Maybe another QOTD while we all wait?
What factors went into your choice of a donor? What mattered most and least? What compromises are you making, if any?
Hi JWaite! Welcome back. And hooray for a new TWW! Earlier is better for insemming, so your timing sounds great; I bet you ovulated late Wednesday night, and those swimmers were right there waiting for the egg! And if not, then the second try yesterday covered your bases. FX for you!
FMorris, still sending hugs at this hard time. Great news about the job!
As for me, still a little bit pregnant....yesterday's beta HCG came in at 32, which is pretty decent for only 9 or 10 DPO. Escher's right: I have been super lucky and have gotten pregnant every time we've tried. I think it helps that I have a really textbook cycle, so all the dumb "one-size-fits-all" advice is usually talking about a cycle pretty much like mine. Plus it's my fake-science belief that my body responds super well to our donor. But also just dumb luck? Anyway, I guess it's early-official now, so we can celebrate a little! And I hope a few other folks from the pineapple club join in the celebration soon!
But I'd like to hang out with you guys for another few weeks just in case; If I'm still pregnant, I'm scheduled for an U/S with the RE at 7 weeks, and then a high level U/S because of my history of neural tube defects sometime after that. In the meantime, I declined further blood testing and will just be waiting and seeing.
And, to answer my own QOTD, even though we're now so invested in this donor, our original plan was to stay uncommitted; we planned to use different donors for different tries, but it didn't work out that way. But that plan made us feel less like eugenicists, and also to keep the focus on DP as the Papa, not the donor. DP also insisted on an anonymous donor (again, worried about his position as the father being undermined); I would have preferred a known or at least willing-to-be-known donor, but I felt like the non gestational parent should get the final say about it. We compromised by agreeing to have contact with any and all donor siblings, and we are in touch with 11 or so other families, with about 14 or 15 kids. So that's been interesting. Other things we considered were just the basics (that the donor should look vaguely like DP's family in a general way; similar coloring and height, etc). Oh, and we wanted a donor with reported pregnancies. We neglected to notice that our donor was VERY thin, oops!
Oh, and Jwaite, I know what caused your clearblue problem, because I think we made the same mistake! Unlike every other OPK I know of, the clearblue works best with FMU. So once I learned that, I'd use it just once a day in the mornings, and then use cheapy regular OPKS to watch the surge develop over the course of the day. Hope this helps, though I really hope this is your lucky cycle and you won't need an OPK for a long time!
Beastie, YES!!!! congratulations. You sure are fertile!!!!!
I was working in a crappy job in Finance - I'm a Chartered Company Secretary (hardly anyone knows what that is) and I gave it up to do full-time photography. There's not really enough work for it to be full-time so I teach the qualification I have part-time as well. DP is very supportive most of the time but sometimes I think she finds it hard as she earns more than I do and there's pressure on her to bring in a good wage. I might go 3 days a week and she go 4 days after we have the kiddie. Unfortunately spots for daycare are so limited that there are hardly any places that offer anything less than fulltime which is a bit of a pain. Perhaps I should start a daycare place! Oh yeah, we also chose a donor either with reported pregnancies or his own kids.
Redrock I hope the timing was good, not long until you know!
Mama, wow that's a lot of flights. I was saying to DW that if I was preggers peanut will have already been to Denmark, France & Guernsey and before I give birth will go to Oz & NY!!! well-travelled embie. Have a safe trip & hope it takes your mind of things.
Jenn I was slow with everything this month as well but hopefully it's the one that will work - follies took days longer to be ready & the developed slower once they had fertilised. Slow & steady wins the race eh. I have never had so many people up me before, especially not men, it's all very weird!
prettyisa - urgh. I imagine that would be awful, keep us updated. xx
jwaite - ooooo good luck & good idea to get out of town, hopefully it will make the time go faster.
escher, how are you feeling with everything?
fmorris - sending big hugs but congrats on the job, hopefully you'll be able to celebrate in time x
AFM slightly annoyingly I found a pregnancy test in my bag so I could have tested in France. Doh! Testing tomorrow morning is the day though. I have been having all the symptoms. I don't remember the last time I felt as rough as I felt yesterday, had everything, aches & temperature on top of the other stuff so was relieved to finally get to bed. A lot better today though so hopefully that is the worst gone. (who am I kidding?). Still no sign of AF so tomorrow hopefully we'll have some good news just in time to celebrate for my party (or commiserate) as the symptoms could be a reaction to the progesterone or OHSS.
