Wise words, Tabitha!
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Yes, sheepskins are amazing. Babies LOVE sheepskins. Warm and comforting. I think you can get them for super cheap at Ikea. Like $20. Ours are like, vintage, rustic, 'I went out and skinned this sheep for you'. :) Every baby who visits loves to lie on and play on it and bonus is when they topple over, soft.
I don't have much experience with co-sleeping and I agree that breastfeeding is something you need to invest a lot of energy into up-front (although not everyone has success with this either, but that's another story), but I don't agree about cloth diapering necessarily. I think this method is not the only way to have success with cloth diapering. I think it's very easy to dabble in cloth diapering and in some ways it can be best to start out that way. If you have a few diapers of a few different methods, you can try them, see what you like, and then order more of what you like. Rather than, say, ordering a 24-pack of some super-expensive pocket diaper and then discovering you don't like them or your child always gets leaks with them. And if you end up preferring something that's more expensive, you can take a little time to build up your stash and hunt for bargains. With breastfeeding, what you do this week will impact how breastfeeding goes next week--with cloth diapering, this isn't true. You can start slow and then ramp up, or start with disposables and then start trying cloth once you feel like you have a bit of a handle on the whole parenting thing.
We started out with a couple of different options, none of which worked well for us. I drove myself bonkers over it and in hindsight wish I had lightened up on myself that first month because we had enough else to deal with! We tried a few different things and found we liked BumGenius best, so over time we built up a stash. We went from doing very little cloth diapering in her first month to 100% cloth diapers in her 3rd month and have been in cloth ever since. We have had brief periods where we use disposables, but those were due to slacking off and could be easily remedied--or due to consciously choosing not to for a brief time, as when on vacation.
I mean, can a determined person say "We will make this work 100% from day 1", prepare a lot, and do it? Oh, sure. But I think that taking a 'wait and see' approach to cloth diapering can lead to the same results too, just a little more slowly.
erigeron - you are so right about the cloth diapering thing. I had so many difficulties figuring it all out with my 1st. I got peed on many times (and even poo'd on) whilst trying to pin prefolds to his little bum in the middle of the night. And figuring out the washing was another obstacle altogether. We were hardcore, though, we refused to buy disposables. Given the same situation again, though, I might buy that pack of disposables to ease the transition.
I'm not sure, but I bet my sheepskins from 1970's guam or japan or australia... not really sure where they were bought... were chemically prepared. We've washed them many times since then though. Just like fire retardant... we wash it off. :) I wash them on gentle with a nice dye-free, fragrance-free, junk-free shampoo and hang to dry.
They are so good to have and even to bring with you camping, on a hike or picnic. Nice place to set baby for sun and nap. With our first, I even brought one to the movie theatre because ds1 wouldn't nurse unless we were side lying from 2-4 months. I would fine a private place on the floor to nurse him to sleep!
As long as you don't use a conventional detergent they come out nice and soft. I've oiled the skin side a few times on my larger one as it's over thirty years old, keeps it soft with all the washing. I am sure there are ideal ways to wash it and treat it... probably a wool wash and leather conditioner or something. I just use what I have, homemade detergent and olive oil. :)
So far, all we have on our registry are things we don't want/need but that people will probably buy us anyway, so we may as well choose one we want.
- a stroller. Driver-facing is really important to me
- a bunch of cloth diapers
- a swing/bouncer - I don't ever want to use this, but I want one that's ergonomically correct if I must have one and use it :P
- various diaper accessories... wetbags, sprayer, inserts, etc
- some birthing/gentle parenting books (Haim Ginott, the Sears family, etc)
- a baby bathtub that's outrageously expensive but looks so cool
- a carseat "trolley" - for airports
- camping highchairs
- various eating utensils/dishes
We already have two carseats, a booster/highchair thing, towels/washcloths, and a bunch of pocket dipes.
I royally hate any type of "baby holder" - because I've seen so much overuse. I know they can be used properly, but I just tend to shy away from them. The bumbo also bothers me because of the way it screws with baby's posture. http://articles.chicagotribune.com/2012-03-15/health/ct-met-bumbo-posture-20120315_1_physical-therapists-developmental-benefits-babies
Like other people have said- each persons "must have" is going to be different. And, it's hard to know what you're baby will like.
