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post #81 of 163
Sierra: Sorry you got AF but hope this next cycle is the one!

I feel like our bodies might need several PPAF cycles while nursing because it (nursing) takes so much from us and our bodies need time to build up the hormones needed to support a healthy pregnancy.

Take care everyone!!
post #82 of 163

Tested this evening 10 DPO BFN.  As long as my temp stays up I will test in the am. 

 

Last night was a shitty night ds nursed from 12am to 3am.  (I snuck back into my bed at 3am) he woke up within 10min. so he slept with us all night he wanted to nurse but I told him the nursies are sleeping and he went back to sleep but every time I tried to roll over he would stir.  (the constant nursing makes me believe I'm getting AF soon because it is his pattern for the past few cycles.  I'm hoping he sleeps tonight.  He stuffed his little belly so he should not be hungry. the night he was up he refused to eat dinner.  He ate almost a 1/2 lb of cod tonight some broccoli a little milk then topped it off with some ice cream. 

post #83 of 163
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Tested this evening 10 DPO BFN.  As long as my temp stays up I will test in the am. 

 

Last night was a shitty night ds nursed from 12am to 3am.  (I snuck back into my bed at 3am) he woke up within 10min. so he slept with us all night he wanted to nurse but I told him the nursies are sleeping and he went back to sleep but every time I tried to roll over he would stir.  (the constant nursing makes me believe I'm getting AF soon because it is his pattern for the past few cycles.  I'm hoping he sleeps tonight.  He stuffed his little belly so he should not be hungry. the night he was up he refused to eat dinner.  He ate almost a 1/2 lb of cod tonight some broccoli a little milk then topped it off with some ice cream. 


Stretch, It sounds like your having  a really rough time :0(. Usually just before AF your milk supply may dip causing toddlers and babies to nurse more often. The same may happen if you're PG. I sincerely hope that it's the latter. Sometimes night weaning can be hard (experience tells me that some babes are easier than others).

 

Here's hoping for a BFP for both of us in the morning thumb.gif

post #84 of 163
Oh no BFP for me. BFN yesterday afternoon and with FMU this morning. Since AF is due tomorrow or Monday 'm guessing I'm out, but we shall see.

Silver lining of a BFN is a nice mug of coffee.
post #85 of 163

BFN this morning, but my temp is still up which is good.  AF is due Mon so we will see what tomorrow brings.

 

On another note DS slept wonderfully last night, he did not come into my bed until 5am he nursed for 2 min and went back to sleep until 7.  woo hoo.  I really notice a difference between when he has a really full belly and when he does not.  It is not the only thing that throws him off of course just one of them.

post #86 of 163
Hi everyone,
I've been checked out (just super-busy) but I ovulated last weekend so I'm in 2ww. Sorry I can't put it in bold on my iPhone!

Sounds like lots of near positives! I hope they turn into strong positives!

Regarding night nursing: I night-weaned about 3 months ago and last month I had my first 12 day LP (previously it had been 10 days). I've been on vitex this month and my ovulation signs were stronger than normal, so I am hopeful!

What is this about weaning off the vitex if pregnant? I don't want to take it while pregnant but I don't want to risk a miscarriage either. Anyone have more info on that?
post #87 of 163
Well I took another test this AM with FMU and it is basically negative. There is the faintest of possibility of a line. But it is way fainter than the ones I took Tues and Wed which means my HCG levels are dropping. So most likely a chemical/ miscarriage and I am just waiting to start the flow. I would rather just get it over with so I can have some closure and hopefully feel normal. I have nausea and extreme fatigue and just overall malaise. I have on and off right side cramping too...I hope it is not in my Fallopian tube on the right side. That would totally suck....

RosieL- yes the bright side of a BFN is a strong cup of coffee! I am tempted to take some Advil for my cramping but I feel like what if miraculously I was still carrying a viable pregnancy.
post #88 of 163
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Big hugs wengrin hug2.gif  I know it sucks.  Have you thought about just lying in a nice warm bath for the cramps?  That always helped me (I had 5 miscarriages before DS because I had a partial septate uterus, now surgically fixed thank God).

 

I've been thinking more and more about this TTC business - my vitex arrived this morning so it's my first day trying it out and I'll keep you all posted of course...

anyhow, this TTC business - I've decided that if it takes me longer, it takes me longer.  I'm not going to wean DS and I will stop the vitex if my milk supply decreases enough that DS is upset by it.  I totally sympathize with you stretch about the all night nursathons but I'm trying to tell myself that it means my little man still needs me a bit too much to share me with another baby yet.  So it might be a long road but I'm mentally preparing myself for that now.

