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post #181 of 279
Liz! Congratulations! What exciting news! And I am so sorry about your friend. That's a horrible loss, and I can't imagine having to go through the birth. I hope she finds it healing, in some way, and that it gives her a chance to begin to say goodbye.

Fmorris--I'm sorry about AF. greensad.gif Huge hugs to you! And yeah, I finally dragged my sorry self to the dentist, which I had been putting off in case I was pregnant. Sucks, but I'm glad to have done it, I guess.

Jwaite--They say that fresh live plenty long enough for that timing to have worked. FX!

Beastie--Yay! Glad we can finally release some veggies!

And please feel free to stick around as long as you like. I get why we have to have separate boards here, but I do feel sad sometimes that it ends up feeling a little segregated. The more mixing, the better!

Sandie--Too. Early. It must be nice to be in your own bed again!

Red rock--yes, thank you. It was really just that evening that I felt really sick. But I'm off Mexican food for the forseeable future. :P How are you feeling today?

Jenny--yay! Those look great! Hoping all of the timing works out perfectly!

Hi Tavi--how exciting! Welcome! I want four, but I feel like that might be an argument I lose. Time will tell. Did you use KDs with your previous kids?

AFM--Went out for half an hour yesterday morning and managed to miss the one time UPS arrived before noon, which meant I had to spend 2 hours at the depot last night waiting for my box of sperm. Got it, though, and now I'm just peeing on sticks until go time! I've got 5 more smileys, so tomorrow I'll start using those, with cheapies in the afternoon.

QOTD--We tried a bunch of different ways of deciding on a donor, but in the end we kept DP's desire for someone willing to be known, not too tall (she's short) and one who sort of resembled her. Then we read all the profiles and agreed on the top 5, and got the bank to do a photo-match to her picture. The one we got seemed to be really well-rounded and nice, if young, and DD looks a lot like both of us (though more like me, apparently). I think we both felt that we were most interested in whether the guy seemed like a nice person, and someone that we might be willing to hang out with under different circumstances.

QOTD2--last time we called the baby Prosper. This time DP is gunning for Merit, but I want to use Makepeace. She likes Puritan names and I won't let her use them for real, so she wants to use them up as in-utero names. It's weird, but my aunt and uncle called their kids Hamlet and Desdemona in utero, so I guess it runs in the family.
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hey all! Just a quickie.. I have been spotting for the past two days, and thinking it might be implantation bleeding, I tested today 12DPO, and it was negative greensad.gif I'm gonna wait and test again on Tuesday. Hoping for a better result.

I used the Internet cheapies. Anyone have luck with their pregnancy tests?
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jenn  - GOOD LUCK!!! I really hope you have some good, solid follies & it all goes well.


Mama - sorry to hear but hope it's just a bit early & you have a better result next time xx

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beastie: I'm going with the babY assumption (not babIES).  :-)  


jwaite: Thanks for the well wishes!


liz: sending lots of love to your friends.  What a terribly difficult thing to have to face. <3


mama: Lots of implantation vibes for you!  I'd be going crazy by now. (really not looking forward to the TWW, again!)


isa: I'm glad you've got the team on hand at last!  What a pain in the neck! Good luck!  Looks like we'll be hanging out together in the "Torturous Weeks of Waiting" . I'm glad I won't be all alone.


afm: All triggered up and ready to roll in about 20 hours.  I'm nervous this time.  I've never had so many follicles.  Please just let only one take. 

post #185 of 279

Hi, all!! 


Liz, CONGRATS!  i haven't been on here for awhile but i've been thinking of you and so excited to hear your good news!  


prettyisa, i know, i know i just couldn't wait!  good luck with the insem!


jenny: i'm sending lots of single-fertilization vibes your way :)  i secretly think twins would be lovely, but its harder to convince the one carrying hypothetical multiples ;)  good luck for your insem as well!


afm, we are now 11dpiui, still testing, still bfns.  lady is getting sad because she feels like af is coming, possibly even early, and is more than a little convinced that it didn't happen for us.


beastie, we are going to a family reunion at the very beginning of sept, which is when lady next o's, although we'll have another shot at the end of september, which is when we'll likely insem next.  she is convinced that this tube is long and laggy, though, so she is sure the october cycle, which would be our 3rd, yet our 1st time trying on her right side, is our best bet.


this board has been a lifesaver, in that it kept me from going completely insane these last 11 days, and i'm happy to think about this as a chance to regroup and get refreshed and ready for our next try.  i have such intense respect and admiration for those of you who have gone through multiple cycles, and i am working on positively framing the angst and uncertainty--mostly thinking of it as one of the rare times when life just completely humbles you, and you can prepare and work and fuss, but you still have to give yourself over to something bigger and ultimately uncontrollable.  surrendering is hard for me, but it can also be really powerful.  happy sunday, all!