So, I think it's a good idea to find some consignment stores. That way, you can consign the things that don't work. Try not to get attached to an image of what you would like to have work. If something doesn't work for you, just try something else.
With our 4th baby, we had absolutely no baby items. I had gotten rid of absolutely everything. We were handed down a changing table- which I actually loved having. We had a first floor bedroom and our bathroom was big enough to put the changing table in there. It was awesome, it was great for my back to not be leaning over, and it was great to have that right next to the toilet for rinsing the cloth diapers. However, after we moved out of that house (with baby still in diapers) I just changed her on the floor like i had with the others. I also did sponge baths on the changing table. I've bathed babies in the sink usually. Baby tubs are nice, but I have never had enough space to store one, so I don't use them.
A co-sleeper (a modified play pen that attaches to the bed) has been a lifesaver for us and it the only thing I am definitely going to get before this baby is born. (this is my 5th, and once again, we were surprised and we don't have baby stuff anymore except the cloth diapers).
You need the nose sucker thing- probably should have a few different types in case one doesn't work well. A thermometer is a must. You need to be able to take a rectal temp with a newborn, I think, so not an ear thermometer.
I like to have a lot of receiving blankets. My kids all spit up a lot. My frequent experience with a newborn is that I feed them at night and then later they spit up all over the bed, so I slide a blanket under them so we don't all have to get out of bed. Also, if you nurse baby to sleep on the bed on top of a receiving blanket, you can slide the baby and the blanket into the co-sleeper and not disturb them...sometimes :) I also like to have a lot of waterproof pads. They are thick flannel like cotton that is waterproof. They are great to put on a changing table, under where baby sleeps, in the car seat etc. They are easier to use than changing a sheet or a changing table cover and they are thinner than most other waterproof things which are usually padded.
I think a carrier, sling or a wrap is a necessity. I would recommend either trying one with your baby or getting cheap ones at a consignment store that you can either return or resell if they don't work. You have to find something that is comfortable for you and that the baby likes. You might not find that on the first try.
I like the little mitts for babies hands so they don't scratch their face when they are newborns. I also like newborn gowns for the first few weeks because it's so easy to change their diaper. Sometimes I like onesies, it depends on how cold out it is. If it's really cold I usually have long sleeve onesies under their clothes. I like t shirts with cloth diapers when it's warm. Either way, you don't really need to plan ahead for that. You'll probably get a ton of newborn clothes either new or as hand-me downs. You can also get them cheap at a thrift store or consignment.
Once the baby is 1 month old, I think that's the time to buy them clothes. You'll know what size they are (some of my kids were in 3-6 month size before they were one month old), what gender they are, and what you and they prefer. My kids were pretty picky about which onesies and t shirts they liked.
Same with Cloth diapers. If you can find used newborn and small diapers and covers at thrift or consignment, that is great. That way you can try it out for cheap and see what you like. Otherwise, just get a sampling and maybe use disposables to fill in till you are ready to invest. Or buy prefolds and covers and just a few fancier diapers and see what you like. Then sell the stuff you decided you won't use. Newborn prefolds can be used for other things as baby gets bigger. At about 1 month old my babies were big enough for the size bigger than newborn, which in some fitted diapers (loveybum and firefly) fit for over a year. Just my recommendations- I like Green Mountain Diapers prefolds, thirsties and bummis covers, Loveybum wool covers and Organic cotton velour fitted diapers- those are my favorites. I saw you asked about charlies soap- I used that. At one house it worked great, at another, not so great. After cloth diapering 4 kids at 3 different houses, my advice is- you're gonna have to find what works for you :) Sorry. Your washing machine, the way the water is, the type of diaper you're using, the "strength" of that kids pee, etc etc, will all affect your washing routine. Most important thing- don't use too much detergent, no matter what kind it is.
When my 4th baby was born, a mom at my kids swim team offered to give me her old baby stuff. Her baby was about 8 months old. Hand to God- the next week she brought an entire minivan full of baby stuff- a bassinet that vibrated and played music, bouncy seats, toys, folding swing, etc, etc, etc. It was unbelievable. All I know is, each time I have a baby we are given so many hand me downs, it makes me realize we really did not need to worry about buying anything. I hope you have the same experience.
