I was soooo nice and patient at first, but over the last few months it's really getting to me as I near my due date with our next baby. My son turned 2 in april and he is just not impressed by how upset I get when he throws his food on the floor. I'm starting to feel like I am not doing something right as a parent. This is one of the first lesson we teach our kids about right vs. wrong and is the beginning of them developing conscience. I really want to teach him the right way. What is the right way?
I didn't really feed him solids regularly as meals until he was 14 months old, then I did not really focus on making him learn to feed himself until he was almost two. Even now, I still feel it is easier and better for him if I spoonfeed him because he seems like he isn't really in to eating otherwise.
Am I spoon feeding him too much and not making him work for it enough?
I notice he will throw food more when he is tired, but when he is not tired am I setting my expectations too high? I would think by now he would not throw food every time he is finished eating. It's not that he throws it per se, but he drops it on the floor or rubs it into his tray. I have tried everything from back when I was so patient and gentle, to yelling to soft disapproval and a sad expression to sad faces to making him clean up the mess. But it's not improving, it's getting worse!
I am afraid I am going to make him have OCD when he grows up. He says "no mess!!!" all the time. Poor baby! I do try to let him make a mess with paints and sometimes give him the green light, but that has not seemed to help things. I have a tiny table and chair he used to sit at and have his meals, which helped for a while, but then he started getting up too often for me to have the patience to sit him back down. I think the novelty of it wore off for him.
I have been meaning to read The Emotional Life of the Toddler to get better acquainted with what's going on in his curly little head but as of now I feel clueless.