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Update and needing outsiders opinions on our final two name choices please :)

post #1 of 19
Thread Starter 

Hey mamas! I spent a little time reading updates on everyone today. I have not able to get on here much. Things have been so busy around here. For example, last week: I switched midwives, my brother moved in with us from OH (got a job here as Nurse Practictioner) and my 3 year old now has August off from school (not the best timing because of how big and tired I am). She starts everyday out with "mommy, what are we going to do today??" :)

 

I am almost done with my big to-do list, finished ordering all the home birth supplies today.  I haven't done any freezer meals but I am not sure I will.  I am feeling quite exhausted most days (so different from last time) and so so very large.  Anyway, it was good to see babies are arriving and everyone is in the home stretch.  This pregnancy flew by, I barely remember those early days of nausea!  :)  Yesterday, I found out my husband has 2 PAID days this time.  We went back to see family in June for 2 weeks (a longer trip because of the cost and dividing time) and he thought he had 2-3 weeks in a sick leave reserve but turns out, NOPE, he is not eligible to use it.  My heart is broken for him.  He had 7 weeks paid off with our first daughter (I know, unheard of, different company) and his bonding time means so much to him.  We cannot afford for him to be without pay.  We have no family here to help (my brother just moved here but he will be starting a new job and is no Mary Poppins).  I found 12 hours free of post partum doula help but otherwise, friends will bring frozen meals once a week.  Hoping for a vaginal birth for an easier recovery and that he can still bond successfully.  Sad.

 

So, we have two names and I feel like we will have to wait to meet her but at this point, I like them pretty equally. This has been a much harder decision than we named our daughter Camille Elise.

 

Willa Hazel

 

OR

 

Hazel Corinna (Cor-reen-ah)

 

 

Hazel is a family name but that is not incredibly important to me.  We have loved the name for a long time but it is now becoming super popular?  trendy?  It was 48/100 in my state last year and while I do not know any personally (no friends or family have used it), I hear it in the community and we live in a pretty trendy town.  It's hard to decide if popularity is the main reason we don't use a name we do love. And it is so hard to know if this is a name that will keep gaining popularity.

 

Willa is much less common!  There is just something about it, I really do like it a lot.  It is a classic name but yet it is spunky and sweet.  I thought we could use Hazel as the middle name and it sounds okay.  But the middle name is not as important to me because one never remembers middle names, ya know?

 

Thoughts?  Thank you for reading!

post #2 of 19

I love Willa. I like the ll with Camille and it just is fun without being out there.

 

It passes the supreme court justice test (my husband is a lawyer and it is how we check that a name is professional/serious enough).

 

Bee has a name not unlike Hazel in popularity and we spent a lot of time listening and asking people like daycare workers at the gym how much they heard it. So far the only one she knows directly is at church. As you have pointed out popularity is highly localized.

 

Have you googled and checked and googled the initials?

post #3 of 19
Thread Starter 

Thank you for your opinion! Yes, I have friends who have friends who have Hazels and I have been hearing it more at the park, grocery store, community events.  But I do not know anyone directly related to me and none of my friends have used it. I realize it it not a unique name by any means but I am not sure it is a name that will become in the top 100 nationwide. 

 

However, if we stay in this city, I can see my Hazel having a couple in her class especially if it was 77/100 last year, 48 girls were named Hazel in my city.  Part of me just wants to snag it up and use it if that makes sense.  I know some people do not care about popularity but I think it may bug me if I keep hearing it all the time.  And that is one of the things I like about Willa, you just don't hear it (for now) but we definitely do not get as positive of feedback on this name. Friends, family, etc all like Hazel better. This is proving to be a much harder decision than I thought!

post #4 of 19
I think they're both cute! But you have to think about which one you might regret not naming her. If you love them both equally, then is name her Willa, since it's less popular. But that's just me!
post #5 of 19

I've never heard the name Willa, but I am familiar with Willamina. I think Hazel might be the safer option, though I certainly agree that it is becoming more popular!

post #6 of 19

I actually like Willamina better, but that is just me. It also makes Mina a possible nickname

post #7 of 19
Thread Starter 

Yeah, I don't think a lot of people have heard of it.  Ever heard of Willa Cather, the novelist?  I am not a huge fan of Wilhemina for some reason.  Thank you!