I put our amazon registry together so I figured I would revive this thread. I actually posted a similar thing in the cloth diapering forum since that's mainly what I am unsure about, but I welcome any and all pointers from more experienced Moms!
I've used cloth diapers before as a nanny but I am a little bit lost on building our stash for twins. My main questions are: Do I have too many diapers on there? Not enough? The wrong kinds? Every time I edit the list I confuse myself I got some feedback on the other forum to register for more newborn sizes since twins tend to be on the smaller size and to register for liners to make life a little easier in the beginning. Fingers crossed that by the time the babies arrive we'll be moving into a house with a washer/dryer and clothesline. At the moment we're still in our 1br Manhattan postage-stamp sized apartment with no laundry facilities.
At any rate, my idea is to use disposables until we're through the meconium stage, and then move onto cloth. If we are buying everything ourselves we'll probably use prefolds and covers for cost effectiveness, but if people want to buy us some AIOs that would make my husband very happy. A friend of mine has all AIOs and says it's the only way she can manage, I wonder if I am biting off more than I can chew with twins and prefolds. Thoughts ladies?
Edited by CupOfJoe - 11/4/13 at 7:32am
The first thing I am thinking of is the laundry situation. It sounds to me like you should prepare to be going to a laundromat. I noticed the diaper pail bags you have are elastic closure. These are the ones I have: http://www.greenmountaindiapers.com/mommys-touch-diaper-pail-liner.html
They have a drawstring closure. I did have to wash diapers at a laundromat several times, as we moved twice while I was diapering our 4th baby. Taking them in a drawstring bag is really nice and easy.
My personal opinion is that I like washing diapers of all the same type - as in, all cotton- because the washing procedure is going to be the same. Washing all prefolds and cotton fitted diapers together seems to go easier, and they all wash clean with the same type and amount of detergent. That being said, at a laundromat, you can have a load of all-in-ones and a load of prefolds going at the same time. At home, you can also do a separate loads- which is what I did because we had a apartment sized machine and couldn't fit many diapers in at once anyway.
The covers can be washed at home in the sink, which can be really convenient if you don't have a machine.
I think the most important thing is to make sure you have enough diapers to make it between washings.
I've never diapered twins, it seems like it would definitely be more of a challenge. I just want to say- give yourself some grace. I think it's a good idea to use disposables for the first weeks. And I would say, just assume you'll be supplementing with disposables until you get your routine down.
If people buy you all-in-ones, that is awesome! Also, you can pre-fill covers with a tri-folded prefold to make an "all-in-one" for hubby. That is what I did.
By the way- I love the stuff on your registry! That moses basket is so cute! I've never seen anything like that.
Leg warmers- great idea! They are a must have in cold weather. I totally forget about that!
Pockets or all-in-twos seem better than AIOs to me. The diaper and the liner can wash (and dry!) separately, so they don't take as long to dry. (We never unstuff our pockets before putting them in the machine. The agitation ensures that the liners almost always come out during the wash cycle.) Also you can increase the number of inserts as the baby gets older. With an AIO you're kind of stuck with the way it comes. The downside, though, is the increased prep time because you have to stuff them with the liners, either ahead of time or right before putting them on the baby.
I think the real drawback to registering for cloth diapers is that you don't know what you're going to want and you risk getting a lot of diapers that don't work for you. Not such a big deal with prefolds as you can use them as cleaning rags later on so they are not going to waste. Anything can be sold, sure, but that can be kind of a pain (imo).
How about a diaper service for prefolds? At least for the newborn stage so you don't have to buy newborn and then regular size? Takes care of the laundry and the "how many prefolds to buy" question. Maybe you could put weeks of a diaper service on your registry.
Personally I don't think prefolds would be that big of a deal, though we didn't use them--though our daughter was in a hip harness that made it a lot more difficult. I probably would have still stuck it out but my husband refused.
I would make sure to get plenty of covers though. Maybe the scheme to have three covers and wash one, wear one, have one in the drawer, works on an older baby, but since little babies are pooping all the time and the poop always seems to get on the cover no matter what you do, I didn't find that scheme very constructive.