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post #21 of 46
Right now the plan is to see our regular doctor for prenatal care and then UC. He's a great backup doctor, has backed up all but one of my homebirths. However, I haven't ever been pregnant past 37w5d. So if I work until the end, there's a chance I will go into labor at work. Meaning my best bet may be going to the hospital midwives that are about 66 blocks from work. My last labor was 90 minutes total, so no way hubs could come get me (a 20 minute drive) and get me home, since I rarely am convinced it's labor until at least 20 minutes into it. But he could get me to the hospital, or someone here at work could and he could meet me there. I also drive around with a portable birth kit in my van starting at about 35 weeks (actually got the idea from my oldest when pregnant with #3. We were going to BRU to walk around and try to kickstart the prodromal labor and she grabbed a ring sling and stuck a onesie, diaper, and wipes in the pocket "just in case" lol). So, who knows, maybe I wind up giving birth in the parking lot at work. I actually think that would be hilarious. Have the baby, clean us both up, walk into work with the baby all "Yes, I just gave birth, nbd!"
post #22 of 46
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Originally Posted by peaceful_mama View Post

Don't know. Hubs will not want to pay cash for a HB MW. Our insurance changed from one that covered. The CPM I used for the last two missed my youngest's birth defect. She may not have known what it was, but to me, there's no reason she should not have seen it & pointed it out. So shes out.
I LOVE one CNM at one hospital in town. I HATE the idea of having to stay & even though I had no fight with my daughter, my favorite part of the little boys' births was NOT having to answer a million questions about feeding. We were able to relax & learn. So, I don't know.

 

Check with the CNM. My backup doctor is the overseeing doctor at the ONLY birth center in our area, and he has a heavy OB practice in his family practice clinic himself. The hospital, in large part because the midwives and him, have an early checkout policy that lets you leave after a minimum 4 hour stay. They are also very hands off if the patient requests it.
post #23 of 46

I think I may have the option of a hospital water birth in my area, that is my first choice. If I find out otherwise, then I will be looking for a midwife for a hospital birth. I have toyed with the idea of a homebirth, but the first birth (hospital) was a little rough, so now I won't feel totally safe without having the extra "backup." Although I am sure nothing would more comfortable than being able to labor for the whole duration in my home.

post #24 of 46

Intoit, I think a home birth sounds so nice too, but I'm in the same boat.  I just need to be at the hospital.  Since I am planning to get to the hospital so early, my midwives and I are going to discuss how I can make things as homey and relaxing as possible.  I'm probably going to try to go in several times and meet all the nurses, and I'm going to bring my own tea and an electric kettle, and probably some flowers and my favorite essential oil.  Mostly I like to walk in labor and there is a nice staircase right outside of the maternity ward.  It's the little things, you know.  :)

 

I would love to hear about what you are planning on doing.

post #25 of 46
Planning a homebirth! Would love a waterbirth but as it's my first I don't want to have too many plans/expectations! Congrats to all smile.gif
post #26 of 46

We met and hired our midwife this week! I'm so excited. She's a CNM and the ONLY homebirth midwife in this area. She seems so capable, and she really set DF's mind at ease about the whole homebirth thing. 

post #27 of 46

I need to follow up with the midwives office on Monday, it's been a week and I haven't heard back about being accepted into their care. They do say it normally takes about a week and not much happens at the beginning anyway but I'm anxious and want to make sure I get in! Midwife availability is tricky around here because they're in very high demand.

post #28 of 46
We are still exploring our options but I am leaning toward an in home non water birth. The midwife that does it is a bit of a hike away but I'm more inclined to be at home and comfy versus at a hospital.
We do have a birthing center near us so that may be an option as well
post #29 of 46

Is anyone else planning to hire a doula?  Or hired one in the past?  My first birth, I knew ahead of time I wasn't going to want anyone touching me, and sure enough, I retreated to the bathroom for most of my labor in the hospital.  I couldn't speak through the contractions and everything was a total haze.  One of the nurses (who had been a homebirth midwife, so really knew her stuff) offered me comfort measures and tried to help me with positions, but I pretty much wanted to be left alone.  Dealing with all that pain was kind of traumatic but I handled it the only way I knew how.  Second labor went very swiftly. I'm very independent in labor, for the most part and I managed the pain on my own just fine right up until I was pushing and the pain ramped way up and I felt like I was paralyzed.  

 

Anyhow, this time, I am thinking I might want to hire a doula, but I'm not sure what I would get out of it.  I'm not particularly concerned about whether or not I will have an epidural or c-section the way that I was in my previous births - I really wanted to avoid a c-section before, that thought was very scary.  I do lean towards wanting to let stuff happen on its own and I'm confident in my ability to cope with pain.  My last birth I knew I would take an epidural if I had a long labor and needed to rest, and this one too, I'll plan on taking an epidural if I'm getting exhausted.  But the chances of my next labor lasting that long are slim.  If I need a c-section, I just hope to know as far ahead as possible so it can be as calm as possible.  I guess this will all be good questions to ask if I interview doulas. 

