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Baby habits thread - Page 10post #182 of 2498/21/13 at 4:07pmMy pediatrician said that around 1month I should start cluster feeding around 6, 8, 10 pm then do a bedtime routine to start training her that nighttime is for sleeping longer. Although the stretches at night won't be too long yet as she's still small (not yet 8 lbs and almost 1 month old) but will get longer as her stomach gets bigger.
I'm curious if anyone had a bedtime routine yet and what it consists of? Songs, etc?post #183 of 2498/21/13 at 4:57pmpost #184 of 2498/21/13 at 5:26pmFor bed time we go into the bedroom, get clean diaper, pj's on, turn lights off. Seems silly but he seems to know it means bedtime. I posted last night that he slept 7.5 hours the night before then last night he slept 3 then 2.5 and off on all day and we're getting up for school now too. So I'm basically running on fumespost #185 of 2498/21/13 at 5:58pmpost #186 of 2498/21/13 at 7:34pmpost #187 of 2498/21/13 at 7:40pmpost #188 of 2498/21/13 at 10:47pmI honestly don't remember last night. It was a blur of fussing, nursing, diapers, and more fussing. I do remember looking at the clock and it being 7am, a reasonable time to stop pretending it's night time/sleep time and get up. Tonight seems to be heading in the same direction, with an emotionally needy husband thrown in for effect. Could it be the full moon?post #189 of 2498/22/13 at 7:14am
I was starting to feel good about the waking every 3 hours nighttime rhythm we were getting into, then Clover spent all night grunting and wiggling and fussing and pooping last night, too. She usually sleeps next to me on her side (she started rolling onto her side at 3 days, so I'll go with it), but last night she just seemed to want to be held. But of course not in any position that I could actually get to sleep in. Plus she started shrieking when she'd be eating and then pop off the nipple. She would be the one to pop off but then she would freak out when it wasn't still in her mouth. And so much poop. Epic poop.post #190 of 2498/22/13 at 7:48amIt's just a mess. All this nighttime business. Mess.
My guy was up for two hours again last night- im right there with you with the grunting and nursing/not nursing/sleeping on chest from 2:30-5:30 and there was a raccoon in the chicken house again and then DH had to go into work early so my darling older children's sweet faces were surrounding me at 6:45 wanting breakfast.
I should clarify who is a mess. It's me. And today a photographer is coming to take pictures of me and the baby. (I'm looking good right about now, I tell you.)
Does anyone else dread the nighttime? It feels like 8 o'clock rolls around and my stomach sinks because the night is so long and hard.post #191 of 2498/22/13 at 8:15amSo glad I'm not the only one with bad nights. Last night, we were fussy but ok until 9 when she projected her entire meal through her mouth and nose all over me, herself, and the sofa. All bets were off after that. She fussed her way from 12-2 (which we spent in the rocking chair$ and again from 430-6. Couldn't even get her to latch on one side--she just fussed. My husband took her from 6-7 so
I could get some sleep. And now, we've been up since 7:15. She ate about 8 minutes then (and spit half up in chunky junk) and 5 now (at 9). I have no idea what's going on.post #192 of 2498/22/13 at 8:22am
Yes! I dread night time. For me it sets in after dinner, as my husband suggests we watch an episode of Dexter from Nexflix, as we did before Lila was here. For him, this time is the same: dinner, watch a show, go to bed. For me, it's a totally new reality: half-watch the show because I'm also watching the clock tick by as I think how soon I will be awake with a baby that seems like she wants to nurse but pops off over and over, then roots and tries sucking on other parts of my breast that are not designed to be sucked on.
(Does anyone else's baby do this? Lila has started using her legs, which are long enough now when I'm nursing to touch the side of the couch, chair, bed, to push herself forward, propelling her mouth inches from my nipple, then getting frustrated that there is no nipple in her mouth. While it's a little annoying, it's also totally adorable, because as she pushes forward with her legs, she grunts a giant grunt, like she's jumping her hardest.)
I'm TRYING to find the joy in these challenging moments because Lila is our planned only child, and I will never have these moments again. I saw a cute thing on Pinterest the other day that made me cry. (Edit: I cried again while typing it out just now.) Why don't you read it too and see if you cry like me:
One day you will wean from my milk
I will not force you, I will let you naturally
Decide when you no longer need it.
