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post #61 of 244
Skycheat - I hope your midwife has a solution for you. That sounds miserable. :/

Sent DH to natural health shop and they sent him back with calendula oil for the stitched area that's not healing super well, and some sort of silver solution for baths for its antibacterial properties. Not sure how much those will help with the freshness, but here's hoping they help with the overall situation down there...
post #62 of 244

Thrush is a yeast overgrowth, some yeast is normal so I would not worry too much about spreading it.

 

 

I love EMAB mama bottom balm. Cloth pads rather than disposables make a real difference too to the lady parts feeling nice.

post #63 of 244
[quote name="LeighPF"

I am back in bed. I feel good, overdo it, bleed bright red after no bleeding on quiet days, and get cramps. Luckily in laws are here so they can cook and play with the bigs.[/quote]

What I'm doing too. A day out of bed, acting like a regular person, then a day or two lying in.
post #64 of 244

6 days PP here and feeling majorly weepy and emotionally drained. DD wants to nurse constantly, and DS has developed a renewed interest in nursing that I feel is important to indulge so he won't feel left out... It's a hard adjustment to go to 2 kids, something I'm scared won't feel normal until the newborn period is over (or longer).

I ended up having a repeat cesarean after 30 hours of labor and 4 hours of pushing, and ended up ripping badly during the section so no chance of trying for VBA2C. I think the labor then section is a major factor in my exhaustion, same thing with DS.

Sorry for no personals, I'm reading all of the posts, just feel a bit like a zombie.

post #65 of 244
Ugh it's coxsackie virus that DD1 has and not thrush. She looked terrible this morning with swollen gums and the thrush diagnosis just didn't feel right. With my mom's help I took her to the nearby research hospital's children's ER where it was diagnosed (same stuff that causes hand foot and mouth) and all we can do is wait it out, maybe give Tylenol for the pain/fever. She's miserable and clingy and baby and I are starting to go downhill with the thrush again. Why can't crappy things happen one at a time?!
post #66 of 244
Hugs, mamapigeon! This new baby stuff is really, really hard, even without recovery from a difficult birth. I hope you can start to feel "normal" again soon. I know that with both kids, for me it took 2+ weeks before I was anywhere close to normal mentally and emotionally. Sigh. Does fish oil do anything for you? I noticed a big difference when I started taking it.

Honestly, I'd go through the physical strain of pregnancy and birth again, but I don't think I can do the emotional, baby blues thing again.
post #67 of 244

i'm sorry mamapigeon for the stress of it all. I agree it's hard with a new baby (or babies) and section recovery. I hope things look up soon and you get enough rest. Sleep helps emotional stability so much, I think.

 

skycheat- ugh on the coxsackie virus! I hope she feels better soon and your and baby's thrush clears soon.

 

I'm pumping right now and my cat is staring at the milk flowing down. Kind of annoying and kind of amusing. I had a good nap with the boys and that helped and my mom has been up in the middle of the nights with us helping with the babies. So thankful to have her here this wk.

post #68 of 244
Skycheat: so sorry about viruses and yeast. Some Briggs apple vinegar worked great under my breasts for yeast overgrowth. I have no idea if you can use on nipples but may be worth checking into .
Afm: I right there with you all- having ups and downs adjusting. Up until today - 11 days pp- babe would not sleep anywhere but on me. Even though I have a wrap that I love, I was just really exhausted from having him attached to me all the time! I never co slept with ds1 he was happy to be in the swing or bassinet, but this one has been with me every night. Today he has finally slept in the bassinet all day. Well see about tonight.
Had weight checked, babe back up to 7lbs which is just shy of 1 oz gain per day. Feeling pretty proud since I am supplementing only about 2-3 oz per day. I did finally give in to 1 bottle in the late evening, because doing the sns for every feed is so cumbersome!
Ds1 is testing us big time . I am trying to be really patient but he is pushing dh's buttons and its so hard to watch their interactions. I finally said something to Dh about the yelling and negativity and it was a little better today.
post #69 of 244
Hugs to you all, mamas. This is a hard time and I identify so much with all your posts.

