THis morning, we all woke up in the big bed and she said, "can we go into the living room now?" I was on my way, but just opening the blinds, turning off the fan and sound soother, folding a few blankets, which all takes 3 minutes. During this time she kept repeating herself over and over again. Then we come out to the living room and she asked for her vitamin 5 times in 2 minutes. I did something that might or might not be a good idea. I said, "i have asked that you stop asking over and over again and you keep asking....now we have to wait on the vitamin for 5 minutes and during this time, I don't want you to ask again, or we will wait even longer to get it." This felt a little harsh, though I didn't shout it or wasn't too angry (just annoyed). Does this sound reasonable to you guys? Or is this a punishment?
I'm going to answer a direct question and say that, yes, I do think your response to her is a punishment. Prefacing that with a comment that I think all "logical consequences" are punishments. Yes, it is 10 fold better if the punishment fits the crime...but it's still a punishment. I don't think that a "logical consequence" is not GD - surely it's way better than some random punishment BUT I do think that consequences should be doled out sparingly.
In this life situation, I would be asking myself if this is one of the hand full of times that I want to be bringing in "the big guns".
For me, the answer would be "no". I feel like there aren't enough alternatives exhausted yet.
My gut tells me that if it felt harsh to you, that it probably was harsh. Now, your kid can deal with that!! I'm a big believer in the resiliency of our kids. But, if this were me, I think I would back track and see if there are some preventative or creative ideas that I can use instead of a more "heavy-handed" approach.