I'll keep you posted!
Fmorris: I am so sorry about AF, big hugs. The job is great news though and it will be there to celebrate when you feel better
Liz: I'm on the edge of my seat....
Isa: Yay for swimmers arriving! Boo for food poisoning. Are you feeling better?
Mama: Have a great trip! Are you going to test while you are in Hawaii?
Jenny: Hang in there...that whole twat-wanding is not fun. I only had to do it once and really hope I don't have to again anytime soon
Jwaite: Hey there, welcome to the TWW! It sounds like your timing was spot on, and yes the fresh ones can live quite a while. I think it changed because of my temps. It was a slow rise at first and it's been up since then. I'd link my chart, but I don't remember how.
Sandie: It's still way too early to count yourselves out. I've heard so many stories of people lately that say they just knew, even one day after conception.
QOTD: Well..many things really. I wanted to use TSBC but all of their donors that resembled DW had a lot of family history of migraines, and since I get migraines I didn't want a donor with them. What mattered most was looking like DW, olive skin, light hair, hazel eyes, good medical history-little to minimal cancer (not environment/behavior caused), and willing to be know.Then, other things we cared about were athletic, creative, and kind of like us. We did get an adult photo so that was pretty great and sealed the deal.
AFM: Peed on a stick last night because I've gone a little crazy, it was negative, not a big surprise. I'll test either tomorrow or Sunday morning again. I am realizing how impatient I am, this waiting is so very difficult. As far as symptoms go I've had some back pain and strange bouts of nausea, but not much else.
Thanks for all the well-wishes, everyone. I'm still peeing on sticks for reassurance, and am currently feeling totally not pregnant (though my general symptoms of low-grade nausea and tender breasts/nipples have continued on and off). I wish I could fast forward these next couple of weeks! And yes, apparently very fertile. Feeling extra grateful that I never got pregnant by accident back when I slept with cisgender men! Or, I guess, on toilet seats, MamaetMaman!
Lizbian! I can't believe you had a test all along and still held off. Keeping everything crossed for a BFP tomorrow! The symptoms still sound promising...
Sandie: It must feel good to be headed home. And home sounds like a perfect place to get your BFP! It's still early days... I hope you get a positive now, but if not, are you planning to skip September? because you mentioned a next try in October. Inquiring minds want to know the plan!
redrock, sorry about the early negative. Better luck tomorrow? How are you feeling?
mamaetMaman: that would be a pretty good anniversary gift...
Thanks, all for sharing about your donor choices. Super interesting!
liz: I am super hoping you get a wonderful BFP tomorrow!
mama: I hope you and dw get the result you're both hoping for!
fmorris: :-( So sorry to hear. Lots of hugs to you. Congratulations on the job though! I have heard wonderful things about Microsoft!
redrock: I think you're taking a page out of my book of crazy. I can't help but pee on things. First, I start to "just test out the trigger" and well, that's a slippery slope. Good luck! I hope you stay mostly sane through the rest of your TWW.
sandie: 9dpiui, still plenty of time! Fingers crossed!
sandiego: are you still lurking?
jwaite: Good luck!
afm: Finally. FINALLY! Have 4 measurable follicles today. 2 at 15mm, one at 12mm, and one at 13mm. The way my office times trigger is : when one follicle reaches 18 OR in the case of many follicles, trigger when two follicles are at 16. Then IUI 36 hours later. I have been making so much EWCM that it's INSANE. And kind of gross because it's not only ruining my underwear, but also my pants. (WTF!?!) So, that's interesting and requiring pantie (hate that word) liners now. Estradiol is 804! My gonal-f was 225 IU tonight and I go back tomorrow for more blood work and another follicle check. Tomorrow may be trigger day. Followed by IUI on Monday. 21 days of stimming! I think it might be some kind of record! Lining is great at 11.4.
redrock sorry about the BFN but hope it's just a bit early
jenn - you do make me LOL. I also need new underwear after these bloody progesterone supplements- very bad side effects!!!!
mama - oooo I hope it's a good sign. FX - did you have a good time?
AFM well ladies, I finally bit the bullet & took the test...............
TFFT - I didn't want all these awful symptoms to be for nothing!!!! Not going to graduate until I have the beta test early this week but WOO BLOODY HOO!!! We are over the moon & can now enjoy my party tonight!!!!
Good luck to everyone else in the pineapple club, I'm going to go and find me a pineapple to turn into a halloween face