One day you will no longer need my embrace
To drift off to sleep
But until then, I lay beside you
Because these moments don't keep.
One day you won't strive
For my attention as much
So for today, my eyes are
One day you won't want me to carry you
But for today, I will carry you
Because that is what I know is right.
One day you will leave my side and go out on your own
But until then I will stay by you.
One day I will grow old and my memory will fade
And on that day, my beautiful child, please show me this picture
If I ever forget
You are worth every pinch, every stretch mark, every scar
Every single moment that I have dedicated to you
(I did not write this, it is credited to Amanda N.)post #193 of 2498/22/13 at 8:47amOk, so for the past week or so Mason has been doing this popping on and off thing. just like what you guys are describing screaming bloody murder because there is no nipple, but then popping right back off as soon as the nipples back in his mouth. but he has been doing it all day long. we went to the doctor today and he has an ear infection. she said it hurts him to lay flat and suck and that is why he's screaming when he's eating. now we have to figure out how to nurse sitting up. this can also be why does not want to be held any other positions than over the shoulder, and why he doesn't want to be put down (laying flat).post #194 of 2498/22/13 at 10:36am
We had a major improvement in our sleep so I thought I'd pass along a little hope! Eleanor is 7.5 weeks now, and at 6 weeks her midwife suggested we start doing what they call a 'dream feed.' You can google it, but basically it's a feed that she sleeps through. What we do is that I go to bed early--like 8 pm!--in another room, and my partner puts her down. Then he wakes up after a couple hours (or stays up) and gives her a bottle that (I pump earlier) while she sleeps. She usually barely stirs, drinks it up, and proceeds to sleep another three or four hours. So I've gotten 6 hours of sleep by then, and he's gotten a few, then we switch, and I take the shift from 2 am on and he sleeps a good long stretch before he goes to work. I guess you'd need to have a partner on board and be able to do a bottle, but it has SAVED us. We were so tired from being up every 2-3 hours and now we easily get 7 or 8 hours of sleep a piece at night. I sure miss snuggling with him, but right now the ability for us both to get through our days and not drop from exhaustion is important. I have read that you can do a dream feed by breast as well, which is nice in that you don't have to get them up, burped, changed, and back to sleep. Saves so much time!
And I will say too that E is starting to sleep longer stretches. Sometimes 4 hours, even 6 hours, occasionally, at night. She really since 6 weeks has 'gotten' the whole nighttime concept, especially with our new bedtime routine (bath, swaddle, song, rock, put in bed). She also goes back to sleep much quicker at night. This whole deal has been paired with the idea that the more she sleeps during the day the better she will sleep at night, another thing our midwife said. SO TRUE. So I have been trying to teach her to sleep longer stretches (she loves to catnap) by wearing her through long naps. My mom is here right now and she will push E around or wear her through the longer naps too. And if she sleeps well during the day she does great at night.
A few weeks ago she was up every 2 hours all night long. I read all your comments and that was JUST where we were a couple weeks ago... So this is a HUGE improvement. I wasn't sure how we were going to keep functioning but it has gotten so much better! I know sleep is a changing thing and I am sure it won't always be like this, but I feel so much more confident in our ability to help her learn to sleep longer now.post #195 of 2498/22/13 at 10:43ampost #196 of 2498/22/13 at 10:51am
It's totally counterintuitive. I was getting all this advice to 'keep the baby up during the day' to tire her out, but my midwife disagreed, and for us it really makes a big difference. It's as if she gets too tired to sleep well or something. But getting her to have good sleep in the day makes for such a better night, at least for us. Weird, right?post #197 of 2498/22/13 at 11:39ampost #198 of 2498/22/13 at 1:22pmThread StarterQuote:
Absolutely 100% true - even for me. I get to a place where I'm exhausted but too wired to sleep. Not getting enough rest is a form of stress and we fall asleep best when we're relaxed. When my 2.5 year old is rested, she drifts off to sleep. When she misses her nap (sadly napping only happens in the car now :-/ ) she fights and cries and tantrums despite my best efforts to soothe her and she passes out. The only time I'd consider keeping a child up during the day in hopes of better sleep is that awkward time when they're dropping naps and even that has often backfired for me. Babies? No way!post #199 of 2498/22/13 at 1:39pm
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