I am expecting my first baby any time now and we are so lucky to have lots of family and friends who are excited too. I've been very interested in and involved with Early Childhood Education and Developmental Theories since I was a teenager, so most people who know me well have heard a rant or two from me on the subject over the years. I am a huge play advocate, and am a believer in Waldorf education. We have a wonderful Waldorf school here (Toronto) and I have many friends who have attended. We are planning to follow some Waldorf philosophies with our little one right from the start. So far it has been easy because we've gotten everything prepared on our own and haven't had a shower (my mom just finished going through chemo so we were both focusing on her care).
Now that we're so close, people have been asking what they should get for us. I've given some ideas like spending time with the baby, bringing a dish after baby is born, and clothing in larger sizes. I have shared our ideas about toys in a gentle way (also using our small space as a reason not to get toys just yet), but we are getting all kinds of noisy/light-up talking toys. I don't want to be ungrateful, because we really are so very lucky, and I don't want to take the fun out of baby shopping for others. How have you Waldorf parents handled this type of thing? How do you balance your personal beliefs with others just wanting to love and do for you even if it doesn't mesh? Do you use the plastic/noisy toys anyway when whoever gifted them are around, or do you pass them along? I don't want to hurt any feelings. I'm feeling like an ungrateful control freak, I just really don't believe in the value of passive toys and am not comfortable including them right from the beginning.
Any advice you can share, even if it's to "relax and let it go" would be very appreciated. Thank you so much.