She's never been a great sleeper and most of her life she breastfed to sleep but had stages where she also liked to be walked to sleep. She has never in her life slept through the night but I would consider a *good* night when she only wakes 3-5 times a night. She usually takes two naps a day and I experimented with her having less sleep or more sleep during the day and neither one helped her sleep more at night. I've also been trying to fill her up as much as possible on solids and breastmilk during the day to ensure that she's not hungry. Usually only only one of the twenty night wakings results in an actual feeding.
Anyway, I know this Is a problem as I can't function to be the best mom for her during the day and so my dh and I are trying to figure out what would be the best route to take. (It should go without saying CIO is not even an option). Oh I should also mention that we thought maybe she needed more space so we got a crib and sidecar-ed that to our bed. So that is our family bed situation right now. Dh is willing to do whatever it takes. The problem is that whenever I or he tries to help her fall back asleep any other way than nursing (just pat her, sing, ect) she gets more and more upset and then screams and then hysterical and she becomes more wawake and its harder to put her back to sleep, ya know.
My dh is willing to walk her around back to sleep but even if that works, I don't want to replace one bad habit with another KWIM? We've also discussed that I could sleep in the other room and dad and dd sleep in bed (ive read here that this works for some) but again, would that just be setting us up for another bad situation?
I definitely didnt want it to come to this point. Ive tried to just give her what she wanted/needed and endure the sleepless nights but its really hit the breaking point. I hate the idea of refusing her "nursie" (our word) at anytime and especially to start doing at night when she is going to become highly distressed. but I know it will be better for all of us because waking every 20 mins all night long is not good for any of us.
Anyway Mamas, any and all help and advice you could give me I would GREATLY appreciate!!! We want to start doing things differently asap but we dont eant to transition her into something unless it is the right thing, so im just trying to figure this all out with you guys. Thanks in advance!
(Btw I typed this on my phone so sorry for all the typos!)