post #8 of 19
Made me think of Willa Cather and that would be my vote.
post #9 of 19
Willa Hazel gets my vote. Mainly for the Willa Cather link.
post #10 of 19

I love Willa. I like Hazel a lot too, but I am weird about popular names. It really pissed me off when a Kardashian named her baby my daughter's name. (years later) 

post #11 of 19

I like both but I vote for Hazel!! Either way you can't go wrong :)

post #12 of 19
Oregon, I am SO sorry to hear about your shortage of postpartum support! My DH worked for the state when our DS was born and although he had a crappy job, his benefits and leave package were excellent. This time around, he owns his own business and must be there pretty much all day every day (like 12 hour work days), though he does come home at lunch most days. Fortunately I have my mom here to help me because it is harder than I remember and yesterday, I didn't have pain until I did and then it was just everywhere at once. It helped to have my mom there to get me into a hot bath and chill out! I hope you can find the additional and so-important postpartum support.

Regarding Hazel- I never hear that for kids in rural Texas where I live, though I do know a few older ladies with that name.

I think Willa Cather is the only Willa I've ever heard of. I didn't *love* My Antonia or O, Pioneers, but they were solid books and it's a cool name. Just go with the one you love the most- it doesn't matter what other people think, unless you're naming Fartface or something. Then I would take public opinion into consideration. wink1.gif
post #13 of 19
Thread Starter 

Thanks ladies :) I am leaning towards Willa but my husband is leaning towards Hazel. Who knows what we will end up with! I wish I wasn't having a hard time with this.

 

And thank you Crafty, I am sure it will be challenging but we will figure it out.  I mean, I don't really have another option :) Trying to stay positive! I will just have to reach out to friends if I am desperate. Just trying to get through these next weeks, the birth and then....we'll see.  I hope you are recovering well! Glad you have support!

post #14 of 19

I don't have any great advice on the names, but I did want to say, with our first, my DH was only able to be home with us for a 4 day weekend and he still bonded really well with my oldest.  With our second, he was able to be home for the first 2ish weeks, but then was overseas for the next 2.5 months.  I will say he did not bond as much with her, but she had other challenges as well that made it harder.  Now that she's 3 and coming out the other side of things, I can see their bond growing...

 

That said, it really sucks that you don't have more help PP. :( :(  Is there no way one of your parents could come stay with you guys for 1-2 weeks and help out some? :(  My folks have always given at least a week to come help out.  I'm super lucky this time as my mom is coming out in just over a week and staying possibly through the end of the month...

post #15 of 19
I like Willa Hazel. You can always call her Hazel, or both if you like, and if you decide that you are hearing it too much, you can use Willa only. My youngest answers to both Penny and Penelope.

I do know a couple young Hazels. I live in a pretty hipster town.
post #16 of 19
Askew- I don't keep up with celebrity pop culture, but was unhappy when I found that a couple of famous people had chosen that name in the same time frame. Especially because I chose not to give my 2nd daughter the middle name "Pax" after finding out that celebrity had named her child Pax during my pregnancy. I have always regretted that decision, because we couldn't settle on her middle name after that and finally just had to choose something. I have never thought that it quite suited her :/

So I suppose the lesson there is that if you really love a name and think it suits your child, you should go with it.
post #17 of 19
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Originally Posted by Banana731 View Post

Askew- I don't keep up with celebrity pop culture, but was unhappy when I found that a couple of famous people had chosen that name in the same time frame. Especially because I chose not to give my 2nd daughter the middle name "Pax" after finding out that celebrity had named her child Pax during my pregnancy. I have always regretted that decision, because we couldn't settle on her middle name after that and finally just had to choose something. I have never thought that it quite suited her :/

So I suppose the lesson there is that if you really love a name and think it suits your child, you should go with it.

 

Banana- me neither- I was not even sure who that Kardashian was- but I got 4 text messages the day she gave birth telling me about it. lol This time around the name the baby chose, and I do believe she told us her name- happens to be the name of a Jolie-Pitt baby. I don't care. I'm going with it anyway. I Have a friend who named her son Pax and to us the name is perfect for him and has no reminder of the Jolie-Pitt child either. 

post #18 of 19
Those texts would have ticked me off X0
post #19 of 19
Thread Starter 

We are definitely feeling more connected to the name Willa and letting go of Hazel as a first name.  Thanks for your input.

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