This doesn't mean to say I won't be BDing at every opportune moment, poas 8 DPO and trying my vitex though orngbiggrin.gif

 

emom47 - to answer your question about vitex, I was prescribed progesterone suppositories when I got pregnant with DS due to my history (see above - DS was my first pregnancy post surgery) and I read lots of stories online about women just stopping them and suddenly miscarrying so I weaned off them slowly.  I was prescribed a 10 week course based on 2 a day.  Because my HCG was pretty high and I too was concerned about the effects of too much 'extra' hormones on an early pregnancy, I only took 1 a day to start, so I had plenty saved to go past 10 weeks weaning off them.  When I was 8 weeks pregnant, I dropped down to 5 days a week using them, 2 days a week off, then a week later, 4 days on, 3 days off, etc...  I'm only using my personal experience, not medical fact/opinion here but I fully intend to treat my vitex supplements exactly the way I treated my progesterone.

 

RosieL - I'm really curious about what laws prevent you from getting a midwife birth for a vbac?  That seems crazy to me.  I had to fight to get a home birth with DS because I'd had surgery but at the end of the day, they conceded it was my decision.  It seems so strange to me that in the USA you actually pay these people very well to treat you and yet you can't dictate the terms.  It scares me how pregnant women are treated like terminal patients as soon as they walk though a hospital door.

post #89 of 163
Wengrin - so sorry the lines are so discouraging. Still, you're pregnant until proven otherwise. My fingers and toes are crosse for you. <3

TCB - sounds like a very healthy approach. The rollercoaster of TTC is tough enough without needing to also balance the needs of a toddler. Toddler first sounds like a good strategy.

The laws don't prevent VBAC explicitly, but home birth CNMs have to practice with an OB to sign off, and the oversight can be harsh. Plus, whenever they go to the hospital for a transfer - even though homebirth CNMs are legal - they're likely to be treated like shit, and possible persecuted. A CNM here recently went on trial (though I don't know all the details). CPMs are not licensed in MD, so anything with them must be under the table. I can count the number of homebirth CNMs left in MD on my hand. So if my midwives aren't here, there are no homebirth choices, I've done a lot of literature review on VBAC with my specific risk profile and have concluded that I absolutely want an HBAC with my midwives. I'm actually slightly worried though, about putting them at potential risk if we transfer.

(Last time I had an ambulance transfer due to my not calling the midwife soon enough, and my son turning DF breech during labor. I started pushing ought before they arrived and surprise, toes came out.)

Hospital midwives here aren't independent, I think, and are subject to hospital policies. greensad.gif
post #90 of 163
TheCrunchyBrit: That sounds like an excellent plan for you and your little man. I believe that nursing is the very best thing for them until 2 or longer! You're doing the right thing and I admire your strength and determination to carry on until he is ready to begin to wean. You are putting your own wants aside (Baby Fever!!) and letting him take the lead. He will slowly start to nurse less often and when the right time comes, you will get your BFP! Great attitude about it!!

Thanks so much- you obviously know how tough the waiting is, and the pain of it all......having gone through so many miscarriages. You poor thing- you're a trooper! So glad you got the surgery and all is well now! That must have been excruciating to go through that over and over. Glad the doctor found the cause.

RosieL- thank you I appreciate those fingers and toes crossed wink1.gif

We shall see what happens on Tuesday when I get the results of my bloodwork back.

For now I am relaxing and taking care of myself. Hubby has been spending the day with DS and my DD is at her dads until tomorrow. Monday is the first day back to school for her!
post #91 of 163
Wengrin- hugs! How very stressful. Still, I'm celebrating this new life with you right now and hoping, hoping, hoping that your bloodwork comes back with great news.

Thecrunchybrit - you're wise to be so considerate of your DSs needs! He is lucky to have you.

CONGRATS!! To all you pregnant mamas- tantylynn, fishywishy, and anyone else I may have missed. It's going to be a babylicious spring!
post #92 of 163
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From top to bottom is Friday, Sat, Sun. Verdict?
post #93 of 163
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From top to bottom is Friday, Sat, Sun. Verdict?

Positive!!! congrats!!
post #94 of 163
Thanks! What a crazy week for this thread.

Wengrin - fingers and toes still crossed. <3
post #95 of 163
RosieL - I see it!  I see it!!  Congrats!!joy.gif


AndtheStars – I think, at least for me, that night nursing does prevent ovulation.  Ovulation came back after both boys started sleeping through the night on a more regular basis.  With my second DS, I have had several occasions that I only BF’d him twice a day (due to work) but was an all-you-can-eat buffet at night and my ovulation never returned. 

