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Single mother to three, soon 4 children jning you and saying hi

post #1 of 6
Thread Starter 
Hi fellow moms,

I am a pregnant mother to three little children. My husband convinced me to try for a fourth child and I got pregnant quickly. We were both happy but clearly something was wrong. I found a weird message on his mobile phone when he left it lying around, it had popped up on his apple screen. Turns out he has been cheating on me for four years, allegedly only one sexual slip up but plenty of sexting and backstabbing messages to other women (my wife is this and that and doesn't love me...yadayada).

We have been married for nearly 7 years and I am devastated. Came down the stairs this morning and the children were still sleeping and I started to cry because this is how it will be, I will essentially always be alone. The pregnancy is fine, no problems but I dread being alone. My parents live close by but are old and cannot cope with the three kids. We have a lovely Au Pair but nothing substitutes another parent.

He has literally moved away for work, closed the door behind him and then after over a month gone he said he doesn't love me, has never loved me and that's why he has done all these awful things. Everytime I try and speak to him about it he gets so angry and asks me why I don't get it. I feel slapped it in the face and he has the gall to say he is tired of speaking to me crying it makes him feel bad. Well, you don't say...

I have come onto this board hoping to pick myself up and find the strong, clever and fun woman I used to be. I am scared of going it all alone and not sure how to cope.
post #2 of 6

welcome to mdc.  so sorry you are going through this.  There is a great single parenting forum on here.  Good luck 

post #3 of 6
Welcome! I'm so sorry about all this. You will find lots of strong ladies and support here. <3
post #4 of 6
Thread Starter 
Thank you both. I have no one in RL to share this with. I am glad I found a community where I may find some guidance and like-minded souls who can listen and give advice. I will get better as time goes by. Thank you for the welcome!
post #5 of 6

Welcome and congratulations on your pregnancy! You'll definitely want to join your Due Date Club where you can chat with other moms due the same month as you and get the support and shared experiences that help us all through pregnancy. You'll find the Due Date Clubs here http://www.mothering.com/community/groups/tagged/tag/2013-due-date-clubs

 

Welcome! love.gif

post #6 of 6

Congrats on the baby and I am so sorry to hear about your circumstances.

 

I also have nobody in RL for support. I lost my husband a year and half ago and still had a half dozen kids living at home. The few distant family members that were around,

either turned their backs on us or did horrid things.

 

I understand how hard it is but you may have to just let go....I know that is easier said than done but learning to rely only on yourself, will make things easier. Cry it out when

you need to and keep pushing forward. You can do this!! =)

 

I just joined this morning, but it looks like an awesome site for support and advice.

 

Take care of yourself and your children =)

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