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Liz! I just saw your news! Eek! So exciting! fingersx.gifjoy.giffingersx.gif
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Sandie-  the board is great, especially for us since we're the only lesbian couple on the island going through this process (one other couple did 2 years ago but that's it!). Don't get too down, just think how long even straight couples often have to try before it works. You'll get there when the time is right.


Escher - thanks!!!


AFM beta HCG test tomorrow for confirmation of pregnancy. I keep having dreams about babies - changing nappies & accidentally putting the dirty one with the clean ones, christenings etc and of course about our friends' loss which is also messing things up a bit in my head. After having had friends lose their 1 year old and now this I am worried I am going to be a paranoid, non-trusting mother who worries about the worse, but hope hormones will sort themselves out.


as for my own QOTD -we're calling bean(s) pinto for now! DW is very cute and making sure I eat healthy. She's giving up alcohol etc as a show of solidarity after her somewhat drunken last outing for my birthday that culminated in her holding my massive half cake & stuffing her face in the middle of the road. Unfortunately I had to get out of the car & tell her to move as she was blocking my way! Very funny & a moment I won't ever forget.


Anyone testing soon? Mama tomorrow but wasn't sure if that was it xx

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Tavi: Welcome back. Good luck on your donor search. We had quite a lot of fun with ours. 


Fmorris: Hair dying and drinking sound like a great plan. Anything new and exciting hair coloring? 


Liz: I am so sorry to hear about your friend's loss.


Isa: Any smiley's yet? 


Jenny: It looks like your  post was 20 hours ago so you should be inseminating right this very second haha. Good luck! 


Sandie: I've still got my fingers crossed for you both. When is AF due? I agree, this board helps me a lot. I never thought the TWW would be this hard. I'm learning that I am a very impatient person (at least in this context) 


AFM: Tested today 12 DPO, negative. Big bummer. AF isn't due until Wed or Thurs though so I am trying to stay positive. My sister told me she didn't get a BFP until a week after AF was due. I'll likely keep feeding my testing addiction until AF comes. 


QOTD: I have no idea what we'll call it. I imagine we'll come up with something really random after we get a BFP. 

post #189 of 279
liz- Sorry to hear about your friends' baby. Did they find out why it didn't survive? Excited for your betas! Confirmation is always good.

jenny- hope your insem goes great! Don't worry about the multiple follies turning into septuplets. If anything, it'll just increase your chances of getting that BFP! Welcome to the TWW!

sandiego- I'm so glad to have found this
group as well. Even if I told all my friends we were TTCing, they wouldn't be as fun, supportive, and knowledgable as you folks! It's hard to stay positive after BFNs. I certainly don't. And after each subsequent BFN, I feel more and more hopeless and frustrated. DW just reminds me to think of the stats for IUIs with frozen sperm- 15% success rate each cycle- and I blame my body a little less, and then get angry about having to use frozen swimmers. Lol. But then I get excited to try again next cycle. Hugs to you and your DP.

redrockband- I tested neg yesterday on 12DPO as well. These last few days are also driving me crazy. Good luck! Any symptoms?

afm- today is 13DPO. Have been spotting scant amounts of brown discharge (sorry if tmi) since 11DPO. I don't usually spot before AF, so I hope this is IB. We will test tomorrow morning, and then maybe Thurs morning. Hard to say when AF is due because I'm on the prometrium. My RE told me to just keep taking it and that it won't prevent my period, so if I don't get my period before I'm back from vacation, I'm probably pregnant. Too bad the prometrium is a nasty mess to deal with everyday.