Skycheat, SO sorry about the coxsackie! I didn't know there was a difference between that and Hand, Foot, Mouth but DS and Iboth got HFM TWICE the summer of 2011 when there was a local epidemic and it laid us pretty low. The good news is that after about a week of misery, it's like you never had it.

Jillgayle, I feel like all my buttons are getting pushed simultaneously by DS, and I struggle with not being so irritable and angry with my sweet boy. Today he took a purchase I was making at Lowes off the pay counter and all-out booked it to the complete other side of the store. I had sister in the Moby and I was just paralyzed; he disappeared from view in seconds. I was equal parts furious, worried, and raw vulnerability. I had to just take deep breaths, excuse myself from the register, and walk slowly to the back of the store where he was crying because he couldn't find me. Yet once we were re-united, he wanted to run wild some more and jump on the cushions of display patio furniture. Uhhh...that was...challenging. shrug.gif
post #70 of 244
Sky and Jill vinegar on the nipples worked wonders on my mild thrush.

Jill and crafty I hear you on the naughty older boys, Monkey had that after bee. And he spent much of last week pushing husbands buttons as only a four year old can.

Edelweiss I am glad nursing continues to improve. Grandparents who do nights are so wonderful.

C is somehow an even easier baby than the last two. I think she only nursed twice last night, the passed out. And she is the only kid not to pee on my bed too. Good naps, good awakes, tolerant of her siblings very physical love. The only fuss is when she is hungry or has a mean burp. So clearly she is going to be a terrible teenager.
post #71 of 244
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Jillgayle, I feel like all my buttons are getting pushed simultaneously by DS, and I struggle with not being so irritable and angry with my sweet boy. Today he took a purchase I was making at Lowes off the pay counter and all-out booked it to the complete other side of the store. I had sister in the Moby and I was just paralyzed; he disappeared from view in seconds. I was equal parts furious, worried, and raw vulnerability. I had to just take deep breaths, excuse myself from the register, and walk slowly to the back of the store where he was crying because he couldn't find me. Yet once we were re-united, he wanted to run wild some more and jump on the cushions of display patio furniture. Uhhh...that was...challenging. shrug.gif

I remember this when DD2 was born. I took both of them to the mall and DD1 took off. I was standing there with the baby in the stroller and had no idea what to do. I ended up leaving the stroller and chasing DD1 (who was three) through the crowd. When I returned to the stroller there was a crowd of people around it and they said someone had gone to get security. We hightailed if out of there. I feel your pain, mama.
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C is somehow an even easier baby than the last two. I think she only nursed twice last night, the passed out. And she is the only kid not to pee on my bed too. Good naps, good awakes, tolerant of her siblings very physical love. The only fuss is when she is hungry or has a mean burp. So clearly she is going to be a terrible teenager.

This is Lucia exactly! I feel like I won the 3rd baby lottery! A friend of mine told me she felt like with her third "God gave her what she could handle- and it wasn't much." I laughed at that and can totally relate.
post #72 of 244

Coffee, thanks for the reminder on how long it takes to feel normal emotionally. I think fish oil would help, I used to use it for depression and it seemed to help with that. I agree, the baby blues are worse than labor. I wish there was some sort of relief available, I would totally take it.

 

Edelweiss, I definitely think sleep helps! I hope you're starting to get a little more!

 

Skycheat, so sorry about the coxsackie and thrush! That's definitely too much to be expected to handle right now! I hope it goes away soon!

 

Crafty, so sorry about Lowe's. I hope that was a one time thing!

 

Feeling a little better today, at least right now. DH is going to China for 2 weeks in a few months, which is really freaking me out.

