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post #21 of 52

My oldest was a FAM failure (though admittedly I wasn't 100% following the rules).  IF I have to go back to FAM, I will be very strict about the rules, which should be enough to encourage DH to get the snip.  I have LONG cycles with LOTS of fertile CM and shorter LPs, so there's not much nakey time. I always ovulate late and the cycle we got pregnant with my oldest, I ovulated on CD 20 (which is SUPER early for me).  She was conceived from BD 6 days prior on a creamy day (not even EWCM).  Can you say "meant to be"? :p  But seriously, I am now pretty paranoid about FAM rules and following them all!

post #22 of 52

Susan - I'm the same way, short LP and long fertile phases and with as careful as I am about not getting PG since it's pretty much guaranteeing another devastating miscarriage, we are very conservative. But I don't know that we're 100% done and I have friends who said they were done and then a few yrs later were regretting having a V....and I have 2 friends who have conceived after V's. I might be relying more on condoms this time because abstaining as much as we did after DD's birth really wasn't great for our relationship, either.

post #23 of 52
I know this will make me sound like a naive teenager, but my husband and I have figured out that a combination of very lightly-followed FAM and the pull-out method work for us. Neither of us wants to do anything permanent yet and I won't take hormonal bc for various reasons. Condoms are okay, but...who really loves them? I am curious about those of you who've not liked the Mirena. I didn't think there was anything hormonal about it, so I wonder why it caused hormonal-type side effects. Thoughts? We may explore that route, but we were able to conceive this baby pretty easily, but also easily avoid before we were ready so we're pretty comfortable with our almost non-method. Maybe just dumb luck?
post #24 of 52
Thread Starter 

Has anyone had a copper IUD and actually liked it?  I really can't see going back to condoms.  We had years of stress free GIO (with DP's vasectomy) so it's so odd to have to be thinking about this!

post #25 of 52
Edelweiss, I wasn't charting. What I meant to say was that we DTD on cycle day 24 and I still managed to get pregnant wink1.gif. We're both very set with two and feel very secure in the decision. I know it wouldn't be the right fit for many but it feels right for us
post #26 of 52
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Originally Posted by CraftyMcGluestick View Post

I know this will make me sound like a naive teenager, but my husband and I have figured out that a combination of very lightly-followed FAM and the pull-out method work for us. Neither of us wants to do anything permanent yet and I won't take hormonal bc for various reasons. Condoms are okay, but...who really loves them? I am curious about those of you who've not liked the Mirena. I didn't think there was anything hormonal about it, so I wonder why it caused hormonal-type side effects. Thoughts? We may explore that route, but we were able to conceive this baby pretty easily, but also easily avoid before we were ready so we're pretty comfortable with our almost non-method. Maybe just dumb luck?

 

The copper IUD is the one without hormones, Mirena has some of the same hormones found in birth control pills (I'd have to google which one, I think it's the progesterone).  Oddly enough, I did fine on the pill, but like I said, the Mirena I think made me have a really bad attitude, along with eyesight changes and other random pregnancy symptoms I'd rather do without if I'm not actually pregnant, you know?  But I know people who do just fine too, so your mileage may vary.  Luckily it's pretty easy to take out... I had no period at all after only a month on it, so that was super nice!

post #27 of 52

For us the copper IUD is out because of the method it uses (preventing implantation).  Anything hormonal is out for the same reason and because I don't like the idea of filling my body with hormones.  And barrier methods are out because they are too "invasive" while DTD. :p  So, that doesn't leave us much.  In our early 30s with 4 kids just over 5 years apart, we know up and down, left and right that we are done.

post #28 of 52

I'm the same way, I tried hormonal bc for one month and it made me very depressed so I won't do hormones. And I won't use a form that prevents implantation either. I wonder if or how we'll ever know if we're done. I just wish I could get pregnant on my own without having a miscarriage, but we've gotten PG every time we've tried.

post #29 of 52
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Originally Posted by Edelweiss98 View Post

I just wish I could get pregnant on my own without having a miscarriage, but we've gotten PG every time we've tried.
Me too, Edelweiss. Have you or your DH ever had testing to determine the cause of your miscarriages?
post #30 of 52

I had the copper IUD for 1.5 years and had really heavy bleeding with it.  Like bleeding 50% of the time.  I couldn't tell when I was having my period or not.  And by heavy, I mean overflowing a Diva cup in less than 2 hours, day and night, for a few days straight in a row.