In the meantime, I've been enjoying myself in Hawaii. Spent the day swimming and paddle boarding in the beautiful ocean yesterday, and plan to do the same for the rest of the week!
post #190 of 279
Just a quick one to say that lady is pretty sure AF came today (I only saw her as she was leaving for work), so I think we're out of the running. We're sad and stressed about money, but honestly, it was our first. Try. ever. So,FX for everyone else, and regrouping for us! We can do this...
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My partner and I each had one child with our ex husbands, my son was conceived with a known donor (a good friend) who now lives across the country and this child will hopefully be born using a known donor as well. We're really hoping to use my partners cousin but haven't asked him yet (god, that's scary). so... we're exploring our options.

post #192 of 279
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Isa, Thanks for the hugs!! Seems like we do all the things we can't preggers in the little time in-between cycles lol. I'm with you though..it does suck. FX for bfp's in our near future.


Jenny, hoping all went well with your insem! Shall I move you?


Sandiegongp, I agree, this board is such a life saver. There have been many times I would have been absolutely lost without these wonderful ladies! The not being in control part is what gets meeh as well, I like to have everything planned and perfect. Sorry about DP's af coming. No worries you'll get it right. I'm regrouping as well. And yes…we can do this!!


redrock, it was rather a good plan. I did a DIY ombre on mye hair and it turned out pretty awesome. I've been getting compliments all day! And mye dad asked meeh to sit and have a beer with him saturday which I did nd it was nice. Feed that addiction and remember Implantation can occur 6-12 days after so there could be a possibility of not enough HCG yet. FX


Mamaet, brown discharge sounds promising lol..no where else in the world could you say that and it be alright besides here lol! Enjoy a lazy week and i'll send you sticky luck vibes!


Tavi, Those KD talks are pretty weird in the beginning lol, but its just the initial weirdness and then it gets better lol. I had mye first of those conversations this last cycle, and I've never said Uhhm so much or been at a loss for words when talking about TTC. Smooth sailing from there though! Good luck!


AFM, well i had mye drink and dyed mye hair..now back to it. Today is cd5 for meeh..I would have been starting mye clomid today BUT walgreens waited till today to tell meeh mye script had been delayed, so I called this afternoon and they told meeh mye doc would need to see meeh before filling the script. HOW INCONSIDERATE! I tried calling mye doc, but of course couldn't get a real person on the phone, and clearly I couldn't come in today SO….looks like this will be an UNMEDICATED cycle (mye first) with the help of red clover blossom, prenatals, baby aspirin, and a lot of hope. DP said we're going to we get it so I'm gearing up. Oddly enough in our 4 tries, we've never done two cycles back to back so this is new as well. Going to order some more internet cheapies OPKs and start again. Good luck everyone!


QOTD, Not sure I'm leaning more towards bambino, little one, and mye gorgeous blob lol. I'm just praying for a LO to make up a cute name for!


post #193 of 279
Just a quickie: 13 DPO. Full on AF today. Bummed out.
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Jwaite, I missed you in my last personals! I'm glad you have a good OPK plan. And I feel fine. Details below!


Isa: I love those puritan zygote names! And I am also in solidarity with your frustration with waiting on sperm delivery. The worst! The single nicest thing about switching to an RE this time around for me was that the sperm went straight to the office, and they had to wait around for it instead of me! Now that the swimmers are in place, I hope you get your smiley soon!


Mama, it's still too early for lots of those internet cheapies! I started getting faint positives on early response tests as early as 7dpo, but only on the cheapies in the last few days (13 and 14 dpo). So there may be hope! Keep us in the loop, please! Hawaii would make a pretty good conception story.


Jenny: how'd it go? Sending sticky fertile singleton vibes your way. 


Sandiehug2.gifSorry to hear about Lady's AF. Next time's the charm? Anyway, that makes sense, about your timing. It can be frustrating to skip a cycle, but I think it can also be healing/restorative to get a break and stop living in two week increments for a bit. 


Liz! FX that everything goes great tomorrow!!!!


redrock: It's not over yet! I hope there's big news from you AND Mama soon!


Tavi: Good luck approaching the potential KD! At least you have some experience from the last time. Please let us know how it goes. In general, what would your ideal  timeline for trying look like? 


Fmorris:  glad you and your fancy hair are back in the game!


QOTD:  nothing exciting here; unless the spirit moves us, we usually say just "the zygote" or the "the embryo" or "the baby" right up till the end. But maybe we'll try some nicknames and see what sticks?


