It came to mind for me because my own plans and expectations are changing around me and it's kind of freaking me out. My husband is definitely a family man more than a career man. He has a good job with a solid salary, but rarely has to work long hours or abandon family time to take a work call. This was really important to me, and we've talked about how we both want to keep home as a priority and forgo very demanding career ascents in order to keep a more peaceful life.
His work is also very family friendly, and gave him a month of semi-paid leave, as well as permission to bring the baby into the office on occasion. We have felt SO LUCKY about all this, and I had not even considered what it would be like if this were to change.
Well, apparently a software release they just pushed has some weird bugs with big consequences and has turned him into a 70hr a week workaholic for the last two weeks and it looks to be continuing.
I am shocked to be due any day now and suddenly without my partner as I know him. He is so stressed and saying how this is the sort of work priority that his bosses would have pulled him out of leave for because he is the main developer.
I am freaking out because I'm suddenly terrified that if this goes on, I'll be parenting alone those first weeks after all, especially if I go late and my mom goes home soon after the birth.
I have no plan B, no friends with kids to help, and not a single stay-at-home friend available during the day. Aaaack.