Hi there good folks,
Tantrums comes up a lot in the search results - but I'm wondering if anyone has experienced what we are at the moment....
My daughter (very nearly 3) has just been ill for the first time ever. We are still unsure what caused it (either a reaction to biscuits with quinoa seeds in, or maybe a gastric bug) - but she became very ill for 24 hours a few days ago, then recovered relatively rapidly. During that time she vomited, only twice, but was not at all herself, had a very high temperature and was almost completely lethargic.
As I said, she bounced back pretty quickly (though it scared us no end!) and the second day she was well enough to eat her dinner, and the third morning she seemed back to 'normal'.
However, since then (i.e. the day she felt and seemed better, and ever since) she has suddenly been having these raging, wailing, hitting (hitting me mostly), super-sad, MEGA-tantrums! About all sorts of things, and so frequent that it feels like the last three days has been a constant tantrum.
The things is - she NEVER did this before. We had the odd little meltdown...but these are very different - and she seems like a completely different little person. I'm at a complete loss.
We have a lot of other things going on (we are both very busy gearing up to move into a new house) - and her Nana is visiting, and sometimes this causes me a little bit of stress...so it could be rubbing off on her a little. However, both these two things have been happening on and off for some time and have never caused giant stress in her, or meltdowns such as we're witnessing now. There is a chance that she might not be sleeping well at night too...but in the past, overtiredness has not caused this kind of thing.
I have two questions:
1. Does anyone have any experience of SUDDEN tantrums occuring after an illness? If yes...should we be doing something special to reassure her, or....? (really, am at a loss - as all other things are normal).
2. If this is the beginning of a new developmental phase (oh, please no) - I'm very confused about the advice out there about how to handle these raging type tantrums. Ignoring her escalates it beyond belief. The best I've come up with is just to get down to her level, or pick her up and wait for it to finish (eventually). The confusing thing is she's tantruming about everything - wanting something, not wanting something, something is not right, something is not in the right position....going out...staying in....etc etc.... It seems 50/50 anger and overwhelming sadness, every time. She's getting herself very worked up. It's breaking my heart.
Anyway, I'd love to hear anyone's thoughts.
Am hoping it's just a crazy phase brought on by a wee illness (that may have scared her deep down) - rather than the start of a whole new permanent thing.
Thanks for reading.