 

Also some women have other side effects from all the copper going in your body.  I might have had some of those effects as well but it was not as bad as hormonal BC so didn't pay attention to that.  I believe there are a number of threads on it on the "Family Planning" part of this board (search on copper or paragard).

post #31 of 52
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Originally Posted by thecoffeebean View Post



Me too, Edelweiss. Have you or your DH ever had testing to determine the cause of your miscarriages?

 

I have very low progesterone but it's enough that I ovulate but not enough to sustain a pregnancy even with very heavy supplementing  of progesterone. We have our twins because I was on a high dose of Clomid to get my progesterone to a normal range, normal dose didn't do much at all for me. But I had no problems with DD and she was my first pregnancy. So I don't know what happened to my body but it sure makes things hard. I get so attached to my babies right away and it's been a huge grief journey the last few years.

post #32 of 52

I haven't been on hormonal BC for about 10 years, and w/condoms/pull out and alot of prayer we have only conceived twice with a good amount of charting/planning. hormonal bc was not a good experience for me from what i remember, but we are committed to keeping our family small. Maybe I will look into barrier method +condoms for the time being.  I don't think using a diaphram or the like would put that much of a damper on our sex life, there's not a lot of "spur of the moment" moments in our house. Like others here, DH will probably only take care of things with a lot of coaching, conjoling, hand-holding, etc. Its kind of irritating to me, given all the physical ailments I will have gone through to have babies! 

post #33 of 52
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Originally Posted by CraftyMcGluestick View Post

I know this will make me sound like a naive teenager, but my husband and I have figured out that a combination of very lightly-followed FAM and the pull-out method work for us. Neither of us wants to do anything permanent yet and I won't take hormonal bc for various reasons. Condoms are okay, but...who really loves them? I am curious about those of you who've not liked the Mirena. I didn't think there was anything hormonal about it, so I wonder why it caused hormonal-type side effects. Thoughts? We may explore that route, but we were able to conceive this baby pretty easily, but also easily avoid before we were ready so we're pretty comfortable with our almost non-method. Maybe just dumb luck?

I'm sorry to hear so many people have had a bad experience with Mirena. I loved it! I had it between dd1 and dd2. I never had a period for the 2 years I was on it and no side effects. I had it removed and we were pregnant two months later. I plan on getting another one at my 6 week check up and it's not coming out for 5 years when I get a new one.

We are 110% sure we're done, but we're not comfortable with anything permanent. DH told me before we got married he didn't want a vasectomy and I might consider getting my tubes tied, not until my 40's.
Edited by bdoody11 - 7/25/13 at 11:43am
post #34 of 52
Oops, double post.
Edited by bdoody11 - 7/25/13 at 12:30pm
post #35 of 52

Just noticed that no one has posted about depo provera, so thought I'd share my experience with that. I got it (just once, so a 3 month dose) after my first pregnancy (loss) and it was agony. I had cramps for months after getting it and even though cycles are supposed to return after 3 months, I didn't have more than brown spotting for an additional 3 months. I really didn't like it, especially since there's no stopping it like pills, or getting an IUD removed.

post #36 of 52

I told husband the other night about this thread and to actually get him onboard/informed of our plan (which is the same as last time) and then that after the next baby, the snip for him.

If he can handle laser eye surgery, a V sees about the same. Weekend recovery, outpaitent surgery offside, squemish location.

post #37 of 52
Because I am having my 4th csection, this particular office has asked me every single Appointment if I want my tubes tied. (We feel we 4 is good, but I don't want it done) so we have been telling them my husband will be having a vasectomy. Last week the medical student asked what ELSE I was planing to do for birth control. I told him I was planning on washing our underwear in seperate loads. He wasn't amused, but what else would I be expected to do??
post #38 of 52
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Originally Posted by harmie0515 View Post

Because I am having my 4th csection, this particular office has asked me every single Appointment if I want my tubes tied. (We feel we 4 is good, but I don't want it done) so we have been telling them my husband will be having a vasectomy. Last week the medical student asked what ELSE I was planing to do for birth control. I told him I was planning on washing our underwear in seperate loads. He wasn't amused, but what else would I be expected to do??

Geez- why is it his business? Maybe you want to have 40 kids! Maybe you want to do jumping jacks or perform magic tricks. Ha! Unless a person is assisting you in administering your chosen birth control or you choose to confide it, I cannot imagine why they think this very private thing is their business to ask about. Some people!

Now, I did meet a couple for whom a vasectomy (and a repeat vasectomy! Lord have mercy!) did not work, but I think for most people, that's pretty darn effective by itself.
post #39 of 52
Harmie: maybe I'm extra tetchy and slightly agro but I would raise your concern with med student's sass with the doctor managing them.
post #40 of 52

I love your response about washing underthings separately. ROTFLMAO.gif

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