Stretch358 – Wow, that interview process sounds like a nightmare.  I never knew.  Good luck!  Fingers crossed for a BFP for you soon!

Sierramtngirl – booooo AF!! Here's to the next cycle!

TheCruncyBrit – Sounds like a good plan!  I was just thinking the other day how much another pregnancy/kid would affect my other kids.  It’s a different thought process TTC when you already have at least one.

Wengrin – I am so sorry….ugh.  Like tolovemercy said, it’s so stressful.  hug2.gif

  

Thank you all for the “congrats”!  I took a FRER yesterday morning and it was a positive (I will post it after this message, it’s on my phone).  I think I was either 8-9 DPO yesterday.  I am trying not to get too excited, but not be too pessimistic about it.  I have had a chemical pregnancy, blighted ovum (my last first pp egg), and a m/c at 12 weeks before – unfortunately, that has taken the care-free excitement out of a BFP for me…but I am trying to be positive and say affirmations.  *positive thoughts*positive thoughts* om.gif
  


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post #96 of 163
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Yeah, Rosie! If I miraculously get a bfp this month we can be in the same ddc again. Congrats.
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post #97 of 163
I'm so excited for all of you who are pregnant! That is wonderful!

And for all of you who aren't: I think TheCrunchyBrit made a really good point that our nurslings nurse so much because they still need us. I get so angry at my little guy sometimes when he wants to nurse a lot but also asks if I have a baby in my tummy yet (lots of my friends here have had babies recently, so he wants his own). I want to tell him that he is the reason I don't have a baby in my tummy, but obviously that is a bad idea. I have told him that if I get a baby in my tummy, my body will have to save up milk for it so there might not be as much for him. So if I get pregnant and my supply dries up, I hope he isn't too angry.

But sometimes I beat myself up for nursing him so long while I am in dangerous territory for having another one age-wise. It is good to be reminded that it is physically and emotionally healthy to let a child nurse as long as he needs.

That said, he just turned three and he has been moving very slowly towards being weaned. I realized with surprise that he really only nurses 2 times a day, albeit sometimes for more than an hour!

So I suppose we need to all just be patient. Most of all, me. It is hard to be patient when 40 is looming, but plenty of women have healthy babies in their 40s. My grandmother, for one!
post #98 of 163
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Congratulations RosieL and fishywishyjoy.gif I can't believe how much success we've had this month.  Fingers crossed we'll all be in the same boat soon and I would love to keep in touch on the pregnancy boards.

Emom47 - I personally think that all the scare stories about pregnancy in your 40s are BS.  In my opinion, if the mother hasn't yet started her menopause then she clearly has reasonable egg reserves left.  Obviously there's a chance of an 'imperfect' egg slipping through but there is at any age, even 20.  We live longer now, we take better care of ourselves and are much more aware of how we can protect our fertility.  A good friend of mine had her 2nd DD 3 weeks after I had DS.  During her pregnancy she kept saying how worried and upset she was that she would be 40 when the baby was born.  Well she gave birth to a healthy girl and then admitted than on reflection, all her worry about her age had just been her personal hang ups about getting older - it was no different to her last pregnancy.  I'm not saying that we shouldn't take care of ourselves as we age or that we can throw caution to the wind when pregnant but I really don't think 'Advanced Maternal Age' is as big a deal as doctors (who, let's face it, only want our money) make it out to be.

post #99 of 163

Wow!! 2 BFP's since I checked in last. Congratulations RosieL and fishywishy.

 

Wengrin ~ I'm so sorry about your roller coaster of a cycle. I'm still crossing my toes and fingers for you.

 

TheCrunchyBrit ~ I respect your attitude about TTC taking its time when you have a young child. IMO, making space for your baby to get what he needs from you while he needs it is admirable. Once he backs off a bit you'll get your BFP. In our family my older 2 kids self-weaned well past the births of their younger siblings (I didn't night wean either of them before I got pregnant). Once you're baby is ready to share you your body will be ready to provide him with a sibling. Hang in there Mama!
 

AFM ~ I POAS yesterday at 9 DPO. I got a very definite BFN eyesroll.gif. I'm still hopeful that there is a BFP in my future this cycle. I've been having burning, crampy feelings in my uterus off and on for days. Today, 4 days before AF is due, I've had some spotting. Maybe I'll POAS again in the morning. With all these BFPs floating around how can I resist lol.gif?

post #100 of 163

Congratulations RosieL and fishywishy.

 

 

AFM Temp is slowy dropping and I expect AF today or tomorrow, I did not even bother to test again this morning. 

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