Thinking about going to the park today with the littles and DH. I know DS would like to get out.

post #73 of 244
I'm sorry for everyone having such a hard time greensad.gif

diva- my dh has zero chin, and it is a STRONG genetic trait. All of my babies are born with itty-bitty chins and tiny mouths, and I have really long nipples to boot. It's a terrible anatomical combination! My nipples are always a little sore at first, but as my milk comes in and they get bigger mouths, it gets better. I hope the same is true for you.

Ea- I also like to use a post partum herb infusion in my peri bottle. It has calendula flowers, plantain, lavender, and some other stuff. With stitches to heal I would totally do a sitz bath too.
post #74 of 244

I hope all the thrush, viruses and blues go away soon for everyone. It always takes at least 2 weeks for me to feel normal again emotionally, but probably a good month before things stabilize. I am a little worried when my parents leave, and DH goes back to work how I will do with 3 kids on my own emotionally. I already feel overwhelmed a lot even with DH home.

 

I think I am physically starting to feel a bit more normal. I am kind of sore still but not too bad. I just get tired easily and am trying to take lots of breaks throughout the day. When I get tired my emotions go downhill fast too. So far Nat has been a very content baby overall and I am so thankful that nursing is going great for us. Even sleep isn't too bad. She is up a lot to nurse and change diapers but falls right back asleep. I just wish the other two wouldn't walk in our room at the butt crack of dawn. irked.gif I blame DH for making them early risers, they certainly didn't get it from me!

 

Is anyone else breaking out? I am prone to acne anyway but I am definitely breaking out more since giving birth. I am sure it is all hormone related but annoying.

post #75 of 244

I've got a tummy time question- does anyone else have a baby that tries to crawl/scoot? DS would kick himself along like a frog, and DD does it too! DD also has me surprised by trying to touch toys. She'll look at something for a few minutes in alert mode, then slowly reach out and brush it. She seems to have way better muscle control than DS did.

 

Feeling less weepy today. We did the park and lunch out yesterday, then headed 50 miles South to get one of the last co-sleepers available at Babies-r-us. Today we did the play cafe for 3.5 hours (!) and I feel great after seeing DS have a lot of fun with other little kids. I'm already desperate to go out again though, which seems to be the best way for me to handle the blues.

 

Crunchy, no breaking out, but lots of dry, flaky skin. I'm with you on emotionally handling being alone with the kids, it's a scary thought!

post #76 of 244
Mamapigeon, getting out of the house has always helped me when I'm in the thick of the baby blues. It feels so intense when I'm at home and the walls are closing in on me, but then I get out and I "forget" how hard things are. Thankfully I'm feeling pretty good now, even without my placenta pills (I had to stop taking them because I caught a cold!), and hopefully baby Gus will let me sleep a little more than he did last night. I'm glad you're feeling better and less weepy!
post #77 of 244
Coffee- why did you have to stop with a cold?
post #78 of 244
Well, everything I've read says to stop if you're sick or have mastitis because the placenta pills slightly elevate your body temperature (as does an illness). Bummer! But I guess the good news is that I stopped taking them and I didn't go crazy, like I thought I would. I'll probably start them up again tomorrow, maybe at 1x3 times a day. They really helped boost my milk supply and I'd like it to stay up!
post #79 of 244
I had no idea. Glad they are helping, that you're good without them, and that you can start back up though!
post #80 of 244
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I remember this when DD2 was born. I took both of them to the mall and DD1 took off. I was standing there with the baby in the stroller and had no idea what to do. I ended up leaving the stroller and chasing DD1 (who was three) through the crowd. When I returned to the stroller there was a crowd of people around it and they said someone had gone to get security. We hightailed if out of there. I feel your pain, mama.
This is Lucia exactly! I feel like I won the 3rd baby lottery! A friend of mine told me she felt like with her third "God gave her what she could handle- and it wasn't much." I laughed at that and can totally relate.

 

 

This is us too. #3 is so sweet and easy. Sleeps great at night, has nice mellow awake periods. It's actually a little disconcerting. I've googled mellow baby several times to reassure myself that she is a variant of normal. lol #2 was a NICU baby with special needs, so this is truly a blessing. 

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