AFM: Still low-grade nausea and sore breasts, plus a little emotional, but also lots of time when I don't feel much at all. But I officially missed my period today, so that's a good thing! It's not that I want my symptoms to get worse (I've been there; not so fun), but of course the confirmation would be nice during this second TWW till my early U/S gives me some validation. Hoping everything sticks till then, and that lots of you meet me on the other side ASAP!

post #195 of 279

Hi Everyone!


Isa, I am glad you tracked down your swim team!!  Any Smileys yet?  I was never so happy to see a smiley face, let me just say.  Much better than the guessing I was doing with the internet cheapies and the ferns with the fertility microscope.  Look forward to hearing how things go for you this cycle!  Oh, and got a kick of out the Puritan names :)


Jenny, sending positive vibes for your insem. blowkiss.gif this cycle has been a marathon for you, huh?!?   Hope it goes smoothly!!  And I'm with you, 'please let this one take' ... I'll chant with ya  


Sandie, so sorry to hear about AF... the first time we tried and AF arrived, DW was very very upset.  The second time, I was the one who needed shopping therapy:)  And actually, the sadness was added to by $ for us, as well.  But I liked your post on Sunday when you were talking about the fact that some things are truly out of our control and up to that power that is greater than we...once DW and I put our intentions out there, we were able to move forward with trying more times.  For a while, I was travelling 3 hours one way to insem.  And now, we've been able to try at home for the last few months.  I am thinking about you guys and hoping for a bfp on your next try!  October will be here before you know it. 


Fmorris, hopin' that the au naturale cycle is the magic one for you!!  FX, and Toes too!! treehugger.gif


Redrock, hangin' in there?  These last couple days of the TWW really can mess with the mind and emotions.  Esp when you get the bfn but still haven't seen AF.  I am praying it's just too early to know.  Sending you babydust.


Mama, ugh!  I am so so sorry.hug2.gif  I really was hoping from your last message that you had some IB.  Sending love your way.


Tavi, I hear ya about talking with KD.  The first time we spoke to one, DW asked me to do the talking.  Usually this isn't a problem for me, but I was stumbling over every question.  The second time it did get easier.  I felt like I didn't have as much modesty with the second go 'round.  Good luck with those initial conversations!!


Liz, how did today go?  Sorry about your dreams.  Whew.  So much for you to digest.  I am so so excited for you tho'!

And Beastie, you too!!  Glad you are feeling good!!  


AFM.  definitely felt O pain on Friday night.  Today I have had dull cramps all day, like AF is about to show up.  I couldn't start the pineapple core over the weekend 'cause I was at my in-laws and didn't want to draw attention to myself.  Counting down the days of the TWW and trying to stay positive without reading into the cramps today.  Wondering if I should make a doc appt.  Not used to the whole cramping thing in the middle of my cycle.  


namaste.gif to all!!  And of course lots of baby dust!!!dust.gif


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sandie: Really hoping for a single gestation.  Not sure DP could survive the thought of twins on the first go... I agree, this board has been such an amazing source of information and support to me over the years.  It's truly been invaluable.  Sorry to hear things are not going your way right now.  It's always disappointing when the cycle comes to a close without a bfp. I try (I don't always succeed) to think of it as it being one step closer to figuring out what works and what doesn't -- and ultimately -- one step closer to a baby. It doesn't always work, but I try. <3


liz: lol, thanks for the well wishes!  Hope your beta goes well today! I have the most bizarre dreams on fertility meds, but it always gets so much worse after the trigger!  Seriously messed up dreams!


redrock: I read your post while I was waiting in the office to be seen.  LOL!  I couldn't respond because my phone has been such a jerk lately.  Keeps getting stuck.  I hope AF stays away and that you follow in your sister's footsteps!


mama: I sure hope you're preggy!  You need to post some bragging photos of your lovely vacation so that we can all be jealous.  Besides, I could sure use a vacation from ttc.  I could live vicariously through you!  ;-)


fmorris:  Yes, please move me to waiting to know. :-) One of the best things about a KD is the ability to go ahead and try anyway, even if conditions aren't ideal.  :-)  How fantastic would it be to get pregnant without the clomid!


