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post #21 of 53

I'm still nursing my 2.5 year old. I just found out I'm pregnant with #3. I nursed throughout my pregnancy with #2 and tandem nursed for over a year. My first night weaned after my milk dried up. My second is nursing constantly at night. I am not sure how much longer I can nurse at night. The first trimester exhaustion and midnight trips to the bathroom have set in. 

post #22 of 53

I'm concerned that my supply seems to be decreasing already.  My daughter is not a constant nurser but is very devoted to several times a day.  I guess I have to let be what will be. I would like to tandem but not sure it we'll get there....

post #23 of 53
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Originally Posted by rducky View Post

I'm concerned that my supply seems to be decreasing already.  My daughter is not a constant nurser but is very devoted to several times a day.  I guess I have to let be what will be. I would like to tandem but not sure it we'll get there....
I know. Making sure to drink enough water (10+ cups) helps me some, but I find it difficult when I'm queasy.
post #24 of 53

Still nursing my 14 month old. Her papa's been taking her at night for me lately just so I can get some sleep because if she's in bed with me she wants to nurse all night. I'm really hoping to nurse her through this whole pregnancy but also a little nervous. When I was tandem nursing my oldest I had some preterm labor with my middle child. There's a very good chance it was more related to my really crappy husband at the time and environmental stress, but a part of me had wondered if it was the nursing. Hopefully it won't become an issue this time around!

post #25 of 53

I'm still nursing my DD who is 15 1/2 months old (born in April as well!). This pregnancy wasn't planned so I am a little stressed out about whether to wean her before the baby is born at the beginning of April or to tandem nurse. I've heard wonderful stories of tandem nursing and then I've heard horror stories as well, so I am a little torn. My nipples are extremely sore and I am exhausted, so a part of me wants to wean her before the baby is born. I also find myself feeling close to starvation most days because though I am eating a ton, nursing my daughter seems to suck what food I do eat away! I love our nursing relationship and she is not even close to being ready- and I know that she will be the type of child that will benefit from nursing during the tumultuous twos.Any positive experiences regarding tandem nursing? In my heart I know I would regret it if I weaned my DD before she was ready.


Edited by alexandrad - 8/27/13 at 2:39pm
post #26 of 53

Wow, so many nursing mamas here! My 16 month old is nursing mornings and evenings, occasionally more than that. We consciously night-weaned and reduced to a few times a day so we could conceive, and maybe I'll let him ramp back up. I would love to continue nursing through this pregnancy, but I have no idea what level of interest he will retain if I lose any supply. He refuses to fall asleep while nursing anymore. I suppose we shall see. 

 

On another note, I just read this KellyMom article about the safety of norsing and pregnancy today. It made me feel pretty good after thinking anxious thoughts: http://kellymom.com/pregnancy/bf-preg/bfpregnancy_safety/

post #27 of 53
DD (13m now) is a nursing bully. I mean, she has ramped this thing up to every hour, at least. Then she sits up after a few minutes and says "All done!"... And then she laughs wildly, shakes her head and keeps nursing until I pry her off half an hour later. I. Am. So. Sore!
post #28 of 53
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Originally Posted by tolovemercy View Post

DD (13m now) is a nursing bully. I mean, she has ramped this thing up to every hour, at least. Then she sits up after a few minutes and says "All done!"... And then she laughs wildly, shakes her head and keeps nursing until I pry her off half an hour later. I. Am. So. Sore!

This made me laugh so hard!!!! Hahaha. What a funny little one you have! And I hear ya on the hourly waking. Aye yi yi! (But i don't mean this to be insensitive. I'm sorry that youre sore! Same here)
post #29 of 53
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My nipples are extremely sore and I am exhausted, so a part of me wants to wean her before the baby is born.[...] I love our nursing relationship and she is not even close to being ready- and I know that she will be the type of child that will benefit from nursing during the tumultuous twos.Any positive experiences regarding tandem nursing? In my heart I know I would regret it if I weaned my DD before she was ready.

 

Exactly how I feel, dd is 25 mos. When she's sleepy in the mornings & wants to snuggle-nurse, and when she goes to bed at night are the primary times she even nurses anymore. If she's upset about something, she'll also ask.

 

I also really don't want to wean her before she's ready, but I work full-time, and will only have a few months off before going back after number two gets here. I am also getting seriously sore if she nurses for more than a few minutes at a time. Sometimes when I suggest to baby girl that we snuggle or hug instead of having milk, she's so upset that she cries. It just breaks my heart, but I'm just not sure I have it in me to tandem. I am seriously at a loss as to how to wean her without torturing both her & me!

post #30 of 53
Yeah I'm tapping into a whole different dimension of myself with this one. I thought "oh, I can nurse through pain, im so strong ad awesome." (haha) But now that the reality (sore nipples, low supply, icky feelings where I want to just swipe at her :/) I am soooo ambivalent. I even feel like I sort of understand how mamas can sleep train because I am sitting listen to her be so upset when I try to distract/avoid/turn her down and I sort of feel like, "I hate this, but not enough to acquiesce." :/ It's really hard. I want to continue, but if my supply goes, I don't think I can manage. It is so horrible the way I feel when she nurses dry. To say my skin is crawling is such an understatement :/
post #31 of 53
I'm nursing my 21 month old but we've naturally cut down a lot on feedings. His dad is now putting him to sleep at night but I still nurse when he night wakes in our bed & for his nap. He has the occasional comfort nurse but less and less as my milk supply drops. There's hardly any milk now and if this is anything like my last pregnancy he will naturally wean in the next couple of months. It's painful & irritating so I won't mind, even though I wouldn't have been ready to wean him if I wasn't pregnancy.
post #32 of 53

