Thanks. I guess I am looking for ways to help her do things better, or easier, or less messily (if that is a word!). Like when she eats, she can't hold the bowl and get the last bit out, and she can't pour milk into a cup because the cup moves, etc. She does use her feet and her body when possible. She also has a hard time playing with some toys, so I thought there may be certain toys that would be suggested for her. Even zippers need 2 hands, etc. I'm sure there must be a website somewhere for kids, but all I can find are adult websites. I have gotten a few good ideas (put a non-skid mat on the table for her so the plate doesn't slide, etc) but was looking for more.
Basically I want her to be frustrated less often. . .