mama: ugh.dammit. I'm sorry.  :-(


beastie: Glad to hear you are feeling intermittently crappy.  :-)


afm: I have officially been in-sperminated.  I have been panicking about it ever since.  LOL!  Does this happen to anyone else?  Nearly every time, except for the first time, I immediately wonder if it was a mistake.  "What have I done!?"  How will I pay for childcare? What if it is multiples? etc. etc. etc. Generally, this is how I spend the first few days of each TWW.  I can't take reality, apparently.  This IUI was the best one yet.  Virtually no cramping, no pinching feelings from the speculum, I didn't even feel the catheter go in.  All in all, a delightful experience this time around. (That is.. if allowing strangers to look up your "birth certificate" can be delightful.)  The nurse was HILARIOUS.  In all of my time going to this clinic, we've only spoken on the phone.  It is a huge practice, so I've seen a different nurse for each IUI.  She joked about how she was going to leave DP and I alone and that she would knock before she came in.  She warned DP that it would not be necessary to hang me from my ankles or anything like that since everything was already placed where it needed to go.  So, DP quipped, "It's not going to be a problem, no scenes from L-Word being acted out in this room!"  And now, this has me wondering, just what do other people do during that 15 minute waiting period post IUI.  Do people really DO THAT in the doctor's office?!  Oh the stories those nurses must tell their families at dinner time!  Anywhoo, my boobs feel MASSIVE and they hurt.  I got back in a week for progesterone check and my beta is scheduled for 9-2-2013.

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Jenny so glad yesterday went well. Fingers and toes crossed! Welcome to the tww. Hope we can keep each other distracted.smile.gif
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redrock - keep testing & stay away AF!!


mama - they haven't officially announced it yet but I'm sure they'll do an autopsy. Still don't know what my other friend's 1 year old died frmo 2 months ago either. What part of Hawaii you in? That's the only part of the States or Canada I've ever been to. Really sorry to hear about AF hug2.gif


sandie - also sorry for you girls but onwards & upwards - it's all a learning experience xx hug2.gif


fmorris - good luck!!!!! I hope this next one is it for you.


beastie - sticky sticky sticky!!!!!


jwaite - it's so annoying & distracting, isn't it? also that implantation, AF etc are all similar symptoms.


jenn - oo welcome to the TWW & good luck! it's weird to think about what happens in doctors' surgeries. As you say with IUI there's no need to 'help them along' so would only be for 'pleasure'. urk. I had to lie down for 30 mins after my egg retrieval as it was so painful and glad I remembered my kindle. After the transfer though they just whizzed me out of there.


AFM right beta results today. No one's officially said what they mean but I had a reading of 505 which I think is pretty good & means I'M OFFICIALLY PREGNANT!!!!!!!! ALSO READY TO GRADUATE NOW. It's been an absolute pleasure ladies and don't worry, I'm not going anywhere as pinto(s) and I will still be hanging around cheering you all on & hoping you get your BFPs sooner rather than later.



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Sandie - sorry it didn't work out. Good luck for the next one, even though you have to sit out a try. Do you know that your partner switches sides each time? I've had cycles where the follies were on the same side two times in a row. Maybe you'll get the good side earlier.

redrock - Fx for a late positive. I read that some people don't get them for weeks.dizzy.gif


mama - sorry for AF. she just sucks hug2.gif


Jwaite - the cramping could be a very good sign.


fmorris - how stupid, that the phramacy messed up like this, but good for you to still go forward with the next try. You're young, you should be fine even without the meds.


Jenny - good luck for the TWW. Hope it works as well as the IUI did. I really doubt people do THAT in the doctors office. Way too unromantic and not even beneficial for an IUI.

Liz and Beastie have fun over there at Q&P! Sticky dust to you both and a happy and healthy pregnancy. joy.gif



afm - about 10 more days to the next doctors visit and insem possibly on 9/2 one day after my birthday. I really hope try number 9 works for us, going into double digits is just depressing. I am very exhausted by the whole process.



QOTD - Right now we refer to "watchword Edgar" as our babymaking projext. Later we'll probably give the fetus a really horrible German names like Brunhilde and Herbert so nobody can complain about our actual name choice. I read about someone naming their IVF blasts Shelly and Amy, together Shamy, which I absolutely adore. If we get to IVF with several embryos we could also find them some pop culture couple names like Sterek, Klaine or Xena and Gabrielle.



I have a new QOTD - Which baby item are you looking most forward to buying/thrifting/getting?


For me it is this beauty - a chariat bike trailer /jogger.


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