I'm writing on behalf of my parents, who are getting really frustrated with my 21 year old sister. (Side note- sorry if this is the wrong place for this post, but I wasn't really sure where to put it, so feel free to move it if necessary! :) )
Basically, she started dating someone who my parents don't love- he's 23, unemployed (not ambitious about finding a job), and we suspect/have some confirmation that my sister pays for at least some of his stuff. He has some other sketchy behaviors I won't go into. He lives at home as well, with his Dad. She lives at home with our parents.
The problem is that she's hardly ever home, and when she is, she makes a mess or uses their stuff without picking up. She owes my parents for car insurance (which they lent her money for when she got her car, it was a one-time thing), and won't pay them back. She doesn't pay rent or anything. She comes in and out of the house at odd hours and usually ends up in an argument with my Mom or someone else.
My Dad's about at his wit's end, he and my Mom are on the verge of kicking her out, but they're afraid of just driving her into the arms of her boyfriend.
I'd love to hear from anyone who has dealt with something like this, or knows someone who has. Specifically any tips on how to talk to her without fighting- I think my parents have trouble with this, too.
Thanks in advance.