing I added over like $20-30. Mostly knowing I won't get it (who cares!) but that if I wanted to I would get the 10% discount to fulfill on Amazon + free shipping. This is precisely the reason why I don't like registries. But my sister asked me to start one so I did-- it was a wishlist i converted over. I'm very hurt they SIL would say such a nasty and inappropriate thing to DH. Ugh. I don't think I could stand it if she comes to the shower. I hope her and MIL skip out, seriously! I was annoyed my DH forced my sister to invite them because really-- if his family wanted to throw me one they could do it. It's not fair that my fam has to do it! They did last time. The minute my sisters' get prego I'm throwing them both amazing showers! Can you tell I'm bitchy over this?!?!!
ugh, that sounds like so much BS. sorry you have to deal with it!
as far as shower registries go, i researched the etiquette on that and it's totally acceptable to put a few expensive items on there. explanantion: some people may want to chip in and get you that stroller instead of buying you onesies each.
that said, we don't have any expensive items on our list but that's because we're planning on getting them together with DF's dad when he gets here (hopefully soon!).
in general, we're treating our registry sort of as our own shopping list. it took a long time to research all the things you "really" need and what material / fabric to prefer over others, etc. so ours is a very basic registry! but each item is high quality and thus costs a bit more.
i think the most expensive items we have on ours are around $50 (box of diapers).
we're leaving ergo (?) baby carrier, crib, car seat, possibly but not necessarily stroller, etc to our shopping trip with DF's dad.
so i had my 30 week appointment yesterday! i am THRILLED to report baby has turned by himself! i got to feel his head - my OB showed me how. you have to press down A LOT with two fingers / two hands at the bottom of your uterus, then you'll feel "something like an orange" as she put it.. can't believe i felt his head! i was a bit worried he might not turn, it seems to happen a lot.. OB said once they turn, they usually stay turned, too.
oh, man.. my OB is so strange. we picked her because she was recommended to us by several midwives and some moms. she's great in the sense that she dislikes any unnecessary medical procedures - she works with midwives (ONLY one in our county!) and seems very common-sensical. however, she is very detached.. might belong in a research lab rather than private practive. she doesn't really warm up to people, it seems (and despite great medical reviews, i keep hearing about this too). i have to ask a lot about what certain medical terms mean, somehow she doesn't get that i didn't go to med school and thus don't know what things mean, often. or, yesterday DF exclaimed how thrilled he is that everything has been going so great and smooth so far. to which she replied "oh, that doesn't mean anything. we might still run into complications!" i understand that that's a true statement, but still i asked myself: WHY would you say something like that?