I partly just feel the need to write this all out, but also would love any ideas, feedback, etc that anyone may have.
We have had two different full assessments done for 7 year old DS (the first when he was 3.5, the second in the last couple months), and the doctors all agree there is lots going on but they can't pin it down. With this most recent assessment they have ruled out aspergers because of DS' "ability to understand and manipulate other people". They thought for a while that at least one for sure was ADHD, but now they have seen him sit and do a puzzle without taking a break for over an hour and so are unsure of that.
Here is a list of his current symptoms:
-crashes into everything, climbs furniture and leaps off
-very sensitive to noises and touch
-clumsy, bumps into people and trips over things/walks into things
-trouble with gross motor, ex.has not learned to pedal a bike
-angers very quickly and becomes aggressive, often over very minor things
-screams at us if things don't go his way
-low mood much of the time
-has tics, repeats phrases under his breath
-does not want to leave the house
-worries about school
-talks very loudly and will not pause what he is saying even if someone is trying to get his attention, talks almost non-stop about the same couple topics, repeats the exact same sentence several times over
-has episodes of being very silly, laughing uncontrollably, spitting and throwing/dumping things, becomes non-verbal during this
-has a very hard time fitting in with peers
-has trouble with any change in routine, surprises,etc will cause major meltdowns
-everything must be arranged and performed "just so", ex. Putting on pants or shoes - the same foot must always go in first
He is also extremely talented artistically and very bright. He can be very sweet and kind, when he allows it to come to the surface.
Right now we are waiting for school to start again so that the psychiatrist can observe him at school (they did this at the end of last year but are still so unsure of what they are seeing that she wants to go back again. )
Does anyone have any thoughts at all? I've done so much reading and it is starting to seem that he has a little bit of a whole handful of disorders. It's not so much that we need a diagnosis, I just want to be able to understand him better and know what to do to help him. Things are so difficult right now and my husband and I are so discouraged.
Thanks in advance for any replies.