Background: Ex, who's non-custodial, sees DD about twice a month. He hasn't given her any birthday or Christmas presents ever, although he has asked me to tell him specifically what to get her (when I gave him a non-specific answer, he just didn't get anything). His new wife gave DD a little present once, when Ex started visitation, though.
The issue: DD turned 2 today, and yesterday he sent her a very short email, just two sentences, excluding the greeting and sign-off (note: it wasn't an ecard). I'm pretty angry about this: DD is just 2, and she can't understand the idea of an email or read it, and he didn't even take the time and effort to buy a birthday card from the grocery store.
I'm thinking of letting him know in a gentle way that a physical card would be more valuable to her. Would that be butting in? Or overly officious? Or come across as snotty? Either way, I'll be printing out the card and reading it to her, so that she'll get at least a little bit out of it.
What do you think about saying anything about the email?