I was hoping to get some guidance here from you gentle parents. My daughter is 4 and I am finally growing very tired and annoyed of the multiple whining requests. For example, this morning, she asked for me to fix her bun (she hates wiggling hair). I am nursing her one year old brother and I nicely tell her to please wait and when I am done, I will help her. In the meantime, I am asked over and over again with tears and whining. It is driving me bonkers. Today, I actually made her wait a little longer just because I was so annoyed. I was saying things like, "I asked you to wait and be patient and you kept on asking...now I am very fursterated...I am trying to teach you to be a little more patient....mommy had her hands full and wanted you to understand that...and now you will need to wait a little longer" I am pretty sure these are stupid and unproductive things to say. I also know that this is normal behavior...I am just wanting tips on what I can say or do. Is there something else I can do or say to help this situation? It is multiple things every day. If she asks me to read her a book and I say, sure let me go to the bahtroom and change your brothers diaper and then we can read. In the meantime, she asks me to read the book while I am using the toilet or follows me around the house asking, "when can we read the book, when, when, when?"
I assure you I am very patient and gentle, BUT today I felt extremely annoyed. If she asks for something to eat, she stands at my feet and asks multiple times while I am preparing her food. She also asks for 5 additonal new things during that time. I told her to please get in her seat and I will bring it to her.
I have been saying things like "please don't ask me again, I am getting frusterated and I need a few minutes...I think I may need to take a break upstairs (bonus room that is gated off). I don't like that I am doing and saying these things, but I also don't know what else to do.
I know that more patience is needed on my part, but I also wonder if she is old enough to not have everything delivered to her upon immediate request.
Thanks for reading and any tips you can offer. This is new uncharted territory for me.