We have a high needs son, who has never been a great sleeper since he was born, however, he's starting to actually be more dependent on constant touch in order to stay asleep. We've done the family bed since he was an infant, however, he's always started out in his own room and then spent the rest of the night in our room, usually from about 11/12pm on until morning. However, he now barely sleeps an hour in his own room before he's waking up and wanting to be in our room. If we put him in our bed, he will immediately go back to sleep and he spends the rest of the night cuddled up to one of us, and is always making sure we are still right there, if we start to move around to much, he will reach out until he's touching someone.
We have gone through a change recently in his day to day sitter situation which might be causing a little anxiety and therefore, disrupting his typical sleep pattern. My husband and I work full time and he had been with a sitter since he was born, however, he's starting a preschool this fall, and we couldn't make a preschool situation work with his current sitter, so just last month he started at the preschool/daycare full time. He says he likes school and is fine when I drop him off and is happy when I pick him up, he doesn't seem to be having any issues with school, but I'm sure the change has still been a little stressful to him.
I assume this is what is causing these nighttime changes, but my concern is that we are starting a habit that will be tough to break. I was okay with the family bed, later on in the evening until morning. However, now he wants to be in our bed earlier, and I can't get anything done in the evening, because he won't just sleep in it by himself, he needs someone in bed with him to stay asleep. He has expressed how he doesn't like to sleep alone, and I'm not sure how to reassure him?
I'm not sure exactly what I am looking for, if others have been in this situation, what have you done/tried? Any advice?