It's taking me a minute to get to know you all and catch up on what's happening, so I'm just going to jump in starting from the beginning of the August thread. Apologies if this means I miss responding to big news right away.
First, hugs to Jam. It's not over till it's over, but I'm sending good energy to you either way.
Mamaetmaman, how are you feeling? Grow, follicle, grow! It does seem like we're on similar timelines (I'll update below). I'm excited to be in a CD/TWW club with you and justanotherjenny! (you, too, redrockband)
fmorris, your laid back attitude is refreshing! FX for a BFP ASAP!
Lizbian great news about your many fertilizations! So exciting. The three days should go fast... Also, hooray for an engagement!
Escher, nice to see you too! Congrats on this pregnancy, and, while I'm catching up, also on your last one! It's nice to see a familiar name.
AFM, bear with me while I have a (long) panic attack and ask for advice?
I'm a little freaked out by the transition from at home ICIs to IUIs with an RE. DP and I felt really confident and empowered about timing and our little system at home, and now I'm bewildered by the new, shorter, window for successful IUIs plus navigating the RE's system and trying to make sure it's the right fit for me without overthinking it. Ok, maybe I've already failed at not overthinking. Anyway, the RE's system is to wait for an OPK+ and then do an IUI the next morning, and then a second the morning after that. In the past, I haven't always gotten clear OPKs (and I know I ovulated those cycles, because I got pregnant!), so I'm also doing blood and ultrasound monitoring, in an effort to get clear about timing. But the RE usually only does monitoring with medicated cycles, or at least a trigger, so they seem a little vague about what they're doing... so far I had a baseline monitoring on CD2, and the plan is for another U/S and bloodwork tomorrow (CD11). But today I got an early OPK+, and EWM so I'm thrown for a loop! Actually, I'm using a fancy OPK, Clearblue advanced, and it shows up to two days of "high" fertility and then up to two days of "peak" fertility. So today is really just the first day of "peak," and I'm actually so textbook that the little example chart on the box shows "high" on CD 10 and 11 and "peak" on CD 12 and 13, with ovulation on CD13.
OK, fertility friends, thanks for reading all that. Given all this information, when's the ideal timing for my two IUIs? Brill says IUIs should be as close to O as possible, since washed sperm has only about an 8 hour lifespan. So CD12 and 13? 13 and 14?
I think the real answer is that I might know more at monitoring tomorrow, or I could get "peak" on my OPK sooner (or later) than the textbook case. If I was using ICI, I'd know what to do. But I'm accepting all IUI advice!