 

I do think that I have a tendency to be overly independent and might benefit from leaning on another person for help.

 

 

 

One of my friends is planning a hospital birth with a doula in October I'm eager to hear what she thinks of it.  But I would love to hear others' experiences.

post #30 of 46

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Edited by BucketofStars - 8/12/13 at 10:31am
post #31 of 46
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Originally Posted by cyclamen View Post

My first birth, I knew ahead of time I wasn't going to want anyone touching me, and sure enough, I retreated to the bathroom for most of my labor in the hospital.

This was me also, I stayed in the bathroom in the tub most of the time and didn't want to be bothered. But I expected that during my pregnancy and was glad we didn't get a doula. I wonder how likely it is that this labour will be different? I'll probably see how I'm feeling about it further on in the pregnancy, if I'm looking for some extra support.

 

DD's birth was also pretty quick at 8 hrs and that was with a badly positioned head, so the next one could be pretty quick (or not, LOL).

post #32 of 46
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Originally Posted by Ola_ View Post

This was me also, I stayed in the bathroom in the tub most of the time and didn't want to be bothered. But I expected that during my pregnancy and was glad we didn't get a doula. I wonder how likely it is that this labour will be different? I'll probably see how I'm feeling about it further on in the pregnancy, if I'm looking for some extra support.

 

DD's birth was also pretty quick at 8 hrs and that was with a badly positioned head, so the next one could be pretty quick (or not, LOL).

 

I was told I  could go quickly with my second and that it would probably be around half as long as my first labor.  I did not believe them.  I was like, "Don't get my hopes up like that!"  I had malposition with my first so I kept expecting it to really hurt for hours and hours.  Well.....  my contractions never got regular, it started really hurting and she was born an hour later!   I have no idea what to expect with this one, but at this point nothing would surprise me.  They want me to come to the hospital at first contraction, whether it hurts or not, and I'm all for it.  I guess that's why I'm thinking a doula, since I won't be waiting around at home at all.  Although I'm worried either this labor will end up being super long (in which case a doula would be handy), or that despite living only a few blocks from the hospital, I won't make it there in time.  

post #33 of 46
My doula is hired. Other than that, not a clue.
post #34 of 46

I'm pretty sure there are no doulas in my town :( there's ONE midwife and she only takes 2 clients a month, so you pretty much have to call her as you're peeing on the stick! 

post #35 of 46

I'm hoping to deliver at the same birth center we used last time.  Labor at home as long as possible, then go there and jump in the huge tub!  Last time I was only there for about four hours before I delivered.
 

post #36 of 46

Planning to have a natural birth with my wonderful CNM in a hospital.  My first was in a hospital with a OB.  It was overall a good experience, but I'm happy to have a midwife this time instead.

post #37 of 46

Planning on another homebirth, but we just moved to vermont - and my DH works in New Hampshire so we have coverage in both states - and I was so excited b/c I thought these states mandated homebirth coverage, but there are only 3 midwives - all an hour away or so and the closest one had pretty good outline of fees - she charges more than twice what I paid last time (2k) and there seems to be a lot of "extra" expenses - including fees to have someone process with the insurance - she brags that this assistant is very successful at getting a reasonable amount of reimbursement. 

I'm hearing that it's very difficult to get Insurance to actually cough up mpney, so we will have to see. We borrowed money last time and I don't want to do that again. My first 2 kids were natural hospital births and my 2nd was born minutes after arriving My gentle peaceful birth became chaotic as the staff were frantically trying to follow intake protocol and I just wanted to have my baby. That was when I decided $$ shouldn't trump my birth experience. your hormones shift when you are relocating in labor. My homebirth was not the easiest, but the best of my birth experiences and I don't see that there is any going back. 

post #38 of 46

I'm excited - I'm interviewing a doula tomorrow!  I am curious to see if we click, and she says she likes to meet her moms as early as they want, so we have the whole pregnancy to get to know each other and get comfortable.  I have a long list of questions to ask her.  I like that she says she has worked with moms in a variety of birthing situations, and with moms who have had previous losses.  If these are the kinds of birth situations she is comfortable working in, she might be a very good fit for us.

post #39 of 46

I hope your meeting goes well with the doula, cyclamen. We had a doula and it was very helpful for us. No one gave me better preparation as a first time mother than my doula did. She brought a lot of experience and was able to help reassure me with her information during my very medicalized birth. I'm sure my husband was grateful for her presence as well. When my son's birth left me with many negative feelings, she was an even bigger help in that she had been with me for the duration and was able to give perspective and help me reflect in more positive ways. Had I not just moved far away, she would have been the first person to know about this pregnancy after my husband.

post #40 of 46

Turns out she can't meet us today, so she is meeting us on Thursday.  I hope that it goes well too.

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