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vent about working while pregnant

post #1 of 23
Thread Starter 

I'm a waitress, and I plan to keep working as long as possible, and then hopefully I won't need to work after the baby is born. But holy crap, the other day I was working, so hungry and thirsty and it was too busy for me to eat/drink/take my break, and I wanted to quit right then and there. I swear, I came extremely close to passing out. I think it'll be easier when I'm visibly pregnant because very few customers will complain about the pregnant woman who stops working to chug water for a couple minutes! I've never worked while pregnant before and it's already harder than I anticipated!

 

thanks for letting me vent :) anyone else care to join me? haha

post #2 of 23

I'm catering but it's sporadic.  I did pretty good at work the other night, but my boss is super cool and is all, "Nobody be a hero, only carry what you can carry," and she staffs adequately so you're never running around frantically.

 

Last pregnancy, I was farming, and my manager was the first person I told because I constantly felt like I was about to pass out.  And my first pregnancy, I was working in a bar and completely miserable because I took every shift I could in an effort to save up as much money as possible.  I'm actually surprised to not feel like I'm about to pass out all the time, but I have also been super good about taking my prenatals and staying hydrated, which I never was before so I wonder if maybe that's helping.  Could also be for no reason.

 

Anyhow, Meko, I hope you get the chance to pace yourself.  Waitressing is hard work!

post #3 of 23

I had a side job working in a coffeeshop my first pregnancy, and I had to quit at about 7 months. Being on my feet that long started to really wear on me, and I got to the point where it felt really bad lifting the trays of dishes into the sanitizer. This time around I have an office job, so while I'm expecting to be tired and a bit distracted, it shouldn't be too tough physically.

post #4 of 23
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Yeah, I never felt like I was going to pass out with my other two pregnancies, because I could sit if I needed, eat/drink if I needed, etc. The problem is the restaurant is so small, with only a few waitresses, and there's no where to really hide to take a moment to drink/eat, especially when there's a line of people out the door. Oh well. I'm glad you ladies understand! 

 

Jen- I'm curious how long I'll last into the pregnancy. 7 months sounds doable but hard. 

post #5 of 23

With my last two pregnancies, I was working in a bagel & coffee place (Cute place! Family owned! I enjoyed it, honestly). I worked early morning hours (4am-8am most days plus weekends- I'd come home at 8 and hubby would leave for work).  

 

With my #3, I worked until 38.5 weeks.  With #4, I quit at 7 months (which was soooo much better, FWIW- it gave me a little time to switch from "survival mode" to "baby mode" and put my feet up a little!).  It was SO HARD.  The steam from the ovens in the summer, the smells (still can't drink hazelnut coffee), the exhaustion of having to get up at 3am and not get a break until the kids went to bed that night... Yeah. Ugh. I hear ya.  Be kind to yourselves, workin' mamas!

post #6 of 23
Thread Starter 
yes, the smells!! I have developed such an aversion to the smell of coffee, which is unfortunate considering I probably make 30+ pots a day haha. I used to like the smell, but the past week or 2 it it revolts me.
post #7 of 23
Thread Starter 

I like where I work too, Erin. I love the people I work with as well as many of the regulars, plus I can walk to work which is amazing. That's why I've been surprised at how much I dislike working there now! I'm hoping 2nd trimester will be better.

post #8 of 23

I do home daycare so I can be with DD, and I've been napping when the kids do (I have a sibling set who nap at the same time my DD does). I'm exhausted, so that 2 hours is such a blessing! 

post #9 of 23
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That's so nice that they all sleep at the same time for you!

post #10 of 23
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Originally Posted by ShyingViolet View Post

I do home daycare so I can be with DD, and I've been napping when the kids do (I have a sibling set who nap at the same time my DD does). I'm exhausted, so that 2 hours is such a blessing! 

That IS nice.  I'm a teensy bit envious.  

post #11 of 23
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I like where I work too, Erin. I love the people I work with as well as many of the regulars, plus I can walk to work which is amazing. That's why I've been surprised at how much I dislike working there now! I'm hoping 2nd trimester will be better.

The regulars are so fun! They were excited for me and seemed to enjoy making predictions and giving advice about the pregnancy. smile.gif  And yes, the smells will get better and the hunger/thirst/nausea issue will (hopefully) be less desperate by the time the 2nd tri rolls around.

post #12 of 23
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That IS nice.  I'm a teensy bit envious.  

