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post #41 of 1502
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Originally Posted by Jaimee View Post

Who was it that read Gone Girl?  I remember a few of you talking about it so I got it on audiobook.  I just finished and wanted to know what others thought about it.

Are we doing serious bios or funny ones? 

I read it too. I liked it for something light to read, but the ending pissed me off. I didn't feel like there was any real conclusion, although it did keep my interest from the get-go. I'm not sure how I wanted it to end though...
post #42 of 1502
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Originally Posted by birdhappy85 View Post

Mal, I'm sorry you're dealing with that at home. You were the one who said your DH is worrying about finances, right? Since you're buying a house, double mortgage cost, etc...? If this behavior of his is new, it sounds like he's feeling the pressure really bad now. (Or I could totally be misreading the situation and he's been like this forever...?) It sounds like he needs a good honest sit-down conversation with you to come to a new compromise on responsibilities and all. It isn't fair to you at all to not get a break from your mommy duties, even to do non-breaky things like cook and clean, jeesh!

I could never marry myself. Neither of us would survive. twins.gif
 I married someone with very key differences from me for a reason. His cool-natured self balances out my crazy.


Speaking of DH... I created an anal-retentive monster, guys. DH is all gung-ho about finishing this patio project now, to the point that he ran out at like 7pm last night to get more stones and stuff to build a bottom step. Great, right?! Well in the midst of his work, I suggested we put a few potted plants on the side of the step to take up space that won't fit a stone. I put a few pots there to show him. And what did he do? He went kinda crazy on me saying if we put plants there, they need to be kept up and watered and "you can't let them go to sh*t because I built this patio and I want it looking good." HA! I looked at him too stunned to even get very mad because it was SO FUNNY seeing him actually care that much about something looking perfect. He is so NOT that person. My response? "Well then, I don't want the pressure, so I guess I'll just have to put fake plants there then." rolleyes.gif

I wouldn't call it new behavior for him. It waxes and wanes like anything else. We periodically have to have come to Jesus talks with each other. Him to me for money issues, me to him for sharing parental responsibilities. We did have a chat when we got home from our friend's house the other night. And I totally get that he's under a lot of stress with the finances, so I have been holding back the last couple of months. Hence the whole me only getting me-time when I shower. But if he's even going to complain about caring for our kids while I'm simply taking care of my own basic hygiene, it's time to have a talk.

Mostly DH and I balance each other out pretty well. We're very, very different but in good ways. He's very practical, I'm a dreamer with lofty goals. It balances out most of the time, but he does get stressed really easily then gets snappy with me and the kids. I don't take we'll to constant criticism.

Still thinking on my bio...
post #43 of 1502
I was on a message board for local AP moms, and my bio included "prostituting my goat". But I don't have a goat anymore, so lets see...

Ash (really close to 30), DH (even closer to 30), DS (10), DD (6), and baby B (November 2011). Crazy front-yard gardening neighbor to several suburbanites, friend to mostly recovering alcoholics, and stay at home mom to various children and occasionally some very immature adults. Former ER nurse and goat pimp.
post #44 of 1502
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Originally Posted by Mal85 View Post


I read it too. I liked it for something light to read, but the ending pissed me off. I didn't feel like there was any real conclusion, although it did keep my interest from the get-go. I'm not sure how I wanted it to end though...


Yeah, I was interested in what was going to happen for most of the book.  I was a little bored at first and wondered where in the world it was going.  Then I guessed the twist.  After that it felt really odd.  I had absolutely no idea how she even could end it and it was definitely a strange ending.  It made me feel a little like, what was the point?  Was I supposed to get something deeper out of it?

post #45 of 1502
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Originally Posted by Jaimee View Post


Yeah, I was interested in what was going to happen for most of the book.  I was a little bored at first and wondered where in the world it was going.  Then I guessed the twist.  After that it felt really odd.  I had absolutely no idea how she even could end it and it was definitely a strange ending.  It made me feel a little like, what was the point?  Was I supposed to get something deeper out of it?

That's pretty much how I felt. I did enjoy myself reading it, but other than that there seemed to be little point to it.
post #46 of 1502
Thread Starter 

Okay... my bio:

 

Jaimee (34), Dh (a younger university professor), Avalon (6), Austin (3), and Avery (Nov. 2011).  Vegetarian, organic gardening, food preserving, co-op leading, photo taking, running, reading, natural parenting advocating, online forum over posting stay at home mom with degrees in biology, chemistry, and anthropology that are waiting to once again be used.  Former API leader and tutor/teacher to girls in rehab.

post #47 of 1502
Yep, I read Gone Girl too. I was pretty unhappy with how it ended up but it kept me interested.
I've been reading along but never manage to post. Will try to think up a bio.
post #48 of 1502
I literally just went ape shit on my sister that won't move out because she tried to tell me I couldn't let someone borrow Conner's clothes he no longer fits into.
I'm having a really hard time finding my happy after that.
Maybe she'll move out now. Haha!
post #49 of 1502
Nicole, why did she say that?
post #50 of 1502
Because she wanted to give them to her friend! I literally have two totes of newborn to 3m clothes and I gave away one grocery bag worth, LOL.

I told her to be out by September 1st after she, once again, said she wasn't going to watch Conner anymore. I'm so tired of her constantly using that against me.

Let's see if she actually leaves.
post #51 of 1502
Does she keep him when you work?
post #52 of 1502
Her and my MIL split it. She was supposed to watch him tonight, got pissy and told me to find someone else. That's like the third time she's screwed me at the last minute. I'm over it.
post #53 of 1502
I'm loving these new bios. Especially Ash the former goat pimp.
post #54 of 1502
You guys are insane! The ending to Gone Girl was brilliant! I just reread it a few weeks ago. She got (almost) exactly what she wanted. He just needs a few more tweaks. Bwahahaha!!!!

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I'm at a lake house with people I don't know, but there is plenty of wine and a pool, so I'll survive.

Nicole, yes daycare is expensive, but not having someone hold child care over your head is priceless.
post #55 of 1502
Evening hours are a lot harder daycare hours to find.

Do I have to go read the book or will someone give me the low down?
post #56 of 1502
Ooooh. I forgot Nicole works later. That makes it different. Though I will say, Nicole, if you are planning on doing public school, one of you may want to switch to days eventually. I know, that doesn't sound pleasant, right? Just a thought!

I think you should read it.
post #57 of 1502
I plan on looking for a day job while I'm on leave. Believe it or not, here, day practices pay substantially better than the emergency clinic does. If I'm unable to find one though, DH can go to days at anytime.
If one of us goes on days, we'll never ever need a sitter but we'll never ever see each other.
Life as a parent, right?
post #58 of 1502
I think it's nice to have both parents on days when kids get older, and then have family time together in the evenings and weekends. But of course that is just my experience!! Also, there is definitely something to be said for not needing child care. It's a trade off. Totally.
post #59 of 1502
We'll both go to days once they're in school, for sure.
But that's still a solid three years away. Do I want to go three years without seeing him? LOL
Yeah, probably. wink1.gif
post #60 of 1502

Just wanted to share that as of yesterday, My hubby and I are debt free! :) We have paid-for older cars, no mortgage (renters). no credit card, and we just paid off tat last for DH's student loans! Mega happy! We may have zero college funds for kids, under $3K in retirement and under $2K in savings but we now owe no man anything.

 

21 weeks pregnant.

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