With only 3.5 months to go (thanks earthwalker ), I thought we can use a space to talk about and prepare for birth, and the period directly after.
I'm hoping this will be a place for everyone (from planned C-sections to home-births) to talk about their hopes/fears and share ideas how they're preparing physically and emotionally for the event.
I'll start first, I had a long long birth with DD with a lot of back pain, she came out vaginally but at the very end I received Picotin because I was beyond exhausted and my contractions started becoming weak while her heart-rate started decreasing. With her (my first pregnancy) I was naive enough to think that with my determination and will, (and doing everything right), birth will go exactly as planned. So I only prepared for natural birth and skimmed on the rest (big mistake in retrospect). It also took me a long time to accept that I'm not weaker or somehow less. It's so hard not to compare!
So right now I'm collecting some tips on how best to prepare. So far, on my current to-do list:
- Right up a birth-plan (this is not a usual thing here in Germany but I think it'll be useful just for me).
- Work on a calming music playlist. I'm not sure here if calming or motivating should be the focus, or both?
- I'd like to start doing daily squats.
- Cheat-sheet for positions and tips to use during labor. Make DP study it!
- Food! In case I have another long labor. My mistake last time is I didn't eat while laboring and ended up too exhausted. Probably very simple and easy to digest things - I'd like to look more into what's recommended.
- Eat dates starting at 34 weeks http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/21280989
- Working on letting go and realizing I'm not in control of everything. This is very hard to accept. But really sh*t happens and sometimes we can't do anything about it!
- I'm on the lookout for a natural birth book that does not attack the medical community. The thing is, reading those I end up feeling a mixture of angry and guilty for not doing it "right". I really need a neutral non-emotionally-charge book. I'm going to give birth in a hospital and I don't want to go in feeling like I have to fight against someone. I want to go in feeling safe and prepared.
Anyone else thinking about or preparing for birth?