We thought our 8 week old baby had colic, or some sort of digestive issue. About 30 minutes after a feeding (keep in mind that sometimes I feed him for up to an hour because he'll doze at the breast, I'll burp him, change him, walk with him, then feed some more)....anyways, 30 minutes after this, or sometimes even right after, he would get really fussy and cry inconsolably. We couldn't comfort him by holding him, unless we were walking with him and he could look at things, but that seemed to only put a Bandaid on his crying/wiggling/figiting. We couldn't just hold him in a rocker to calm him, in any position, he would wiggle and cry. When we'd lay him on the floor, he would figit like he has gas.
Anyways, I finally have relented and started laying him in his crib. It seems like what you shouldn't do..... when they are crying hysterically and wiggling.....he is clearly not tired, I thought. Most of the time, no yawning or eye rubbing. Just an unhappy baby who figits. I thought, he must be uncomfortable. He must need me (note that I wasn't wearing him, see below).
Well, it seems like he needs the opposite of me? Because I discovered that when I lay him in his crib, on his tummy (took me awhile to have the courage to do that, but discovered on accident that he likes it)......he is quiet in about 1 minute flat, once I walk out of the room. And sometimes he just lays there awake, or with eyes a little droopy, but quiets right down.
I think he was just in need of a nap, all those times? And was overstimulated? It is all coming back to me now.....all the things I've heard and read about one reason for crying being "they need a nap," or "overstimulated." I guess I never thought my QUIET house (no other people, no TV), with zen, minimalist home decor....scarcely even a pattern.... was overstimulating to him.
We weren't using a sling or babywearing.There is a possibility that he would have fallen asleep in a sling, but we hadn't gotten one yet, because of my bad back. But logic would have told me that if he doesn't want to sleep in my arms, a carrier wouldn't help. Can a sling or other unstructured fabric carrier be better for these situations vs trying to hold a baby that doesn't want to be held? Or should I just leave the issue alone, and let him have the crib, every hour and a half?
I know he loves me; he smiles at me when I get him up from sleeping, and when I change his diaper. But maybe I just need to accept that he needs his alone time, to either zone out or sleep. He doesn't want me talking to him all the time. I don't need to be trying to get him to smile an hour after his feeding. Thoughts?
Edited by bobcat - 7/25/13 at 1:04pm