I work the night shift 1-2 nights per week. During this time my 34 month old son is watched by Grandma, or his Dad at my house. They each do things their own way, which is letting him watch tv until 10 at night, and fall asleep on the couch. Neither wants to do "bedtime".
I've had the hardest time finding other childcare for him because he wakes at night and can't go back to sleep without nursing. Grandma and Dad turn the tv on and let him drift back to sleep (out of desperation). They say that way he cries 5-10 min and is right back to sleep.
I'm interviewing a nanny tomorrow who will live with us so Grandma and Dad don't have to come stay with me. I know she and I will be able to establish a routine. However....
My son and I co-sleep and he still nurses 4 times a day (to go to sleep and to wake up, for the night and for nap). Two weeks ago we moved to a bigger house where he can now have his own bed. This seems like a great time to get him in his own bed, and weaning, so he has the same routine daily from nanny and myself. Despite the fact I don't WANT to push him out of my bed, or force weaning. I have been determined our great nursing relationship wouldn't end in tears.
Starting Aug 1 I took the leap, an told him my breasts are hurting (showing him band aids) and that we're all done nursing. He seems to be accepting it: He will ask to nurse then immediately say "nursing is all done, cuddle?". Aug 1 he napped ok, though it took awhile to get to sleep, he woke up grumpy but was ok, fell asleep at night much the same. Then he woke up in the middle of the night screaming, hysterical, and inconsolable. This lasted for an hour. He finally fell asleep (poor guy). Then he didn't nap today (I believe because he couldn't nurse).
I am questioning whether it's a good idea to impose so much change on him all at once: the move, potty training, his own bed, weaning, new care giver, preschool, all in a month's time. (I'm looking for signs of distress, and so far don't see any. But I'm a single mom unpacking, applying to grad school, trying to find him a preschool, potty training, nanny-hunting, etc.) Some of my friends say it's good to get all the changes done in one fell swoop - it's a big adjustment period - but they're settled into their new routine asap and it's not ongoing little changes all the time.
Insight? Feedback? I'd love some. Thank you!