Nursing my 34 month old.  No plans to stop unless she wants to.  By now its really once or twice a day.  She'll be my first tandem nurser if she decides to keep going!

post #33 of 53

I'm nursing my 2.5 year old and my milk dried up this week. Boy has nursing changed! I always sort of rolled my eyes when my friend complained about dry nursing, but OWIE!!! There are actually some instances when nursing is still relaxing, but for the most part it ranges from slightly uncomfortable to WOW, THAT HURTS! ...ESPECIALLY the first thing in the morning. I usually have to pop her off after about 5-10 mins.

 

I think it's affecting our relationship as well. Nursing has always been our main cuddle time, so now we end up fighting and getting frustrated a lot more. And of course we're dealing with hitting a lot now too, so when she gets angry with me about not nursing, out come the fists. I really don't think I'm going to make it to tandem nursing. I thought maybe I might before I dried up, but now it seems like a long way away. Although I started reading "Adventures in Tandem Nursing" by Hilary Flower (which is great btw) and it sounds like colostrum will come in during the third trimester, so who knows.

 

PS, my husband has been a saint and now permanently sleeps between me and my daughter, so absolutely no boobies at night! Yay! She also seems to go back to sleep a lot more easily when he's there.

post #34 of 53
Thread Starter 

My milk is drying up, too. Latch on is PAINFUL, but after those first couple seconds, it's still ok. Hoping it doesn't get any worse, because youch! 

post #35 of 53
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Originally Posted by ShyingViolet View Post
 

My milk is drying up, too. Latch on is PAINFUL, but after those first couple seconds, it's still ok. Hoping it doesn't get any worse, because youch! 

I'm starting to experience the same. I don't know if I'm drying up yet though. He seems to be swallowing a lot. 

post #36 of 53

Well, we're back to things being okay. There may still be a little milk in there, not sure, but I'm having a similar experience to what was mentioned: painful latch, but not too bad after a few seconds. We've actually found a bit of a routine with this. There are still some lazy mornings I don't mind dozing with her on my boob for an hour, so who knows what will happen. We still nurse a lot less frequently than before.

post #37 of 53
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by sara125 View Post
 

Well, we're back to things being okay. There may still be a little milk in there, not sure, but I'm having a similar experience to what was mentioned: painful latch, but not too bad after a few seconds. We've actually found a bit of a routine with this. There are still some lazy mornings I don't mind dozing with her on my boob for an hour, so who knows what will happen. We still nurse a lot less frequently than before.

This is the case for us, too. It's not nearly uncomfortable enough to discourage her, but we still do nurse much less. 

post #38 of 53

My DD who is 33 months just weaned. She was down to nursing 2 times a day (nap & bedtime) but thankfully as my milk has dried up she would only nurse for a few mintues. but then the latch and first 20 seconds became really painful and she would only nurse for literally one minute on each side so I finally said there was no more milk and after a few times of her trying and not getting anything she stopped asking. I wonder though if she will be interested in nursing again when the new babe arrives? Anyone experience that?

post #39 of 53
Sweetsummer, I haven't experienced that but I have heard of other moms who had that happen. Hope there is someone who can help more than me.
Edited by Philothea - 11/22/13 at 3:37pm
post #40 of 53
How is everyone doing? I'm curious to hear updates on your breastfeeding relationships. Please share how things are going now (if you want to).

For me,

DD, 18 months is nursing and going strong. She nurses about 12+ times a day. I keep having mixed feelings about breastfeeding: Sometimes I absolutely love it and love holding her and cuddly with her and just that beautiful special, one-of-a-kind bond. But other times I get annoyed and want to stop (and then I feel guilty for being so selfish bc of how she much she loves it and wants it. greensad.gif it can be painful, she is super squirmy and kicks my stomach which of course hurts and I have to keep holding her legs, her constant changing positions and switching sides makes me have to either continually readjust my position or get terrible back and neck aches from holding all her weight in bad posture. Also, it's hard bc she often wants to nurse at inconvenient times. It's like she sees me going to make dinner or starting a task and "bam" now she needs to nurse. Lol, seriously.

I try not to feel bad that my milk supply has greatly decreased, but it really makes me sad that she is not getting the nutrients she needs from my milk anymore. Before I was 4 months pregnant, my breasts were super full and she'd have several full meals of breastmilk a day. Now, I'm not even sure if she gets any milk.

Anyway, for now I plan on persevering and the love that I have for our bonding moments is stronger than the frustration and challenges. I go back and forth when I contemplate whether or not I'll tandem nurse and sometimes just trying to decide overwhelms me. So for now I'm planning on just taking it day by day. Today it is working. Today breastfeeding is overall still good for both of us, so we will continue. smile.gif
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