PSA for Single Parents

[Patchy Dragon]

After an hour long discussion with a fellow single mama last night I felt I needed to share a tidbit of info that we sometimes forget about.

We are parents through and through and do the very best we can for our "families" but we often forget we are individuals as well. Try and do something at least once a week to feel like that special individual that you are. It can make the world of difference in how we precieve ourselves and situations.

[mocha09]

what does psa mean?

[Soul-O]

Originally Posted by mocha09

what does psa mean?

PSA = public service announcement

ITA Dragonfly - I get so caught up in the day-to-day reality of parenting my two boys as best I can, the most naturally attached way I can, and I often lose sight of my own needs. I am not able to take my little one to the YMCA with me anymore (he would stay in the play area while I took pilates or yoga) because his separation anxiety is so severe that if I leave him with anyone other than his grandparents he is inconsolable (to the point of crying so hard that he nearly vomits) within two minutes. So.... I've started going to the Y only on Saturday mornings (during stbx's visitation) for pilates, then taking myself out to the bookstore for lunch and a good read before going home to clean house and wait for the boys to come home. When Adam is more able to adjust to new caregivers (and I'm not pushing him), then I will attempt to do more for myself.

Thanks for the reminder - self care is vital.

[girlzmommy00]

Thank you, Katie. Good timing for me. I need to remember to do somethings for me.

Tabitha, my 4 year old also went through the separation anxiety. It started right after DH walked out. I think she was worried that if he just up and left, that I could do the same thing. She'd been going to counseling and is dealing a little better now. It will take time but eventually he'll come to understand that you are there for him and will be, even when you are apart. I know some of it comes with their ages, but I saw a huge increase in the anxiety after DH left. She started sleeping with me at night and I ended up having to quit my part time job, since it was upsetting her so much. She still has a hard time in different situations but has recently moved back to the room she shares with her older sister. She's taking little steps but I'm happy to see her happier. I miss having her as a roommate, but I'm proud of her and her efforts.