Then they all get a stomach bug at the same time and I have three kids under two throwing up! Haha, I'm grateful for my life, but it's a bit of a mixed bag. 

post #13 of 23

Oh my god smells.  Last year I was doing tomato harvest and the smell of the tomato plants in the high tunnels was so awful.  

post #14 of 23
I'm an L&D nurse and I've already been daydreaming about how to get by with minimal income from me lol... Unfortunately to afford our midwife and all the baby stuff I have to work as many hours as I can as long as possible. Last time I was put on mandatory leave at 32 weeks because I kept contracting at work. But I didn't go back, I just went to school instead. I only get 12 weeks leave before my job isn't secure anymore so I have to fight it out to the bitter end... I wish we didn't need my income at all, Blech.
post #15 of 23
I work in Emergency and its exhausting. But I am thankful for mostly good protection at work. We do work short staffed often though which is when I run into trouble. We also have violent patients at work which stresses me out.
post #16 of 23
I'm finding working hard, and I only work in a call center (and a very, very slow one at that right now). I can't imagine doing the physical aspect of most jobs right now! *bows down to you all* November-April we will hopefully get unlimited overtime like last year. I will be taking as many shifts as possible (likely working 57.5 hour weeks, maybe more if I pick up a Saturday shift) this year to save up/prepare for baby. I will get 6 weeks of leave for a vaginal birth at 80% pay, so I want to make enough to have that other 20% saved up. The bright side is at least by then the exhaustion will have subsided and there's a possibility of working from home. Working 60 hour weeks sounds much more doable if I'm in yoga pants and under a quilt!
post #17 of 23
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Originally Posted by cyclamen View Post

 

Last pregnancy, I was farming, and my manager was the first person I told because I constantly felt like I was about to pass out.  And my first pregnancy, I was working in a bar and completely miserable because I took every shift I could in an effort to save up as much money as possible.  I'm actually surprised to not feel like I'm about to pass out all the time, but I have also been super good about taking my prenatals and staying hydrated, which I never was before so I wonder if maybe that's helping.  Could also be for no reason.

 

 

 

I am also working at a farm-- and my sudden insane desire to not got to work was my first pregnancy sign. I work 10+ hour days in the the hot sun, often doing repetitive tasks. Its only part time-- but I am finding it unbearably exhausting. My boss was one of the first people I told too. She's been incredibly supportive and understanding... however I still feel bad. Its bad timing on my part.. by the time my first trimester is over, she'll be in the downswing of the season. I find I am no longer capable of such physical labor.. but I don't want to lose my job. I switched to afternoon work (shorter days) to avoid what has thus been the worst part of my days: mornings. I would love any tips you have clycamen for getting thru long farm days... I've been staying close to home to be able to eat every few hours and am nervous about returning to work next week. 

post #18 of 23

It sounds like you are doing all you can, pack a ton of food, eat often, stay hydrated. Take as many breaks as you can.  Do you already wear a hat?  Wear a bigger one, lol!  Drink lots and lots of water.  Try unisom and b6 for nausea or get some zofran.  I went really slow and sometimes I would cry.  I asked to mostly do picking and washing (washing was great, I did it in the barn, and had my hands in water) instead of anything that was more labor intensive, like forking or de-stoning.  Being out in the sun like that is really, really hard sometimes.  You have to take care of yourself.  How big of a farm is it, do they have easier tasks that you can do?

post #19 of 23
Had my first day back this week... It went pretty well. However half a day is as exhausting pregnant as a full day was before being pregnant:) and for half the money. Somehow thinking of you crying thru your work chores makes me feel a little better... Just knowing that the first trimester can be so hard for other people too makes me feel less alone and crazy;)

How are other folks doing at work?!
post #20 of 23
Work is going fine. I'm thankfully not feeling like HG is creeping in like I had been feeling. Still nauseous once in a while, but not nearly as bad! I'm exhausted most days and spend a lot of the time with my head on my desk. One coworker knows, and I think many of my work "friends" suspect, but oh well. I'm not confirming anything yet. I'm 6w2d today, and keep reminding myself I've got 2 more months before the second trimester hits. I'm not sure how easy it'll be to make it through until then.
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